To ask what age you think a woman can be the most attractive

[Moonunderriver]

I look at some mature women and think omg you are so glamorous, its as if once you reach your 40's you become somewhat invisible? is this true?

I find older women have much more character, self esteem etc. I am 33 by the way and I like how I look the older I am getting.

Leaving aside who "they" are, if I accept your premise, men are only interested in overtly sexually attractive young women? Well, d'uh. If they're presented with pictures out of context and asked to rank in some way, that's what I'd expect. But personally, even if I felt a 21 yr old was all that, having 2 daughters of that age would make it feel too weird to feel that in reality. I connect better with older women, including my DW! So context is important and men are not all shallow. Some are, obvs!

As a man in his 50s...I'd say any age. There was a lady in spoons earlier who I would say was mid 70s. Well dressed, refined, hair style that suited, nice make up, nails, good shoes.
Then a young woman in her early 20s, sportily dressed, nice hair, not stupid eyebrows or lips. I found both of them attractive and lovely.
As someone who has only recently seemingly become attractive to the opposite sex...it's because I now dress for myself and always want to be the best dressed man in the room. If you present yourself with confidence and clearly have self esteem and confidence, others will find you attractive

What do you mean by 'attractive'? Attractive to whom? For what purpose? If you mean sexually attractive to men, that's one thing. If you mean in the sense that you as a woman want to be in their company, want to be their friend, even aspire to be like them, then that's another.

What studies were those? I get more attention now than when I was 20, that's for sure. I am forty now. I now dress much better and I think look better overall, plus am more confident.

Your post is incoherent!

Yuck. 50 year olds shouldn't be finding 20yr old women attractive.

I think I was my most attractive between 37 and 47.

But with Kate Moss I think it's less to do with being thin and more to do with a lifetime of drinking, smoking and sun damage

That is possibly the case as well. I don't think being bone thin suits many people at any age (I don't mean slim, I mean emaciated) but Kate did look a LOT better when she started out: more for her face than her body, which was nothing special.

@tryingtohelp82

Yuck. 50 year olds shouldn't be finding 20yr old women attractive.
But you're ok with them finding women in their 70s attractive. Why so?

As a straight man approaching middle age, I'd say that in terms of how the male brain has evolved over human history, it is inevitable that perceived fertility of potential partners plays a role in determining attractiveness. It's no surprise therefore that potential partners aged (say) in their twenties are immediately appealing.

But, believe it or not, some (most?) men have the capacity to think beyond the initial physical attraction and then other factors become relevant: e.g., visual indicators of personality, intelligence, interests, social status, level of affluence. These will vary more from person to person, but typically might peak later in life once a person has gained confidence, developed a way of presenting themselves that projects their personality, etc.

It’s all cultural brainwashing. Society “decides” what attractive looks like. Wish it wasn’t this way.

Oh my god get a grip. Of course 20 year old women are attractive, I'm a 35 year old women and find them attractive. You can't ban men from finding women attractive because you don't like it or are insecure. Whats the cut off point? 6 years, 10? His behaviour and how appropriately he conducts himself around women are what counts. Attraction is normal, but a person's actions are what dictate if they are a creep or not and how the other party feels/reciprocation of attraction. You aren't the thought police he can fancy whoever he likes. He didn't say anything to indicate he behaved inappropriately.

55

Definitely between 29-35 I think most women are at their peak.

Apparently a surgeon once said that women are at their most attractive at around 35
I’m 48 and still think I look good, very little sagging or wrinkles and roughly the same weight I was 10/15 years ago…. Kind of expecting it to go down hill in the next few years though with menopause etc but will have to see, had my first go at fillers in my nasolabial folds a couple of weeks ago (only a small bit) and happy with the results, definitely more work needs to be put in as we get older but I will battle on, I think some women just give up around 50 though and stop looking after their appearance so that obviously makes them look old

I'm in my 50s and think I look better than I ever did. I think I've grown into my angular face and feel fit and confident.

I found them attractive, I didn't say I wanted a relationship with either of them. I think Matt Dillon, brad Pitt and Mark harman are very attractive men. I don't want to sleep with them. I was talking aesthetically. I no longer find myself physically attracted women below 45, and when I do talk to younger women I find the lack of points of reference a pain and would mean I could never have a relationship with them as it would be too frustrating...ie I said to a nurse in a care home that I can't watch a lassie film without ending up in floods of tears she looked blank so I amended it to Forrest Gump and she got the reference.

I have always noticed beautiful older women. Even when I was in my teen years. Sometimes it’s something as simple as a lipstick or a nice cardigan. Sometimes a lifetime of kindness shows on their face.

I’m 52 and have definitely never felt ‘invisible’.

I would think 27 to 33 if you don't have kids or are the type that physically bounces back quickly. These years for me were severely sleep deprived baby years and I was so swollen and bloated during pregnancy. I lost a lot of weight in my late 30s so that was probably my peak. Personally I think the only people, male and female, who look attractive over 55 are those that were bloody gorgeous when they were 30 and are a slightly less attractive version of themselves.

Is 61kg at 5'5 too thin in late 30s? I'm getting worried after reading about weight as you get older!
I'm a pear shape too, so curvier bottom half, tiny waist, athletic top. I have faint laughter lines, and have noticed a little ageing for the first time ever. i have been under a great deal of stress, though. I'm praying a summer holiday and a lot of a rest will help. 😭I've always looked young for my age, but I don't think I do anymore! Sorry, I probably should have started my own thread!!

This with bells on

20~30

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Each individual will peak at a different age. Some older some younger.
On a societal level I heard someone say a 20year old 7 is always more attractive than a 40year old 10.