Neighbour using my drop kerb!

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A new family have moved in next door - not attached we are a row of two semi's each and so on..
I have a driveway and a dropped kerb. So it goes my drive, pavement and then the dropped kerb.

My next door neighbours have a make shift drive (from previous tenants) but NO dropped kerb, it doesn't help that their neighbours have 4 cars and two permanently parked outside their garden so the new neighbours have nowhere to park except down the road because of it but again not my problem!

They have started driving over my drop kerb to park in the make shift drive, I have started parking on my dropped kerb to make a point of it and I did block them in, to which the woman politely asked if I could move my car so she could reverse out, I told her I don't appreciate her using the kerb to park in, to which she replied that she is going to be getting the curb outside hers dropped but it will take a while due to getting planning permission etc and it's hard to walk down the road with 3 kids and a newborn so it's just been more convenient, but she won't do it again if it bothers me.

Tbh she hasn't had a chance to park there again as I have started parking in front of my drive, on my dropped kerb but my sister has said I'm being petty for no reason and making her life harder and it's not a big deal! And it's really irked me because now I don't know if I'm being unreasonable or not!

Why would you though? Your neighbour sounds nice. Why would you want to make someone life more difficult, especially as she's got 3 children. She's arranging her own dropped kerb. it's not as if she thinks using yours is a long-term solution. I'm glad you're not my neighbour, to be honest. Thankfully, mine is nice. She feeds my cats when we go away, and we exchange pleasant conversations when we see each other. Your sister is right. You do come across as petty.

You sound like a bit of a dick. Let's hope you never have to ask your neighbours for a favour, I can't imagine they'll be falling over themselves to help you.

@GwinGwyn I've learnt I'm actually being the entitled one. I need to get a hobby it seems

An AIBU writer admitting they're BU

How wholesome!

Three kids and a newborn and a neighbour who's an entitled kerb hogger. I hope if you ever need a favour from her she laughs in your face.

Reading this in Australia, I'm totally puzzled. Are driveways in Britain not automatically built with a dropped kerb to the road? Does this one cross a pavement? Is this problem because the road predates cars?

And what I'm most curious about - are you blocking pedestrians when you park across the kerb, OP?

Do you really want to be arsed by this!!!

Why??

I couldn't even notice this never mind go out of my way to make life difficult and be rude to anyone. Never mind a new neighbour who seems polite and has young kids that would make parking more difficult

Have a word OP

How curious that you have suddenly forgotten how to spell kerb.
it’s almost like your trying to be goady.

Amazes me how many people fall for this sort of shit!

Hobbies are good! Never too late to get involved with something new and rewarding! Good for you for taking it on the chin if you are genuine, and I will give you the benefit of that doubt. Fair play. Now let her use your dropped kerb with no fuss, m’kay?!

Well you are being very unreasonable for not posting a diagram. And you are mean spirited and petty.
Where I work the neighbours extended their dropped kerb so I now use it to turn round because I don't like them and it winds them up when I reverse right up to their cars. I don't like them because I work as a carer and they are chatty to everyone around except to there neighbour with Nd. So I like to wind them up. Your neighbour may well start doing things purposefully to wind you up. Poor woman with a newborn in tow as well.

Where does it say residents dropped kerb? It says kerbs lowered to help wheelchair uses which is typically at the end of a pavement or a crossing.

A resident dropped kerb is a kerb lowered to allow access to drive across onto the driveway it's not lowered specifically for wheelchair users.

You can easily find plenty of information on Google and on council sites saying you can park across the dropped kerb if it's for access to your driveway.

"But I paid to have the kerb dropped?"

You paid for the service of having the kerb dropped for your own convenience.

You didn't buy the kerb.

The bloody entitlement. It's incredible.

• in front of an entrance to a property

Not hard is it? The dropped kerb is at the entrance to OP’s property - the Highway Code doesn’t have a caveat that says: Unless you live there but then it’s fine.

Don’t know what your council is but mine follows the Highway Code. Feels like you’re trying to justify some kind of behaviour rather than literally looking at what the law says.

And if it's your own property as I keep saying it's not illegal

@Amberjane41 I'm not making anything up, this is genuinely how I felt, my sister was the one who told me to post on mumsnet so I did a name change and posted. Sometimes it's helpful for other people to actually give you a kick up the backside!

You sound like my idiot neighbour. Has dropped their kerb further by one kerbstone. But think they now own the pavement in front too as they paid to have kerb dropped, numerous family members therefore park their cars on the pavement in front leaving no room for anyone to pass on the council owned pavement.

Then proceeds to stare should I dare use a tiny section occasionally angling into my driveway - shared central driveway

People really are dense

• in front of an entrance to a property

It's right there

You know how to live OP..

I thought my life was dull, but you have enough time to be this petty AND publicly announce it and then subsequently defend it!

Batshittery at its finest!

I think your neighbour would be better off speaking to her neighbour about the teen cars preventing her parking outside her own home (and no she doesn’t own the road) but they are causing her issue more that’s OP is!

Teens can walk miles so it won’t hurt them.

I see a diagram was added later. Still unreasonable for not doing it in the first post.

So is she going up your dropped kerb to get into her driveway? If so I can't see the big deal there's cars blocking up where her "dropped kerb would be so until she's got round to getting it done surely just let her use your dropped kerb to get into hers?

Fair enough! Tbh I only read your first post

And if it's your own property it's perfectly okay and legal!!!!

Here is what my council in Ealing has on their website

Your family and visitors to your property can park in front of the dropped kerb outside your property with your permission.

The point about parking across a dropped kerb being illegal is if your blocking the resident in. But if are the resident than what you are only blocking yourself in....like duhhhhhhh