People not showing pride in their homes

[Auburngal]

Talking about those who leave the front of their homes (owned) in a state.

For example there’s a house down my parents road who has an old fridge freezer on their driveway for 5 years! Don’t understand why people spend several hundred quid on white goods don’t buy them from a retailer who takes the old one for free or for £10. I paid the retailer £10 to take my old washer away and to recycle it accordingly.

Then there’s a house opposite me who had their bathroom replaced and left the old loo and other bits outside the home for several months. A decent bathroom fitter would take the old stuff away as part of the package.

Then another family down my parents road have old children’s toys in their garden- play house, sand pit etc. The kids are too old for these toys now.

Then are properties with hedges on the road and used as a ‘bin’. Unless the owners have mobility issues - then there’s no excuse to remove the rubbish from the hedge.

People spend hundreds of thousands of pounds on their homes but I hate it when they show no care.

People need to show pride.

I am a member of a community litter picking group.

We live in a terraced house in London and ours and maybe 2 other (out of 20) have nicely decorated and maintained front of our houses - most of the houses are rented and are a complete mess in various states of disrepair or with loads of crap outside and it’s so annoying because it makes the street and area look like a shithole. It’s frustrating as they don’t care at all

from an early age my parents and grandparents pointed out the need to take pride in ones self/home and property.

i was tiny when my mom would point out curtains that were ripped, paint peeling or unkempt yards. both my grandparents (both single moms btw) would tell me how it doesn't cost a thing to be clean and tidy they taught me many life hacks along the way, everything from making my own toothpaste, glue, curtains and laundry soap!
subsequently i have almost zero tolerance for messy homes and yards.
fortunately i have been able to afford to live in neighborhoods with neighbors who maintain their homes.

Do what you want on your own property on your back garden. Its not nice for your neighbours if your front garden resembles a skip. Have some pride.

I don't mind the odd swear word.

Funny how people are okay just dumping it on their front gsrden why not just leave it in your house, oh fhays right yo using have room or you don't want to live in a pigsty but happy to make the environment around one one big rubbish tip.

There are very few valid reasons.
Most is just down to laziness.

No wonder we see pictures of rubbish dumped on beaches every yr in parks. If you csnt even have respect for your own space why there be any respect for public spaces.

Shameful, I really wish we had laws like they do in countries like Singapore.

Much rather walk through nice clean spaces than run down streets navigating rubbish.

I don’t think my front garden, is something I’ve ever felt was anything to be proud of or ashamed of it’s just not part of my self esteem. Surely you do what you want anywhere on your own property because it’s yours?

except @TomeTome visually your property affects others. your property can negatively effect a neighbors property value and ability to sell.
it is 100% a reflection of you as a person. you may think you can do what you want but many communities have "nuisance bylaws" for people who do not realize that a messy exterior is problematic for vermin and slow general degradation of the neighborhood.

Rubbish that attracts rats is very different to objects your neighbours “don’t like the look of”. If you buy a house with restrictions on what you can do on the property of course you should comply with them, but that’s not what we were talking about. I have no problem with people using their gardens as they please. If you are less tolerant that’s up to you.

you don't need rubbish to attract rats, uncut grass, dense shrubs and leaves allowed to amass in shady corners and organic/garbage bins left out.

I paid £300 odd for a new washing machine last year from a well known retailer. I paid them a bit extra to dispose of the old one for me.

Saved me the hassle of getting rid myself. What’s an extra £20 when you’re already paying hundreds for a new one ?

We’re supposed to be thinking of the environment. For a start fridges contain greenhouse gases. Not to mention how awful it looks.

If my house wouldn’t sell because my neighbours front garden looked like a junk yards I’d be mighty pissed off with them.

says a lot about a person when they CBA to tidy up.

i have 2 rental properties and they are responsible for the upkeep of the garden etc. Its full of weeds, dirty etc. Luckily fir them, i pay an agent to inform them or i wouldn’t be so nice.

zero respect for themselves and properties.

hope you're providing garden tools and somewhere safe to store them. I just loved the "furnished' rentals we took where we were responsible for garden upkeep but there was no mower, and no shed to put one in if we had bought one.

It's only the front garden, doesn't reflect on me, it's only clothes, who cares what I look like, it's only hair, who does it affect if I don't wash it etc mostly said bu lazy people.

Genuine medical issues aside,

if you managed to get it into your house and get it out, you can manage/arrange to get it disposed of or have it in the back garden until such a time.

Some people are 'proud' to be lazy but it's usually selective.

The work-shy who have all the energy to go shopping/on holiday but can't possibly be expected to turn up for work.

Can't be on screen but always on social media.

Don't shower every morning but when it's meeting a new partner/girls night out, always done up to the nines.

Can't get rid of stuff but no issues accumulating it.

It's lack of self respect that those in that hole don't realise how far down it they are.

If you lived in a place like Singapore as mentioned or where bylaws or culture dictate it unacceptable, if it attracted venim or blocked your path, you'd find a way.

A lot to be said for people who are quick to spout out the classic Little Britain
"I don't care"

Always an excuse.

@Treesandsheepeverywhere I think it’s more that they have different priorities than you and you’ve decided yours are right and anyone else’s are wrong.

@Treesandsheepeverywhere what are you defining as a genuine medical issue and how do you know whether someone has what you define as a genuine medical issue from looking at their front garden or appearance?

Yeah their priority is to have a clean home cos they wouldn't live amongst the rubbish themselves would they but happily dump it outside

Some people are just real grot bags.

I think it’s more like some people wear makeup, or shave their legs, or do their hair in a particular way and think that they would be “letting themselves down” if they left the house barefaced etc, and some people think clean and dressed is enough while others will happily go to the supermarket in pyjamas. If someone is actively smelly or wearing bondage gear I’d be uncomfortable but otherwise I can’t see it’s a problem.

Well wearing or not wearing makeup is entirely personal. It is incidental to everyone around you. But leaving all your shit on the front lawn diminished the work of those around you who are trying to keep the place neat and tidy, rat free and welcoming.

I think the rats issue is different but how it looks is no more your business than makeup. If it tipped into obscene (eg posed mannequins) it would be different but otherwise it’s not your circus.

@TomeTome so does your garden have litter and white goods on it?

It becomes your circus when you make someone's environment untidy. But clearly we have a difference of opinion. I wonder if it's one your neighbours are paying for?

I think a better analogy than your makeup example is if someone smells badly. The issue is of personal hygiene but the stink isn't confined to the person, it corrupts the air around them and other people are forced to 'tolerate' it, helpless to change it.

I wouldn't want to walk out of my home each day to see my neighbour treating the place like shit, any more than I'd want to share an office with a body odour bomb.

My council has a report eyesore gardens section. They will write to occupant to remove item(s) ASAP if not actioned they remove it and send the occupant the bill. Works quite well although not very quick

Good idea. I wish ours did. I also wish councils in general had more services to help people who are unable to do the work themselves.

It is not a good analogy. You don't have to look at someone else's garden. I do pity these people who are so fragile they can't set eyes on something that they deem aesthetically non-pleasing without needing the smelling salts. Rats etc are a different matter.

As an aside if someone in your office does stink I hope you deal with that by telling them in a compassionate way. I'd rather share an office with someone who stank than someone who was a bitch about it. That kind of attitude is extremely unpleasant to share space with.