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People not showing pride in their homes

641 replies

Auburngal · 12/03/2024 11:28

Talking about those who leave the front of their homes (owned) in a state.

For example there’s a house down my parents road who has an old fridge freezer on their driveway for 5 years! Don’t understand why people spend several hundred quid on white goods don’t buy them from a retailer who takes the old one for free or for £10. I paid the retailer £10 to take my old washer away and to recycle it accordingly.

Then there’s a house opposite me who had their bathroom replaced and left the old loo and other bits outside the home for several months. A decent bathroom fitter would take the old stuff away as part of the package.

Then another family down my parents road have old children’s toys in their garden- play house, sand pit etc. The kids are too old for these toys now.

Then are properties with hedges on the road and used as a ‘bin’. Unless the owners have mobility issues - then there’s no excuse to remove the rubbish from the hedge.

People spend hundreds of thousands of pounds on their homes but I hate it when they show no care.

People need to show pride.

I am a member of a community litter picking group.

OP posts:
Notchangingnameagain · 14/03/2024 13:00

@ZingyShaker Contact your bill collection provider. They have a vulnerable person service. They collect your bins for you so you don't have to put them out.

Notchangingnameagain · 14/03/2024 13:03

Also, @ZingyShaker you can request more bins depending on your household. We have 2 x recycling for example, as there are 5 of us in the household.

ZingyShaker · 14/03/2024 13:13

Notchangingnameagain · 14/03/2024 13:00

@ZingyShaker Contact your bill collection provider. They have a vulnerable person service. They collect your bins for you so you don't have to put them out.

Did that and they wouldn't leave them round the back. Hence my neighbour taking my bins out and in for me.

maddiemookins16mum · 14/03/2024 13:19

justaboutdonenow · 14/03/2024 12:09

Good for you, I doubt anyone but you & maybe a few other ableist snobs give a tin shit about your tidy garden.

I can confirm that anyone wanting to sell their house in my street will give a tiny shit.

Seymour5 · 14/03/2024 13:29

ZingyShaker · 14/03/2024 12:04

As I've repeatedly said, a half flat spacehopper and a kids tractor.

(as well as some empty cans of red bull and sweet wrappers which I will ask the cleaner to lift next week, or if the gardener comes first, I'll get him to lift.)

I think its appalling you’re left with other people’s rubbish. Won’t a deflated spacehopper fit in the bin? Perhaps your gardener can break the tractor up and bin it.

BeachBeerBbq · 14/03/2024 13:30

Wouldn't it be actually abelist to assume all messy properties with appliances, furniture etc outside are occupied by people with disabilities?...
Just asking because the accusations of abelism sound like that's what people here want others to assume.

BeachBeerBbq · 14/03/2024 13:32

Just to add I have full sympathy with victims of mess. I spent years picking up kids' snack wrappers, empty plastic bottles, tissues etc from my front yard because many parents in that primary school, and many other adults are useless in teaching basics to their kids like "rubbish goes in a bin".

ZingyShaker · 14/03/2024 13:33

Seymour5 · 14/03/2024 13:29

I think its appalling you’re left with other people’s rubbish. Won’t a deflated spacehopper fit in the bin? Perhaps your gardener can break the tractor up and bin it.

It's half deflated, not fully and as I've explained already I'm worried about binning them and breaking them up and having someone land to my door wanting them back

Seymour5 · 14/03/2024 13:34

ZingyShaker · 14/03/2024 13:33

It's half deflated, not fully and as I've explained already I'm worried about binning them and breaking them up and having someone land to my door wanting them back

Ask your daughter or the gardener to move them out of your garden, then report them on FixMyStreet?

ZingyShaker · 14/03/2024 13:35

BeachBeerBbq · 14/03/2024 13:32

Just to add I have full sympathy with victims of mess. I spent years picking up kids' snack wrappers, empty plastic bottles, tissues etc from my front yard because many parents in that primary school, and many other adults are useless in teaching basics to their kids like "rubbish goes in a bin".

I can't pick mine up. The cleaner doesn't feel it's her job (fair) and the gardener hasn't started yet - once he does, the plastic bottles, empty cans, crisp packets, etc get lifted by him every other week when he cuts the grass.

We aren't allowed a fence and the garden opens to the pavement. When I was better at myself I did used to keep it clean.

ZingyShaker · 14/03/2024 13:37

Seymour5 · 14/03/2024 13:34

Ask your daughter or the gardener to move them out of your garden, then report them on FixMyStreet?

Where out of my garden would they be moving them to?

Seymour5 · 14/03/2024 13:39

On the footpath, anywhere away from your home.

ZingyShaker · 14/03/2024 13:42

Seymour5 · 14/03/2024 13:39

On the footpath, anywhere away from your home.

So you're saying I should effectively fly tip and that's ok?

Interesting.

Sulley2222 · 14/03/2024 14:38

I agree. It's not nice to have to look at and in my view it's good to consider neighbours.
I'm living on the poverty line so i'm not talking as someone who believes they are above anyone else.
If I ever accumulated these kinds of things (and I have in the past) I either hid them away in a garden shed until I could arrange/afford disposal, broke them doen into peices that could gradually be disposed of in household waste, left out for local 'scrap man' if there was anything they would take, or took what I could tp the local disposal/recycling centre.
Council costs are definately prohibitive; so I had to get inventive!

Josette77 · 14/03/2024 16:24

ZingyShaker · 14/03/2024 13:33

It's half deflated, not fully and as I've explained already I'm worried about binning them and breaking them up and having someone land to my door wanting them back

Given someone dumped them on your lawn and they haven't picked them up I wouldn't worry about them coming back for them.

And even if they did that's their problem.

WearyAuldWumman · 14/03/2024 16:45

Auburngal · 14/03/2024 12:42

My council currently does weekly collections for both general rubbish and recycling.

Later this year we will be having alternative collections fortnightly.

Problem is that our general bins are 140 litres. If there are more than 3 of you at home, you are going to struggle with putting 2 weeks of rubbish into a 140 litre bin. Our recycling bins are the standard 240 litre ones. I have expressed my concerns that this will cause fly tipping and attract vermin.

Yes my CT has increased by 4.7%!

In my area we've had 4 bins for some time now. (Very difficult to store discreetly.)

Plastics bin is emptied once a month; card/paper bin is emptied once a month; brown [garden/food waste] is emptied twice a month for part of the year; once a month part of the year; landfill (reduced in size unless you can prove a medical need) twice a month.

A couple of my neighbours have taken to stealing other people's bins. (Yes, they've been reported.)

Zoomattheinn · 14/03/2024 16:50

Just back from a month in Australia. Staying mainly in Sydney and Byron Bay. Rubbish was virtually non-existent and people were looking after themselves, the environment and their neighbourhoods. I know Australia has its issues too and we were mainly in great areas but comparing the city to the equivalent in the UK made me realise we really have allowed a lot of things to slip in the UK. Lots of virtue signalling and excuses made here. But a much more positive attitude over there. I think we are living on a reputation that is no longer justified in the UK.

Auburngal · 14/03/2024 17:14

BeachBeerBbq · 14/03/2024 13:32

Just to add I have full sympathy with victims of mess. I spent years picking up kids' snack wrappers, empty plastic bottles, tissues etc from my front yard because many parents in that primary school, and many other adults are useless in teaching basics to their kids like "rubbish goes in a bin".

People need to understand the outside isn't one great big bin. When finished a bottle of water when driving, or as a passenger, you leave it in your car until you get to your final destination or stopping on route somewhere - filling up with fuel, shopping etc. NOT winding down the window and toss it out.

As when I do litter picking down A roads, by passes etc - see lots of tossed bottles, snack packaging, McDs bags etc,

More worrying, empty bottles and cans of alcohol. Most are Polish and in Poland they have a zero tolerance to drink n driving...

OP posts:
yourenottgebossoofme · 14/03/2024 17:25

BeachBeerBbq · 14/03/2024 13:30

Wouldn't it be actually abelist to assume all messy properties with appliances, furniture etc outside are occupied by people with disabilities?...
Just asking because the accusations of abelism sound like that's what people here want others to assume.

It isn’t that- it’s the millions of posts saying “there is no excuse”, “anyone can do X, they are just lazy”, “just do xyz heavy job yourself, it’s not difficult” etc etc

Josette77 · 14/03/2024 17:28

Can you point out these millions of posts?

I didn't notice them.

Seymour5 · 14/03/2024 17:29

ZingyShaker · 14/03/2024 13:42

So you're saying I should effectively fly tip and that's ok?

Interesting.

I’d just bin them, but you said you don’t want to, so you could put them just outside your garden, with a label on them ‘lost, please return to owner. If not removed in 7 days, will be disposed of.’

yourenottgebossoofme · 14/03/2024 17:32

Josette77 · 14/03/2024 17:28

Can you point out these millions of posts?

I didn't notice them.

Go back and look at them.

Jeannie88 · 14/03/2024 17:50

Yes there are people who are lazy and just cba or don't care about their fronts. I know some, they really have no issues with looking like a garden from shameless. I'm talking about able bodied, young couples with kids. Then there are those who genuinely struggle, not physically or mentally capable of keeping it tidy, not all have carers or family to help. So it's a mixed bag, you need to know the background and those who take no pride do let the reputation of the area down.

Jeannie88 · 14/03/2024 17:55

Skip, leave out for rag and bone or take to tip are options, also £20 for council to take away 3 large items. Doable but then again depends on individual circumstances.

There used to be skips placed around estates which helped to keep down excess rubbish, haven't seen one in years! Good idea that should be brought back.

yourenottgebossoofme · 14/03/2024 18:13

Jeannie88 · 14/03/2024 17:55

Skip, leave out for rag and bone or take to tip are options, also £20 for council to take away 3 large items. Doable but then again depends on individual circumstances.

There used to be skips placed around estates which helped to keep down excess rubbish, haven't seen one in years! Good idea that should be brought back.

Skips cost money

There isn’t a rag and bone man

you need a car to take things to the tip

the council charges a lot more than £20 to remove stuff