To be upset at being called milk machine

[PeachShark]

MIL has referred to me as milk machine twice.
On one hand she generally has no filter and this could be just seen as her odd sense of humour.
On the other hand she doesn’t like me taking DS when he is due a feed and will try to comfort him herself - ignore me when I say he’s due a feed or tell me to give him a minute - then when I come to take him says “where’s the milk machine, milk machine he wants milk” feels to me as if she doesn’t want to acknowledge that maybe DS wants his mummy and I am more than just a bloody milk bottle to my child?

Do you reckon it’s loaded? Or am I reading too much into an innocent but not so nice joke…

I think this too!
She can get lost then

I've never understand this thing of letting a baby scream and scream and trying to comfort it by ways other than feeding and then failing because all the baby wants is to is feed.

I think it's stemmed in jealousy because you are the only one who can pacify your DS at that time and no amount of shushing or rocking or singing will do the trick. And as a woman who breastfed her own DCs, she knows that in her heart of hearts.

I wouldn't make a big deal if she's otherwise a good grandma/MIL but I don't think you'd be wrong to call her out gently or get your DH to tell her to wind her neck in.

Of course on MN, there are many bitter people who don't speak to their own relatives so will try and encourage you to go NC or kick off big style.

He wasn’t there when it was said but I told him and he thought it was just her being her usual outrageous self and that she was joking - he didn’t think there was much thought behind the comment.

I absolutely think it’s stemmed in jealousy.

Calling her out on things gently doesn’t work in her case, she gets very defensive with any form of feedback for anything!

But also kicking off would just cause massive falling outs I just don’t think it’s worth it 😔

Did people not believe you? 😂 please tell me things improved after the first year.
I am hoping when DHs brother has a baby we’ll be left in peace. They massively favour BIL and his DW which is annoying but maybe it’ll be an absolute blessing if it gets them off our backs 😅

Thanks for all the responses, perspectives, opinions, advice. I have read each one.
I actually felt weirdly emotional reading some as I feel a lot of what I’ve had to put up with is out of order, and it’s been really validating to hear others agree and acknowledge that yes in fact this behaviour is rude and it’s not just me being paranoid.

As for standing up to MIL that is something I’m going to have to work on. I want to be able to defend myself but I don’t want a massive confrontation or cause a family feud so I have to tread carefully. The milk machine comment is the tip of the iceberg really, there has been much more said and done (all “just a joke of course” 😒) so it’s just building up all the time.

She's jealous of your baby wanting and needing you. She can't bottle feed and she doesn't like it!!

She's saying it as an unkind comment as in he only wants you for food nothing else.

Please enjoy feeding your baby for hours whilst in her presence 😊

The milk machine comment is the tip of the iceberg really, there has been much more said and done (all “just a joke of course” 😒) so it’s just building up all the time.

She's going to continue to be a sniping, pass-agg pain in your arse and everything you do will be wrong somehow until your DH supports you with putting boundaries in. I'd have a firm chat with him about her long form on putting you down.