Would you find it weird if someone married did this

[Happyjess]

I’m a single parent. DC in reception and I am friends with a school dad since September. He said we should swap numbers. I said sounds good. He wanted to take mine down.

I spoke to my friend about it and she said that’s really weird and I shouldn’t do that with someone married. Who is being unreasonable ??

Sorry I'll add context - I'd feel this way about any random mum he swapped numbers with. He's never swapped numbers with any parent so it'd just be odd. I know all the mums in my kids' classes so it would be someone other than a mum from a kid in their class - to which I'd just think - why? It would be so random for either of us to do that - all the numbers we need are in a WhatsApp group.

Not strange at all. I used to go for coffee with a "playgroup Dad" - literally was just coffee and a chat

My friend househusband has no mum mates,they all ignore him at school
He is friends with some dads

Of course it’s fine.

Yes, they’re friends but there’s been no talk of them having a play date outside of school

He hasn’t said anything about my appearance. He’s very friendly though. I’ve been through a bereavement which he knows about as he knew I was attending a funeral. He said anything he can do let him know and then winked. But more like a friendly wink iyswim. Like he’s there for me? But then again I’ve only known him since September

We arnt in any WhatsApp groups or anything like that

I will add as well, there is ten year age gap. He did mention I was a ‘baby’ compared to him. Not sure if that makes any difference.

Our sons get on well together but they’ve never met up outside of school

Sounds like he's stirred up your butterflies OP. From what you're saying, I wouldn't exchange numbers.

So, you were there.none of us were.Whats your vibe?Create a WhatsApp addy Give him that so he doesn’t have your actual number.if he gets too flirty and all hey babey let’s watch love island you block him

I dont think I’ve heard that saying before, what do you mean?

Im guessing he knows you’re single OP?

If you've only known him since September, I'm intrigued as to how you know each other's ages?

How did that convo come about?

I've never heard it before either but I'm pretty sure it means he gives her butterflies...you know like in the stomach when you fancy someone?

I'm a single parent and I wouldn't swap numbers with a married dad unless our kids were friends and it was to arrange a play date. You're playing with fire OP.

I think he originally wondered if I was from the area as he said he hadn’t seen me around before our DSs started school. (Small village).And then for some reason he was curious how old I was. I think he just wondered if I knew anyone that he knew or if we were similar age/attended school at the same time. But I’m late 20s and he’s late 30s

Look, less waffle. Cut to it. Are you giving the man who called you baby your number or not?

I only exchanged numbers when a play date was planned so I do think this could be a bit odd.

My children’s dad would often give my number if he was doing pick up but one of the mums wanted a number for a play date, probably to stop this sort of issue arising.

If I felt a dad was a bit inappropriate (there were two that were), I made sure I got their partners number as well and texted the mum where possible. I didn’t want any gossip at my children’s school which could impact them, and people do gossip!

Because Kevin is a SAHD while his wife works, so he does all the school run stuff etc and his friends are the school mums. He has never shown any inclination that he fancies them.

Meet up with him and his wife for coffee/tea, and the kids can play.

For some reason he was curious.....And he’s got you thinking about what his little wink meant ....and you think he’s there for you🙄

Come on OP, this is starting to sound dodgy and you know it, that’s why you’ve posted. He’s got you interested, chatting to your friend about it, posting on here.

Keep your distance, this has the potential to blow up your life and mess your child’s schooling up.

He said she was a baby compared to him (age wise). He didn’t call her baby

Not weird at all.

I recently exchanged numbers with a dad I talk to at the school gates, at his suggestion. We gravitated towards each other due to both being autistic, something we both recognised in each other from a mile off - conversation flows and I like the fact we can be real with each other and not bother with the small talk.

There's no flirtatiousness whatsoever - I'm in a happy, solid marriage and so is he. If I sensed a hint of flirtation from him I wouldn't encourage the friendship.

I can't be dealing with over friendly men so I wouldn't. If our boys were good friends I would take his and set the tone for messages, only replying to play date related ones.

I have a few dad's numbers, I'm a lot more clear cut and less friendly when I message just to avoid any even accidental crossing of wires. I also work in a personable industry and happily text male colleagues, married or not. I know them so I don't worry about anything being misconstrued.

Mentionitis. Are you actually flattered by this married man’s attention?

I wonder how his Wife would feel about his winking, offering to be there for you, asking for your number and age, and playful ‘baby’ remark. I wonder if he’d have pursued that level of contact if she’d been standing there…

This isn’t about the boys. They aren’t even interested in meeting outside of school. Don’t be a fool. Distance yourself and refuse to play this dangerous game.

I think it’s fine. But if the messages ever start straying into inappropriate then I’d delete his number

@Notamum12345577 well he did shag Amanda 😉