Happy birthday/mothersday etc, social media messages pointless

[Hairspray123]

OK so I am prepard to be shot down here as majority of people probably do this, but why do some people post loving adoring thankyou, happy birthday, I love you messages or other such things with selfies of them together having lots of fun when the recipient isnt even on Facebook and wont see it? I just dont get what the point is.

I absolutely get it if they are or will see and appreciate it, but when they aren't, whats the point? Is it attention seeking? Are they looking for 'likes' for self gratification?

Why wish your 6 year old an amazing first day back at school on social media? Is it to remind people they are back at school? I just dont get it. Do they then show them that they did it.

Im not talking a post expressing how proud they are telling friends something or like 'My Jimmy won first prize today and Im so proud I want to shout it from the roof tops blah blah' its when they are wishing them something specifically.

Glad to hear I'm not the miserable sod I thought I was, as I agree with so much posted here. My sister, on the relevant birthdays of brother and mum who are dead, regularly posts about how much they are missed and this is followed by numerous 'friends' posting how they're 'thinking of you today' etc, etc, as if they are the only daughter/sister that exists. Yes, I know I shouldn't get wound up but it boils my p*! Can't really get my head round posts wishing the deceased a heavenly happy birthday either - they are not getting older, they are gone.

My sister posted about my dads ‘birthday’ boy soppy.

He used to beat my mother senseless.

She was getting a lot of ‘thinking about you’ ‘that’s sad’ blah and it really made me annoyed.

Not all posts are that clear - these cheerleaders clearly didn’t know him or my sister very well so pointless really.

@SabreIsMyFave

You have made me chuckle thank you for posting. I think you have really hit the nail on the head and this post 'deeply sexual and attractive, and incredibly potent and virile.' Is hilarious. What does through peoples minds when they post these types of posts!

A few situations Ive come across are 'Friends' who post with our fantastic amazing family day out so much fun love my family etc, where I know for a fact they were actually arguing all day and it was an awful day! Why post about it? Why do you want a reminder of that misserable fake day every year?

Look at my brand new car my hubby brought me with a bow and bottle of champagne gushing love and thankyou and how amaing he is. It actually turns out he went and brought it but told her she had to pay for it herself monthly and she was really pissed off about it!

One friend posts loving happy family posts lots of pics having lots of fun and how amazing and hot his wife is, but he has messaged another close friend to 'try and get it on' 🤮.

I get that if you met somone you hadnt seen for years down the pub you arn't going to tell them you had an argument with your wife that day and you may say, yes we went there and it was really lovely and we enjoyed it. But on FB we the audience have not actually asked how their day went, they have just decided to tell us and its basically a lie 🤷🏼‍♀️

It is true though isnt it! It happens all the time!

Completely agree @Hairspray123 No WAY are the lives of all these people so bloody perfect, They keep saying saying 'look how amazing my life is, look how wonderful my family is, look how happy and glorious my relationship is with my husband/daughter/mother etc etc etc...' It has 'methinks the lady doth protest too much' kind of vibes!

I got told off by DB. As I said DM wasn’t on FB when she was alive so I doubt the chances of her seeing it have improved by her being dead.

@DustyMaiden

I couldn't help but chuckle at your post so accept my appolgies, so blut but really quite accurate.

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Most social media posts are quite boring.

My sister does this! Photos of mum on Sunday, going on about how much she loves her - mum is 77 and not on FB. I didn't post anything, I just went to see her with a card, flowers and a cake. On her wedding anniversary, photos of her and her husband and messages 'you're my rock' etc. he is not on FB!
Thinking I might say something to her in July this year when it's their anniversary again and she will undoubtably post a message and photos. Ridiculous.

The only gushing posts I’ve seen are usually from abusive relationships where the husband insists the wife posts to show how wonderful and caring he is -

My friend got away and now his new girlfriend does the same.

This is what I think when I see ‘my rock’ posts - abuse.

I’m with you. My SIL posts long, gushing posts about her dad (my FIL), who passed away last year. It makes me cringe so much. And what is it for apart from attention? She has a lot of support - we’re a close family - and she has supportive friends so I don’t see the need. I had to unfollow her.

I rarely post on SM on my personal page. I do use it for support groups and hobby groups but that’s it. I also can’t imagine thanking someone for something on there when I could just do it in real life!

It's the 'Happy Heavenly Birthday/Mother's Day/father's day' posts that get me, I'm fairly sure they won't be reading Facebook.

Birthday wishes are lovely, but not posts to people who can't or don't read Facebook
Is just attention seeking at its finest

Attention. Look at ME.

VIrtue signalling.

Some people post their lives on social media. It's their oxygen.

My brother does this and barely visits my mother. Perhaps it's guilt so posts rubbish.

I just get on and visit and provide care. He barely bothers to visit but gushes on FB. It's very odd.