Moved house and feel HORRENDOUS

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Just moved house and have spent the last hour just crying on my own. I don't know what's wrong with me. I like the house but I'm already thinking of when I can sell it.

I felt like this for months after we moved. Just felt like we'd made a massive mistake - even though we had well outgrown our previous place. I made posts similar to yours!

Two years on I'm very at home!

We still have quite a lot of work to do on it but it feels like ours now. I remember feeling desperate to feel that way. Everyone told me I'd get there - and they were right!

Hang in there!!

But plants, put out your things, buy some nice new bedding. Xx

Omg I've just noticed the date and your update 🤣🤣🤣

I moved house five years ago during the pandemic. There were so few houses on the market but the one we bought fitted all our requirements but I didn’t love it. I tried so hard. I lost two stone in weight because I was anxious all the time having realised we had made a mistake. I just didn’t love it enough, despite all the work we did to it to make it better. It’s never been enough. We are now moving. To a house that makes my heart sing. I can’t wait.

Pleased to read your update.

Thank you everyone for your supportive kind and encouraging comments x

I’ve never had this experience myself, but I always throw myself into getting the new house how I want it. Currently living in a fixer upper and I spent the first 3 weeks deep cleaning, washing curtains, unpacking etc. It soon feels like home once you’ve sorted it.

Glad you're settled op
Moving is stressful and it takes a while to fall in love with the new house.
Had 3 new houses since getting married- you just get the house right and then you move and start again.

Good to see! When we moved here, after the first night of sleeping here I told my husband we had to move I couldn't stand the house.
We've been here 25 years now and we love it and knowing at some point we will have to downsize makes me sad

I moved from my first flat (in a slightly dodgy not very desirable area) to a much nicer property in a highly desirable area. It took me years to make the new place my own. I still sometimes get a nostalgic pang for my first flat even though I know I’m in a much better place now. It’s just change and getting used to it.

Hi, Pink. I really hope you’ve read the whole thread, and the OP’s recent updates and been reassured! I think there’s a bit of an adrenaline slump, after the packing and moving and arriving. You’re exhausted.

This is what you wanted, and what you worked for. It will be ok.

We are about to downsize from the home we have brought up our family in and are feeling very wobbly. Good to know others feel the same and it will pass. Thank you

For the first decade of our marriage I was a trailing spouse. Every 18mths or so we'd move, DH always dreaded the first month after a move because I would be hopelessly upset and want to move back. Then I'd be fine and the cycle would begin again.
It is normal to struggle at first, moving is one of the most stressful life events.

Really happy for you OP!

I had a similar experience, hated the flat hated the area, made a huge mistake, my life is over etc etc...
5 years later, I bloody love my flat and my area, got some local friends, other friends want to move here and it just feels like home.

We've moved a lot (perils of renting) and even if I'm been happy or excited above thr move, the first night is always like that. Its getting used of different noises, shadows, the comedown of all the stress and tiredness. Within a few days it.will.almost certainly pass.

Hope you grow to love your new home and make lots of lovely memories in it

I've had this once before when we moved from our first property where we'd lived for 10 years. We had massively outgrown it, absolutely hated it and the area, which had declined horribly, by the time we moved, and the new house was a massive upgrade, yet spent the first weeks feeling sad and compeltely uprooted.

It passed over the weeks, though, and was a brilliant move for the time. Don live there no, but still in the area and so glad we moved.in contrast, the house we currently live in felt like hone the moment we got through the door.

Glad you have settled in OP. I understand the awful feeling after moving 😢😂

I did a housing association swap 2 years ago, hated it, dreadful mistake, i want to move but am trapped had to go on antidepressants

How long did it take before you were happy? I am 6 weeks in and still so upset and depressed - I miss the last house soooo much. What was I doing selling it, feel such a failure for not making the right decision :(

Hi! I saw your post and felt the need to comment. I posted on 24/11/24 after immediately regretting my decision to move. I ended being the lowest I have ever felt for 3months. I felt desperately sad and anxious. I cried nearly every day for months and months. I dont feel like that anymore, it has taken time and we have needed to spend money on this house to make it feel like 'our home', money we didnt intend on spending. But I am so much more settled. I still miss the convenience of our old home, its so close to my childrens school so I do get pangs of sadness when I see it on school runs. However I feel a million times better than I did this time last year. I have always been very resilient, but this floored me. Be gentle on yourself, your feelings are very normal. Just got to ride it out, as shit as it is.

Honestly? About 6 months. Or maybe slightly more. I moved in the March and felt definitely at home by Christmas. However, I am someone who takes a long time to adjust to change.