Moved house and feel HORRENDOUS

[Springisnear4]

Just moved house and have spent the last hour just crying on my own. I don't know what's wrong with me. I like the house but I'm already thinking of when I can sell it.

Last time we moved I’d really had enough of the old house, I couldn’t wait to leave. But the first night here I felt absolutely awful, we moved into a renovation and I had an awful feeling we’d done the wrong thing.

Eight years later I can honestly say this house changed my life, and I love it.

Oh bless you op.
As many others have said, it's completely normal to feel like this.
Moving is so stressful, there's so much to think about and organise that when the time comes that you're actually in, I think that's when it hits you like a brick and becomes overwhelming.
You'll soon settle in once you start putting your stamp on things.

‘For months i would mentally walk through the rooms in my old home, I literally ached for it.’

This! So glad it’s not just me!😖

I remember my eight year old niece coming to vista about six months after moving and she said - it smells like you now! I took it as a complement😂.

I have changed so much about my house the previous owners wouldn’t recognise it. I event changed door handles and flower beds! Put my stamp everywhere. I like to think police forensics would find no trace of the previous owners😂.

Us humans are such beautiful creatures really.

So adaptable but home means so much to us.

All very normal feelings.

It’s completely normal. I’ve cried my eyes out each time. Four times now. Hated hated each property and wanted to run back to the safety and comfort of what I knew.

I even got upset in my second flat that you couldn’t but taramasalata in the local shop. As if that matters hey? I nitpicked everything and was my own worst enemy.

It’s part of the process moving forward but leaving the security blanket of what you know behind. It will get better but it takes time and patience. Months on from this will be a different outcome.

It’s part of the process moving forward but leaving the security blanket of what you know behind.

You’re right, a much loved hime is a security blanket isn’t it. A place of safety.

I feel exactly like this!! It smells very much like someone else's house

I was upset when I moved that I couldn't walk to a Waitrose! 🤣 Talk about privilege!

my last move took 8 months to go through, was like a sparking new pin when i viewed it, they left it filthy i was fuming, it took so long because they picked the snail solicitor from hell,kept me waiting on completion day,then did not evan leave it clean, its pure stess moving house, try and remember why you choose the house good luck

Took me 5 years in my current home to feel it was actually totally that.
I really like it now.
Once you make your mark on your new place it will start to feel a bit better though.
And if you really hate it after 6 months or more you could sell so don’t feel you are stuck.

I may have to move soon and am dreading it . I know it makes sense financially as this house is too big to maintain by myself. Good to know that others have felt like this but now love their new home.

@putonyourwarpaint

i think that's the best way not to feel overwhelmed or sad when you get into your new house! Stay with family... there's nothing like the relief then when you get into the new place!

@Springisnear4

Youve moved into your new house, now you need to make it your own home!!! How you're feeling is very common, best thing to do is give yourself a good talking to! 'I have done the right thing, it's just going to take time to feel settled' then do whatever you can to make it feel & smell like home! It's not the best weather for it, but I'd open all the doors & windows & remove any previous owners 'smell' & do some laundry (introducing your scents) I can't use any kind of oils/sprays/candles, my 'scent' but if you can, then do whatever you did in your previous home.

then unpack your things & set about making it comfortable.Home.

you'll feel better in no time 🤗

Have come across this thread after googling for others feeling the same as me right now. Have just moved house today and honestly have cried so, so much. I wanted this move, we needed it as a family. We have a third baby due in September and needed to move somewhere much bigger and it is, it’s perfect in almost every way. But oh my god, I did not expect to feel like this, I can’t even put it in to words how I feel tbh. I keep looking at old photos of us all in our old house and making myself feel worse, I don’t know why I do it to myself. Please say you felt better in the end? And if so how long did it take? 😩

I felt exactly the same five years ago. I’m much older than you AC left five year previous to the house move. We needed to downsize, but I rushed into it. I felt so homesick, it was a proper sick feeling, empty like a bereavement. If someone had knocked the door and told me I could have had my house back I’d have gone in a heartbeat.
The house needed loads more doing than we thought, the boiler was declared dangerous and we had to have a new one plus loads of other work. But at least now the house is practically all new inside. The only thing I can suggest is to clean, clean and clean again make it smell like your old house, smell is very important.
Invite people around. Have some good times. Make lots of new memories. I still prefer my other house, but this one is warm and cozy and much easier to clean. You’ll get there. Good luck with the new baby.

The first night in my old flat and first time living by myself after I'd left my exh I laid in bed wondering if I'd done the right thing. All that had happened was a guy walked by talking loudly but I was convinced it would be a regular occurrence of people walking by being noisy. As it turned out aside that first night it was actually really quiet and I relished living by myself. I wouldn't say it ever felt like a proper home, but I think that was more because it was rented so apart from putting a few pictures on the wall I couldn't really make it into something I wanted, but apart from having to buy a new bed, a second hand sofa and chair and a new washing machine it came with fitted wardrobes a built in cooker and a built in fridge and freezer so saved me a ton of money at the time and was in a nice area. I lived there for nearly 2 years before eventually moving into the bungalow I'm in now. Before I left though I picked up late DCat and we went from room to room and said goodbye to the place. Although I was more gutted to find out the fireplace I'd spent 2 years thinking didn't work actually did. I just hadn't realised there was a switch on the wall for it cos it had been hidden behind one of my cabinets. So before leaving the place for good I switched it on and sat watching the fake flames dancing about. The place I'm in now although rented. Is rented off family so I've been able to decorate it how I want and it feels much more like home now.

I am a mess after moving house
I was unsure about the move but my husband was sure it was right (we had previously wanted the house years ago but lost it) the house we have just sold we spent money on and it was so convenient. Now we will need to spend money all over again and I'm sobbing thinking we have done the wrong thing and made a huge mistake. I just want to go home... (it has only been two days).
I miss my beautiful clean bathrooms and beautiful big bedrooms. Now we are having to start all over again. I feel heartbroken and angry I didnt shout louder that I thiught it might be the wrong thing to do.

I cried for about two weeks when I moved into my new build, I absolutely hated it but I think it was a stress reaction. Once I settled I started to feel happier.

Normal, OP. Don’t panic. Sit with the feeling and allow it to pass. I’ve cried and felt anxiety every time I’ve moved house (four times), and each time it has passed and I’ve been very happy.

Gather yourself and don't worry about anything for tonight, you are probably exhausted and won't be thinking rationally right now.
Of course you will have a beautiful, clean bathroom again, it just takes some time.
We moved about 3 months ago, those first few days were stressful. Trying to get everything put away, sort the kids rooms as quickly as possible, deal with multiple pets that had no idea where they were....it was horrendous to be honest.
We deliberately unpacked very quickly, we had every box empty within three days and a skip outside for any rubbish. It felt like home from that point on, I hardly ever think about the old house now!
We did have amazing sellers though and they left it completely spotless (as I did for my buyer) so we could literally just empty boxes straight away.

I sold my tiny little 2 bed and moved into a much bigger, 'better' house. I cried for weeks. I missed my little safe home and felt very overwhelmed. It does get better and the new house will start to feel more like home in time

I am the exact same at the moment I'm 60 waited years for a social housing property but I'm so anxious, crying ,it's like a strangers house, I want to run back to my previous house. 😢

Normal. I just cried and stripped wallpaper for 4 weeks. I love my house now.

It's a very stressful thing to do. You're just feeling drained. And perhaps feeling a sudden weight of responsibility, right? With 20 years or whatever it is of mortgage stretching ahead? And the realization that there'll be no more calling the landlord when stuff goes wrong and it's all down to you now? (I've been there). And the place probably looks crap right now - empty, bleak, depressing? When you've got it decorated / furnished and everything unpacked with your own stuff everywhere it will start to feel like home. It's normal. It'll be fine.

This was nearly a year ago now and I absolutely love it.