Moved house and feel HORRENDOUS

[Springisnear4]

Just moved house and have spent the last hour just crying on my own. I don't know what's wrong with me. I like the house but I'm already thinking of when I can sell it.

Ive been at our new place for 5 months and I still pang for our old home!! It really has been the most stressful thing I’ve ever been through this moving house malarkey! And I’ve had all sorts happen in my life. It was totally unexpected and knocked me for 6.

In my head I’m giving it 1-2 years and if I still feel like shit we’re going to have to move on 😵‍💫

I need to give myself time. Having moved from a place that had a fair few problems into a house I loved, I just expected to feel relieved and happy but I feel the opposite right now unfortunately.

I was at my old place 3 years too @Cbljgdpk

I haven’t ever felt like this, but can imagine and hope you feel at home soon. Once all your crap is out and about you’ll feel better I’m sure.

@Springisnear4 I agree with the others - it’s a big change and often feels really unsettling at the start!

I was the exact same when we last moved too. It helped me to list the reasons why we made the move 😊 What made you move? 😊

I cried for around 3 weeks or so when we moved. I wanted to move... I chose to move... It was a positive move... Still cried for 3 weeks. Takes me ages to settle anywhere new, even going on holiday.

Don't be surprised if it takes you a little while to sleep properly too.

I felt like this. It felt big, cold and empty like I was in someone else’s house. Getting a few familiar bits out definitely helped, it was so much worse when it was dark, the morning brought some relief.

It’s normal.
It’s the change and the stress making you feel like this, not the house.
Give it time. It helps to remember the reasons you wanted to move.

It's normal to feel overwhelmed at first.

I loved my house when I viewed it and drove passed it every day like a stalker until moving in day.

that night I remember trying to sleep on a mattress on the floor while crying because all that joy evaporated. The house smelled a little of damp - everything. Was older and smaller than I remembered. An aggressive neighbour gave me a lecture about cutting down a tree that I love in my mature back garden.

it took about three months until I committed to staying and an mother 18 months to do all the work it needed (about £75k more than I budgeted for🫣).

but I love it now! It’s finally home.

OP I hear you and it's very normal. We moved 3 months ago after 10 years in our old house and I've autopiloted back to the old estate on more occasions than I've admitted IRL 🫣 💖

I bought my first home at the grand age of 50. I didn't feel any stress or regret until 3 weeks later I went back to my old neighbourhood and suddenly sobbed like a baby because I didn't live there any more.

The next few weeks was discovering dodgy wiring, plumbing and a ratty attic which brought more upset.
Four months on and I'm in absolute heaven. It finally feels like home and I don't give my old life second thought. Deep breaths. You'll be fine.

That made me lol.

When I moved from a rented flat and into my first house, I ran for a bus and was delighted to catch it.

Then I had to get off at the next stop, because that bus went to my old flat and my new house was on a completely different bus route.

Thanks everyone. I've found my phone charger and had a shower and calmed down a bit. Just need to give it time. I feel reassured that this is normal and I'm not a complete weirdo for spending all my money on a house and not just feeling really happy

I was the same. I had to hand over keys and wait for money to be wired to get keys for new house in one day. We had to clear out everything and lock the door having never been in our new house as it was a new build. It was unbelievably stressful and so emotional. 3 young kids. We had no floors or blinds or curtains and nothing worked. We had to shower in a local swimming pool for the first week. We had to tape black plastic bags to the windows to stop kids waking at 5am in July. It was awful! For months i would mentally walk through the rooms in my old home, I literally ached for it. But we have the most fabulous house now and it was worth all the stress.

Perhaps you could focus on getting one room how you like it. And buy a few plants for the garden

I'm the same and need to do it again this week (3rd move in 2 years) with a 9 month old in tow.

Every house I've moved to, I've cried and felt awful for a good 3/4 weeks. I get a homesick pining feeling. Thank god this is somewhere we are settling for a few years before buying.

You'll love it soon OP, chin up. I completely understand how you feel. X

What everyone else has said! It’s such a stressful process and such a huge decision/purchase, after the adrenaline of moving is gone it’s totally normal to feel that way.

Plus empty houses feel so cold, dreary and unloved. Once you’ve unpacked and given it some love it will feel very different.

I remember when I moved into my house I was quite put off by the smell of the house. Every day I could smell it, nothing bad, just unfamiliar but it really made me feel I made a mistake. Sounds bizzare but safe to say it smells like home now lol

It's completely normal to feel like that. Movinv house is one of the most stressful times forcanyone, even if theyve been looking forward to it for aaaaaages. Sometimes I still wish I was living in my old house, normally when dp and I have had a rubbish time. I've started saying hello to this house every time I return and now I've started feeling more at home. Maybe that will work for you?

Our new house that I was so excited about was sooo underwhelming. My husband got the keys because I was at work and had to phone me to try to manage my expectations. It was dull and dingy and slept strongly of dog.

We only moved because the old house was just too small. Didn't move far, but I missed the street I'd spent 17 years in. The new house was too big and just felt wrong. And unlike us, the previous owners hadn't bothered to clean it. It's taken 2 years for it to properly feel like ours. The neighbours are friendly enough, but not as friendly as my old lot.

@LakieLady

Definitely something I would do too 🫣 I once got the train home from work, got to the station couldn't find the car then realised I had driven into work that morning 🤯 🤦‍♀️

Absolutely relate to this. House was filthy when we got here and have uncovered A LOT of bodge jobs 🫠. I keep reminding myself and my DH we've just moved and it took us 10 years to get our previous home 'just so' 💖

I felt like I’d made the biggest mistake ever when I moved into my house. I love it now. Been here 10 years, no plans to ever move.

It’s very overwhelming OP - it’s hard.