To find it embarrassing that my nans buys Mother’s Day presents?

[Rainorsnow]

I’m 23 and my sisters are 21 and 18 and every Mothers Day my Nan buys presents for us for our mum. She has done this since we were little and obviously when you’re a child this is completely normal but but once I turned 18 I started wanting to do it myself with my sisters but Nan buys the presents weeks in advance in February so I don’t get the chance to and I don’t want to undermine her presents so we don’t get mum anything other than a bunch of flowers. It’s getting embarrassing and my I don’t think my grandad likes it either.

My MIL buys mother's day presents for me from my DC even though one is a young adult. She clearly enjoys it so we've never challenged it. But the DC have always also chosen me a present themselves (with DH when they were young and for themselves now that they are young adults). The presents chosen by MIL are very different from the things that the DC choose. I do think it's a bit odd that she continues to do this and most of her gifts aren't really to my taste but in the scheme of things if it's something she wants to do I can't see a point in insisting that she stops and sometimes it's chocolate

You’ve just admitted you don’t get her anything as you Nan already has, so she probably thinks you’ll forget! Start getting her stuff AS WELL. Then your nan will see you can do it. Your mum can get loads of gifts.

@Pertinentowl It's six months ago. Why resurrect a zombie thread?!

There's nothing stopping you buying more than flowers.
Oops, apologies for not noticing this was a resurrected thread. 🫣

My mum buys me a Mother’s Day present because she wants to show me how proud she is of me as a mother. I’ve raised my boys alone and they are young adults now, but as I have no appreciation from their father she wants to support me.
If the boys get me something too, I’m doubly happy, but it’s nice my own mum values the job I have done raising them.

There are family things that sure if people sat down and thought deeply about it then it makes no sense but no harm is being done

To me this is a inwardly roll my eyes thing and move on

No idea what is embarrassing about it though nor why it stops anything

Is your mum a single mum? My friend is and her mum buys the presents on behalf of the kids but she takes them to choose something for their mum and pays for it. At your age I'd have long since had the conversation with my nan about this. You don't need to wait till next year to have the conversation. Do it now and then just remind her before she would normally purchase the gifts that you are getting something for mum so she no longer has to and thank her for all the effort she has gone to on your behalf. Be prepared that she might still get her daughter something anyway.

Tbh at your age I'd be getting my nan a little token something too. My grandparents are long gone but when I was 18 I would always get my nan some flowers on behalf of my siblings and she'd always be so chuffed. If you and your siblings can stretch to it maybe take both your mum and nan out for a meal.

Why is that embarrassing? Just get your own gift too so your mum has more gifts? I’m sure she wouldn’t complain!

ZOMBIE THREAD!
Mother's Day was back in March 😂😂😂

Maybe suggest putting in on something more exspensive? So let's say nan spends £40 on gifts. If you say, hi nan, mum would love a... we were all thinking we could all chip in this year and get her it, what do you think?