Everyone Still In Bed

[Froggy99]

I know it’s early but our 11 month old has been awake since six, no sign of DH bringing her down so I can have a lay in this morning with it being Mothers Day so we’ve been up since then.
DH and teen still in bed, no sign of either of them so far.
AIBU to expect at least DH to make the effort to get out of bed to wish me a happy Mothers Day which is my first as a Mum of 2? Or should I just wait patiently for them to appear?

You aren’t his mum though.

It’s very early on a Sunday!

Twenty to eight on a Sunday morning, and you’re surprised that a teenager isn’t up yet?

What did you agree last night as the plan for the morning?

Tell DH to get up and help, remind him it's mother's day. Teen best left alone...

Wake him up and tell him. Tell us won’t help we can’t do anything about it but you can.

Why is it so different to being a mum of one? What usually happens on mothers day?

It's pretty early honestly. Not UR for DH giving you a break but definitely for expecting the teen to be up

I’m not surprised teen isn’t up. Baby has been waking early and I’ve been doing all the early morning wake ups with her, guess I just thought DH might make the effort this morning to either get up with us or let me stay in bed 😂

YANBU but I'd just wake him up and give him a prod to get out of bed with a loud 'it's Mother's Day' in his ear. You shouldn't really have to but I would anyway so that you can have your lie in. I have a baby too and didn't want a lie in but I asked my DH to go make me a coffee (we're going out for breakfast later) and then he brought in the present I had vaguely hinted I might like. So he did make an effort for Mother's Day but I did have to spell it out to him!

Happy Mother’s Day 😊

Is DH asleep? If so, how will he know you're up?
If he's awake, take a coffee and go back to bed and ask him to get up.

Everyone is still in bed here! I am an early bird and always have been; but its their weekend too.

I think I would leave everyone now you are up anyway but then go and have a nap when DH is up

PS I don't think we should have to spell it out but I guess I'd rather do that than not have the day I want!

He awoke when baby woke but has gone back to sleep 💤

Just remember this on Father's Day.

GGo and prod him “your turn” and go back to bed. Absolutely nothing to be gained by sitting seething when you can easily fix it

Wait for them to get up, but here’s a tip for you.

I used to have expectations like that (it would be nice for DH to get up and take the baby so I could have a lie in) but it didn’t happen. Sitting in silence hoping your DH is a mind reader will get you nowhere. Voice your wishes. Now I get lots of lovely dates at places I want to go, I get a lay in, I get thoughtful small gifts, weekends away, time to myself as he takes the kids out on his own. I’m happier, his happier because I’m asking, so he actually knows what he can do that will make me happy. men don’t think like how women do.

Why didn't you tell DH to get up with the baby so you could go back to sleep?

I don't think I'd necessarily remember it was Mothers' Day the second I woke up.

Happy Mother’s Day!

Im up with baby on our first Mother’s Day while DH is already at work for the second busiest day after Christmas as he’s a restaurant manager so won’t see him all day so count your blessings yours will be up at some point (hopefully)

It won't make any difference will it - he will still be having a lie in while Op gets up at dawn.

Yup shame on your 6 month old baby for not making your Mother's Day special.

Of course the father should step up on Mother's Day at least until children are old enough to do it themselves.

I hear you, but if they’ve got nice things planned and you start complaining now it will sour the day.

Wake him up, hand him baby, go back to bed. Tell him you'd like a cup of tea and breakfast in bed at 9.30.

It's not even 8am on a Sunday!