Everyone Still In Bed

[Froggy99]

I know it’s early but our 11 month old has been awake since six, no sign of DH bringing her down so I can have a lay in this morning with it being Mothers Day so we’ve been up since then.
DH and teen still in bed, no sign of either of them so far.
AIBU to expect at least DH to make the effort to get out of bed to wish me a happy Mothers Day which is my first as a Mum of 2? Or should I just wait patiently for them to appear?

Didn't take long for this sort of comment to appear on Mumsnet today 🤣

I'd be pissed off with my partner, not because of Mothering Sunday but because it sounds as though he's not pulling his weight generally.

YABU to be annoyed that your ds isn't up yet. He's a teenager!

It's not the 1600s any more.

Haven’t RTFT but why don’t you just go and wake him up? Say you’ve been up since whatever time and it’s Mother’s Day so it’s his turn to look anfter the baby and you’d like marmalade on the toast he brings you for breakfast in bed?

🙄🙄🙄🙄

Really??

So the 11 month old should be sorting mother day out by themselves and should know to give mum a lie in?

Ridiculous comment.

Ooh! Burn! 🤣

@Froggy99 why didn’t you just say ‘it’s your turn today as it’s mothers day’ instead you’re cross because he didn’t offers you should have just asked! And stayed in bed!

No no no.
Do not turn Mother's Day into the one day of the fucking year when you are entitled to and get a lie in/consideration for having a baby.

He should be doing the early mornings other days as well. You’re the the default parent and you need to put a stop to that.

Bloody Hell, someone's put the roast on early!

YANBU I'm not sure why there are so many j witches on your thread 😂

"It's not even 8am" or "you're not his Mum"

Your DH should definitely have offered to give you a lie in this morning, you're the mother of his children. Go upstairs and plonk the baby on the bed and say your turn 😊

Then go and make yourself a cuppa and enjoy some peace.

YANBU. Your DH most definitely is.

Sorry that he's been so shit. You're not asking the Earth. Hope you manage to have a lovely day (I wouldn't, I'd be passive aggressive and snippy 😂)

I have to say that this comment is spot on. This 'Is it too much to expect him to get up with his own child one day a year' stuff is precisely what leads to women bearing the whole burden all year.

Get your men doing their feckin' share ALL year!

It takes a special kind of gobshite to make a point of waking up before 8 on a Sunday morning just to go online and be an arsehole towards a young mum with a baby who just wanted some consideration and a bit of a rest on the one day of the year when society tries to show an appreciation to mothers.

Exhibiting a complete lack of empathy and a pathological inability to understand social norms is not the flex you think it is.

I agree, but just as a point I don't think a parent of a teenager is a 'young' mum.

I'm really torn between 'he's not a mind reader' and 'you shouldn't have to say'.

Yanbu though.

I would have just said to him last night that you're assuming he'll get up as it's mother's day. As it is, I'd leave him to sleep for a bit and then go up and swap and take some time to yourself. Even if it's watching a show or reading a book or whatever, rather than sleeping. I'd actually prefer this as I'm a natural early riser.

You're bigger issue is that you/he think it's your job to get up with the baby every day. It's not. I don't know why people think this.

Sorry you’re disappointed OP and that a few people on here are being salty.

definitely have a conversation with your DH about sharing the wake ups. I have an 11 month old who wakes at 6ish and DP and I alternate who gets up with her on weekend days. Fairest way and means we both get a snooze on one day 😴

Sorry but are you expecting an 11 month old to know it's Mother's Day and give the OP a lie in???

I'd have woken DH up at 6 and given him the baby OP! No one appreciates a martyr.

I agree, but just as a point I don't think a parent of a teenager is a 'young' mum.

She also has an 11 month old.
Are you suggesting that it's her teenagers responsibility to organise the 11 month old as well as themselves?
Is the bar really that low for men that we expect children to pick up the slack when they can't be bothered?

Pass him the baby, tell him you’re going back to bed.

He’s an unthoughtful asshole!!

I've been up since 5.45 with my 2 year old ! Made her and me breakfast at 7am - my DH woke up so made him tea too- no offer to do it for me of course 🙄 then he's been resting on the sofa as clearly exhausted ...
Teenager also still fast asleep.
Another normal Mother's Day for me !! It's certainly annoying but I feel so grateful to have my two previous girls (perhaps not so grateful for my useless DH but hey ho )

YANBU. You should have handed baby to him and had a lie in.

Why are you doing all the mornings with baby?

Get rid of the husband, keep the precious girls.

No, not at all. I'm not sure why you got that from me pointing out that a woman who had a teenager is not considered a young mum.

I didn't get a lie in either. I have been up since 5am with my poorly two year old, I got her some milk and a cup of tea for myself at 5.30.

I have just had breakfast and tea made for me this morning by my husband and two older children.

Happy mother's days to you.