Is a card enough for Mothers Day?

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My mum specifically said a few weeks ago that it’s a riot and that she doesn’t want anyone going OTT for her and buying clutter/tat or flowers that are overpriced and only last a few days. Fair enough.

I have only got her a card this year. Is this honestly enough or would you feel crap only getting a card from your adult child?

Surely she needs a scarf, slippers or at least something even small?

I’d just like a hug!

I wouldn't only get a card. But it's a personal thing I think.

Id try and get something if you can think of it.
’ve got mine some bulbs which are sprouting so will last a bit but also not be tat. Any food she likes as a treat?

Mine is just getting a card. We live a few hours apart and won't be seeing each other. I imagine I will be getting a card from DC and I will be pleased with that.

I suspect the key is "no tat or clutter". Buy something consumable like nice food or something like fancy shower gel that will definitely get used. My Mum is of the generation who feels you must have "something to unwrap" so my sister tackled this by asking for nothing that will still be here in 6 months time.

You are not my mum, but im sending you a hug 🤗

Will you be seeing her? If I was going round I'd take something nice and useable like a box of posh biscuits or a cake: something that's not just a gift for the sake of it.

My DF always made a bit of a fuss for mothers' day but was adamant that Fathers Day is just made up by the card companies to make money. Every year I ring him up and say "happy Father's Day, I haven't sent you a card." He says "quite right too, load of made up nonsense". I say "of course, but have a lovely day anyway" and we're all happy.

I'm happy with just a card , I don't want my daughter to waste money she doesn't have getting me anything.

My mum said she doesn't want anything. I've hit a card, some cream slices and some daffodils.

I just do a facetime

Why not take her out to lunch another time? or spend time together going to a museum, walk or something you both like doing?

I've never wanted anything that can be bought (it's easy to throw money around instead of giving some thought) but a hug or quick phone call to say "love you mum" means far more to me than all the gifts you could buy.

Can you take her some food maybe. I’d still give the card but maybe some flowers or something.

She doesnt want a fuss. I'd go card and a box of malteasers

@myheadisaterribleplace that’s so lovely. Eldest is at Uni on the other side of the country so no hug there. And youngest is a teen who would run a mile from most public displays of affection! 😆

It depends on your mum's personality. If she's a practical kind of person who says what she means then I would confidently just get a nice card. But there might be a risk she is setting a trap for you, consciously or subconsciously. You know your mum best.

Yes, me too!

Impossible to answer without knowing your mum.

I would be happy with just a card.

If you live close by then maybe take her out - even if it's just for coffee and cake. Bake her something? Cook her a meal?

Yes, ample. If someone says they don't want a fuss/gifts, why wouldn't you take them at their word? Same with birthdays - not everyone wants to celebrate or be given a load of tat.

I am taking my parents to the theatre and their tickets is my gift - they have enough stuff - time together is more important imo

But a card is fine also

I just get my mum a card (and a phone call to tell her I love her). Low key Mother's Day here!

My boys were asking their dad for ideas, he asked me and I said I need nothing only to see them..... which I am.

Love it!

I don't want them spending money on me, they've got more than enough expense in their lives as it is.

Card and chocolate if she doesn't like flowers? 🤷‍♀️
I do agree with her though as it's yet another day that's become completely OTT and fuels the social media one upmanship. A card and simple gift/treat is absolutely plenty. It's meant to be about spending time together if you can.