Is a card enough for Mothers Day?

[Plannypops]

My mum specifically said a few weeks ago that it’s a riot and that she doesn’t want anyone going OTT for her and buying clutter/tat or flowers that are overpriced and only last a few days. Fair enough.

I have only got her a card this year. Is this honestly enough or would you feel crap only getting a card from your adult child?

It depends on your mum. My mum really like flowers. She dries them. I only buy her something that she really enjoys.

My mum said not to worry - just a card

But i got her fav chocs too

Got mine
A voucher for nails. I only got a card and I am more than happy with it

I always do a card and flowers.

I got a card. That is fine. I know it is sent with love - that is evident all the rest of the year. I don't want my dc to buy into the 'having to buy stuff'. Not chocolates, not handwash or soap, not a nice scarf.

I take it as good that dc know me well enough to take me at my word. Just a card.

But she doesn't want it!

I told ds8 all I wanted was a card. He went thoughtful and bought a dress I'd seen in the sales weeks ago but they didn't have my size. But I've made it clear a card is all I want and will ever want because the thought goes into that x

Happy with a card

i think at least 2 of my 3 have got me a present. Dd has given me a voucher promising coffee and cake on her 😀

My mum would not be happy with that. Which is fair enough, she does a lot for us.

But if she has specifically said not to get anything, she means it, she's not bothered!

One year they bought me an Octopus tea light holder….its the angriest looking octopus i have ever seen, its furious

I would feel a lot worse if my adult children didn't listen to me or believed that I didn't know my own mind.

😂🤣😂💙💜💙

It depends on personalities and expectations.

I'm genuinely happy with a card and I only send a card to my mother.

But on Mumsnet you have people insisting that unless you're doing gifts, cards, chocolates, flowers then it rubbish and if you're happy with just a card you have low expectations.

I also get the impression that some people say "oh don't worry, a card will be fine", but then expect their loved ones to mind read and realise they actually want a fuss made, only to moan about how hurt they are when people take it at face value. It's just manipulative behaviour in my opinion.

My mum is happy with a card. She really likes a nice card, so I usually get a nicer one than for MIL who we buy presents for. This year I made her a small cross stitch card.

My DC got me cards, tulips and a bottle of fizz, but I would be happy with just cards.

I did the meaningless card/flowers for my mum in passing when I was young, but once I left home and it became about visiting on mothers day it moved onto taking ingredients to bake her tea loaf recipe together and give her the opportunity to show me how to do it "properly" for the millionth time while I dutifully paid attention and nodded! 🤣 Eventually when ds was old enough he got the mothers day tea loaf baking lessons from her! She was in her element showing us what to do and loved giving us some to take home to enjoy later with dh.

And a promise to treat her to some seeds/plants at the garden centre the following week when it was quieter. She loved flowers in her garden every year.

Now mum has gone, I lost the tea loaf recipe somewhere along the line 🙁, and ds is at the age I get a card picked up in Tesco in passing with little thought, but it will change in time as he becomes an adult and the true meaning clicks.

(assuming he doesn't marry someone like some of the needy MN posters this week who just don't "get it")

Whether it's enough is 100% dependent on the person. It sounds like she didn't say she didn't want a gift, just that she didn't want anyone going over the top, and didn't want flowers or tat. But we can't say if she'll be happy with just a card.

A card would be fine for me, and would be too much for my mother. I didn't get her anything and never have, at her specific request. But that doesn't mean it wouldn't upset other people.

Not everyone wants something. People do not want stuff for the sake of it.
Thought we were getting away with this mindset by now...

Honestly as a Mum I'd be happy with a card but wouldn't say no to some chocolate. I agree with your DM, no tat, no flowers just keep it simple and low key and no need for anything extravagant. I was given lovely chocolates, cupcakes and a book from my DC and I'm thrilled to bits. My DM has passed but we're taking MIL out for dinner in a few weeks when DH comes home and she enjoys that more than anything.

Ds2 just gave me a card and a little something

his card says something along the lines of

i hope you enjoy the, albeit limited, time you spend with me as once i start work i will be too tired to see you

😳

I sent my Mum a card to mark the event and spoke to her on the telephone. I am concerned that 'Mother's Day' seems to be the next occasion in line for the competitive over-purchasing insta-frenzy push.

And breakfast in bed is shit anyway.

This is hilarious! 😆

What is written in the card is as important as the card itself - well, more so - like the message above! I bet you'll treasure it forever and bring it out to embarrass him in future years 😁

My DD insists on sending flowers even though I don't want her to and say so, but they ARE beautiful. But the best is her card and her loving message inside. We're going to have an afternoon tea one day after the madness of overpriced Mothers Day - there's a tea shop near us which does wonderful looking ones at a reasonable price, and I'll be spending time with her which is best of all.

I'm sure whatever you I'd today, OP, was perfect

I got a card from DS and a generic text GIF from DD who is at Uni.

I thought it was lovely, it's the thought that counts not the amount of ££ spent on a day that I see as a retail feast!