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Is a card enough for Mothers Day?

72 replies

Plannypops · 09/03/2024 13:19

My mum specifically said a few weeks ago that it’s a riot and that she doesn’t want anyone going OTT for her and buying clutter/tat or flowers that are overpriced and only last a few days. Fair enough.

I have only got her a card this year. Is this honestly enough or would you feel crap only getting a card from your adult child?

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ThroughThickAndThin01 · 09/03/2024 14:05

I’m more than happy with a card.

Terrribletwos · 09/03/2024 14:05

A whats app gif is fine for me and what I am expecting.

Mother's day is totally commercialised (like Christmas which I don't expect my kids to bother with as neither do I).

We appreciate each other and keep in touch throughout the year and buy gifts for one another, any old time we feel like it.

Itsrainingten · 09/03/2024 14:06

AsTheyPulledYouOutOfTheOxygenTent · Today 13:30

Will you be seeing her? If I was going round I'd take something nice and useable like a box of posh biscuits or a cake: something that's not just a gift for the sake of it.

My DF always made a bit of a fuss for mothers' day but was adamant that Fathers Day is just made up by the card companies to make money. Every year I ring him up and say "happy Father's Day, I haven't sent you a card." He says "quite right too, load of made up nonsense". I say "of course, but have a lovely day anyway" and we're all happy.

You dad sounds lovely 😊

DisplayPurposesOnly · 09/03/2024 14:07

My mum (now in her 70s) has only ever wanted a card. Sometimes she might get more and she likes that too of course. We live a long way apart so I also phone.

I think you should be able to take an adult at face value - if that's what she's said, accept it.

Oblomov24 · 09/03/2024 14:10

Yes.

SmokedPaprikaPuffs · 09/03/2024 14:13

Chocolate doesn't fall under tat and clutter

cariadlet · 09/03/2024 14:16

When we were kids, my Mum and Dad always said that they weren't interested in Mothers Day or Fathers Day so I've never bought anything for my Mum and then I carried on the same with my own dd.

I liked the cards that dd made for me in nursery and Reception but she hasn't given me any cards or presents since and I am genuinely fine with that.

I hate the guilt tripping that goes on at times like Mothers Day. Dd (now a young adult) sometimes checks with me because friends have said to her that she should get me something even though I have always told her not to waste her money.

roarrfeckingroar · 09/03/2024 14:38

A bit crap. A framed photo of you with or without your kids? Or a voucher for a massage? I would love either

Isseywith3witchycats · 09/03/2024 14:38

Had this very same conversation with my daughter this morning "mom what do you want for mothers day" nothing just a card and to see you , seeing my daughter will bring me more pleasure than chocolates , cake or biscuits (i buy my own ) or flowers that will die in a few days and are overpriced due to mothers day

Helfs · 09/03/2024 14:39

Ariona · 09/03/2024 13:20

Surely she needs a scarf, slippers or at least something even small?

Jesus Christ

CharmedCult · 09/03/2024 14:40

I’ve got my mum a card and will pick up a couple of slices of cake from our local independent bakery tomorrow.

Aviee · 09/03/2024 14:40

I only ever get mine a card

karrliz · 09/03/2024 14:50

Time is the best present! She obviously doesn't want a gift for the sake of it, but a small gesture wouldn't go a miss! If it were me I'd bake something and go round with it and have a cup of tea and a chat!

WhatWouldTheDoctorDo · 09/03/2024 17:08

My mum treats it like a birthday and drops hints for gifts. 🙄 Me, I'm happy with a card and doing something nice together as a family. A bunch of tulips always goes down well too.

hopscotcher · 09/03/2024 17:13

I think a card's enough, if you write something thoughtful in it.

DappledThings · 09/03/2024 17:20

I've only ever got a card for my mum. I didn't know presents or special lunches and all that for Mothering Sunday were a thing till I was on MN.

Tittyfilarious · 09/03/2024 17:27

My mum only ever wants a card and to see me for a brew 😊

HazelBite · 09/03/2024 17:28

I have four sons (all adults) a card is enough, just to show you remembered. The best present is a phone call or a visit, the pinnacle is a visit bringing chocolate or cake😁
(I bet loads of us have more scented candles etc than we know what to do with!)

Londonrach1 · 09/03/2024 17:29

Yes

DinnaeFashYersel · 09/03/2024 17:30

My mum and I both think MD is a load of nonsense so don't do anything.

I've told my kids not to spend any money too. But I've told them I evodct unlimited hugs.

soundsys · 09/03/2024 17:30

FloofyBird · 09/03/2024 13:30

My mum said she doesn't want anything. I've hit a card, some cream slices and some daffodils.

This sounds perfect!

Agree there are plenty of things that aren't tat. If not dads or food/wine, I would personally like a book or some very nice thick socks!

Surely there's something she'd like?

ALunchbox · 09/03/2024 17:31

I don't even expect a card.

ineedtogoshoppingnow · 09/03/2024 17:32

No contact with my own mum but my husband is sending his mum an Indian via Deliveroo, I don't think you can go wrong with that.

SgtJuneAckland · 09/03/2024 17:33

Can you do something with her rather than get her anything? Even just take her for a coffee and a slice of cake, or a wander around the garden centre (or anywhere else, my mum bloody loves the garden centre 🤷‍♀️) , chance to spend some 121 time is probably more meaningful

SgtJuneAckland · 09/03/2024 17:33

@ineedtogoshoppingnow I would be so happy with that!