To think that middle aged lesbians seem more sorted and happy than other folk?

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Disclaimer, I'm married to a man, and happily so. But I look at the middle aged lesbians I know and they just seem so...calm. sorted. Don't seem to care what anyone else thinks, so free. I don't really want to be a lesbian, just not who I am, but damn, I feel like they seem so much more in tune with who they are and what they want.

I had lesbian envy when I went through a hugely horrible divorce from an utter fuckwit.
I was (and still am) totally done with men and their selfish, lazy, dominating ways.
I spoke to a friend and her wife about it as I seriously pondered trying online dating with women.
Their advice was that although lesbian couples don’t generally have the same issues they certainly have issues all of their own.

I think there is still a lesbian tax. On the whole women earn less than men, so two female salaries on average will be less than two male salaries. I look around the area I live and I know a few gay male couples but the lesbian couples I know couldn’t afford to live in my area.

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You clearly don't know any . .

It’s also sometimes the more middle-class middle-aged crowd? I have a few friends, who are lovely people, who lead pretty chaotic lives and are in same-sex long term relationships. But it’s the external factors in their lives and the knock on of trauma early on.

I don't see how that makes things any better though. Lesbian relationships have the same rate of domestic violence as heterosexual relationships. That's not exactly a win for women.

Not real life, I admit, but while recently watching 'And just like that', it did occur to me that Miranda, a RL lesbian had not only aged best, but also seemed much the most relaxed and comfortable in her own skin. Sjp, had the grumpiest face throughout ; 'Widowhood' notwithstanding, and her eyes were dead most of the time, as though someone had only recently informed her of the fact of getting old. It was painful too, to watch Charlotte's 'try hard' acting style. So perhaps you're right ! Nothing more stressful and aging than refusing to become who you really are.