I don't understand why the NHS throws money at keeping people with dementia alive though pneumonia, but spends nothing on diagnosing developmental problems and neurodiveristy, and food intolerance in small children.
My Mum was in intensive care for a month, and they made the decision to do that knowing she had dementia. They went into it with no idea about whether she would have her mind working in anything like a reasonable way when she came out. It was a horrendous experience waiting to see what would happen, and it must have cost them a bomb. Now she has lewy body dementia and suffers terribly with it, and it didn't need to happen.
At the same time, my son has neurodevelopmental problems and food intolerance problems, and has had no NHS help at all. He has now dropped out of school with mental health problems because his childhood has been so hard. That didn't need to happen either, if they had spent a tiny fraction of the intensive care money on getting him a little bit of help early on.
Everybody keeps saying the NHS is struggling because we have an aging population. That's only happening because of decisions that consultants and relatives make about prolonging life. I wish they would think about the quality of life that a person can look forward to, before they make the decision to treat.
I think we ourselves need to have a national debate about this stuff, and where money should be spent, and what is a compassionate approach to medical care for the elderly. I don't want to end up the way my Mum is now. I hate seeing her suffer, and I hate seeing my son suffer too. It all makes no sense.