What is the point of breasts?

[Kjones27]

I have absolutely massive breasts. They are huge. And I'm only five foot 3.

They are so heavy. They are so hard to dress. I considered a breast reduction at one point but I decided I couldn't put myself through the surgery.

They are so heavy and huge.

And they just seem utterly pointless..their main reason to exist is to feed babies. I have never had children and never will have any. I don't want them.

I just think what's the point of them. I'm sure I read somewhere that most mammals only develop breasts after they have children.
That humans are very unusual to develop breasts and keep them for life.

This is exactly what mine were/did.

The downside for me is that the skin obviously stretched to accommodate the engorgement during the pg and bfing years, and while the boobs shrank back down, the skin didn’t really, so I’m much saggier than I’d like to be at my age. They feel very ‘empty’ although I am now on HRT and they’ve grown a little bit again, so are filling the skin a bit better 😂

Mine have different personalities. The left one is smaller and well behaved. It sits happily in the bra cup and never causes me any problems.

The right one is bigger and more rebellious. It climbs out of the cup and tries to escape. It's also more uncomfortable and gets trapped underneath me when I'm in bed. When I breastfed ds it used to shoot milk out into his poor little face.

Nipples off, t section cut underneath, tissue removed, skin put back and stitched. Nipples sewn back on. Basically.

Isn't it partly for attracting a mate? Same as wide hips, both indicating good childbearing potential to males in the past. Not sure how accurate it is but remember hearing it.

Thanks for sharing.

But eek ! I'm so nervy that made me feel nervous

Well done to the brave women who did it.

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This might be naive, but could they not just suck out fat?

I have implants and really bloody regret them. Such a nuisance

I also had a reduction before I had the implants and was really a very easy recovery and they looked very neat and tidy. Have it done if it really bothers you

@Geneti

Mine got smaller when I got to a certain weight loss. For me it doesn't come off there first.

I’ve lost 3st so far… maybe there is still shrinkage possible!

I had a cancerous breast removed 18 months ago. I have a gentle affection for my quirky lopsidedness and knew that fearing the operation wasn't an option in order to save my life. I agree that there's little point to them, though, so have a reduction or live with them.

If you lost weight they’d shrink. Few people who are thinner have massive boobs.

What are the implants for sorry? Lift?

It’s not all about being overweight. I lost weight and was looking forward to my 36ff boobs shrinking to a more manageable size. 30HH wtf! To be honest it’s easier now I’ve put the weight back on.

@Geneti

I found the breast cancer I had/ have when I lost weight from there. Put my finger directly on it. Apparently you can't feel it if it's less than a cm.

I've put weight on since then but I aim to lose it when my treatments finished both to get back to the weight I was and because if it comes back it might help me find it.

The point of mine seems to be directing traffic towards my toes these days!

I've got humungous shoulders atop a slim frame - would be great if I was a hod-carrier, plasterer, etc but these employments weren't much encouraged for women a few years ago.

Finding clothes that fit has always been difficult - and on the few occasions that I've 'dressed up', people have almost been in shock as they thought I was much fatter than I ever was/am, I still have a waist, aged 61.

I'm sure it must be very annoying to have very big tits when you don't even need them, but love them and use them to your advantage, just as I still do with my great big shoulders - I still do stuff that most narrow-shouldered women, and a lot of men my age, just can't do.

I totally get this. I had a mastectomy 3 years ago. I'd always thought if I got breast cancer I would want a reconstruction. Turns out I don't! Mine are minute anyway. In a lot of clothes it doesn't even notice that I have one boob. I'm secure in my DH's love and we both feel the oneboobness is simply a reminder of how lucky we are - the cancer could have been a whole lot worse than it was. When you add in the fact that they only reconstruct the missing breast, so I would have one very perky one and one pointing at the floor, it suddenly seems a bit pointless 😀 When I wear more fitted clothes, a mastectomy bra and softies give me a nice shape. So it's turned out I don't need them at all!

I really feel for you OP. Having a tiny frame but big breasts must be very painful on your back and shoulders. I knew a girl at school who said from 15 she was going to save for a reduction as they were ruining her life, stopping her doing sport etc.
I have small ones. They didn’t change size really during pregnancy and I didn’t breastfeed either child. Shape changed a b it now I am a bit older but can’t complain.

@Untethered well I had hypoplasia so I had one D cup boob and one B cup. The D cup had gone saggy after dd1 so I had it reduced but then I decided to put the implants in both sides to sort of even them up further. I should have just stuck with the reduced boob. I’m a g cup now which wasn’t the plan

Bit off topic but does anyone know WHY breasts also dramatically change size after pregnancy. My breasts are much bigger - about 3/4 cup sizes - than before I got pregnant. Same thing happened to my mum. But I also know people with huge busts who become flat chested after breastfeeding.

Genuinely curious - is this to do with milk ducts? Fat in breasts? Breast tissue? If anyone knows please do explain 😂

Also a pp said breasts developed to attract a mate - why would they change after pregnancy then? Why such dramatically different sizes on all women? Am kinda fascinated now

Yeah why do women have so much different breast sizes.

Say with penis size. The difference is a couple of inches between men

Breast size difference varies hugely.

No it doesn't enforce that at all.

In fact I would argue, and have argued many times that it's actually women who are often not allowed to moan and have issues, not men!

All of those mens mental health campaigns seem to have left some kind of impression in society that women have it way easier when it comes to mental health issues or seeking support for them or being heard, which is absolute nonsense in my experience.

In my experience when men suffer from mental health issues etc people listen, when it's women then people don't, specifically the people who should be supporting the woman and sharing the load.

I don't know how many threads on here I've seen over the years with women wondering how to support their depressed partner but it's a lot and it's around the same amount of threads I've read on here over the years where a woman is suffering from PND or depression etc and the partner doesn't give a flying fuck!

In real life I have experience of this also, as do my friends, and whenever I hear about a woman going missing and no foul play is suspected, I always think that I bet that woman was crying out for a break for a long long time and just didn't get it!

And here we are on this thread and women are discussing womens issues and you're trying to tell them it's not allowed because it enforces the idea that men can't have issues?????

I assume it's to do with hormones.
I randomly grew boobs in my 30s!
I've always been on the lower end of a healthy BMI but stored a decent amount of fat on my bum and thighs considering my weight was so low. My mid section was always so lean so I suppose the fat that should have been there went to my bum and thighs!

I'd say I went up to a small B max during pregnancy, no growth afterwards and then in my early 30s they grew to a full 32c but my weight stayed the same.

on the surgery - they don’t always take the nipple off. Mine stayed on!

its not small surgery - it took a while to recover fully but I haven’t regretted it once. I understand the concerns about the general anaesthetic especially when you’ve had personal experience of it going wrong.

I always wonder if I could employ a boob holder - someone to hold them up for me for a bit, for a bit of a break. It feels like it could go wrong quite quick though.