Ex partner reducing maintenance because he has other children.

[sandyofthesea]

ExH and I share a daughter. He has always paid maintenance of the same amount every month since we split even after his children with new partner were born. He has now said he is going to reduce maintenance in around 6 months because he has other children.

I’m not sure what to think. Part of me thinks okay, he has more kids to pay for. But I also feel why should DD miss out.

Just to add he is a very good Dad. There is no animosity between us, or myself and his wife, but something just feels a bit off. I can’t put my finger on it.

What are other peoples opinions/experiences please? AIBU to feel this way?

It's just people seem to be getting confused because they think that maintenance and those additional costs are the same thing!

I'm fascinated by all the people who think that 50/50 custody means that all the costs are covered and don't seem to consider the larger expenses that pop up.

You and your ex seem to have a very equal responsibility split when it comes to purchasing the clothes and taking them to appointments etc. but in a lot of cases that is not what happens, which is why sometimes one parent (most often the father) will in fact still be contributing financially to the other parent.

That wouldn't be subsidizing the OPs part of the 50/50 like many seem to be suggesting!

@kkloo thank you. This was what I was trying to understand. You've now explained it.