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Is this cheeky?

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Isthischeek · 01/03/2024 22:19

Acquaintance I don’t know very well but trying to become friendly with asked me to go to an activity today - just us two no one else. When I got there she told me she has a two vouchers which will expire Sunday so used them to buy ticket. No cost at all to her so basically free. I said she didn’t need to do that and I could have brought my own ticket she said I can just put the amount I would have paid in her bank account. I didn’t think much about it. Got home and she messaged me her bank details.

I’ve transferred the £31.50 into her account. She got the tickets free from work btw and has had them for 6 months, some I think she said she used up but didn’t use her last 2 which she did today. They expire Sunday. It’s an activity I would never had done but I messaged her last week to get lunch/dinner today as she’s been asking me to let her know some dates I’m free and she suggested this activity. No mention of vouchers at that time for context. I didn’t want to appear rude so just said sounds good.

Do you think this is cheeky or just makes sense?

OP posts:
JJathome · 03/03/2024 11:09

I’m in two minds, you expected to pay your way, and I think she didn’t offer you a free visit. You wanted to go. As much as I’d not do this, I can see if money was tight why someone would.

JJathome · 03/03/2024 11:10

Isthischeek · 02/03/2024 15:45

I’ve been talking to some people IRL about this and they cannot believe she did this. One was so shocked and asked me why I would pay for something that she got free for. I was trying to explain the awkwardness of it if not paying. This wasn’t just a work colleague but someone I thought was becoming a good friend. She is by no means struggling for money, on a very high wage in fact. I think it was more of a “why should she get to do this for free” which shows a horrible attitude she has actually

Oh if you’re sure she’s not struggling for money then that’s very odd behaviour

Banana1979 · 03/03/2024 11:10

Perplexed and astounded, you actually sent her the money

DrJoanAllenby · 03/03/2024 11:14

'. I said she didn’t need to do that and I could have brought my own ticket she said I can just put the amount I would have paid in her bank account. '

Seriously? Why on earth didn't you laugh and say that you weren't going to be so stupid as to buy something off her that she got for free just so that she could have company at an activity?

The mind boggles that so many women on here are doormats allowing their so called friends and family to wipe their feet on them.

Your friend is a chancer and thanks to you she is a successful chancer!

Zaxi · 03/03/2024 12:02

Isthischeek · 01/03/2024 22:40

I work with her. Work offer many incentives for free at Xmas time. You can have vouchers such as free cinema tickets, restaurant money off etc. you have 3 months to use. I usually pass mine onto my DC as they use often.

when I got there I didn’t realise she paid using her voucher, I thought she paid with her own money that’s why I offered to pay her back. She told me then she had 2 vouchers left and it’s expiring Sunday (that part was accurate!).

How many times have you taken her out on your free tickets?

Incentives while most likely not part of your contractual income, do form a part of what she sees as her pay. I.e. she wouldnt have them if she doesnt work there

Brainded · 03/03/2024 12:04

Why did you offer to pay them?? I’m confused 🫤

Februaryfeels · 03/03/2024 12:16

It's a shame you're giving her the benefit of the doubt

Yes you offered, but any decent person would have refused

She's mean and cheeky. Not someone I'd want to be courting as a friend

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