Is this cheeky?

[Isthischeek]

Acquaintance I don’t know very well but trying to become friendly with asked me to go to an activity today - just us two no one else. When I got there she told me she has a two vouchers which will expire Sunday so used them to buy ticket. No cost at all to her so basically free. I said she didn’t need to do that and I could have brought my own ticket she said I can just put the amount I would have paid in her bank account. I didn’t think much about it. Got home and she messaged me her bank details.

I’ve transferred the £31.50 into her account. She got the tickets free from work btw and has had them for 6 months, some I think she said she used up but didn’t use her last 2 which she did today. They expire Sunday. It’s an activity I would never had done but I messaged her last week to get lunch/dinner today as she’s been asking me to let her know some dates I’m free and she suggested this activity. No mention of vouchers at that time for context. I didn’t want to appear rude so just said sounds good.

Do you think this is cheeky or just makes sense?

She's not a decent person. Keep your distance

Why did you respond with,’’I could have bought my own’’ OP? She invited you specifically so she could use up the free tickets. She may not have got the opportunity to use them at all if you hadn’t have agreed to go with her If she didn’t want to go alone. A simple thank you would have sufficed. She is very cheeky expecting payment though, I wouldn’t bother with her again. She’s made £31.50 profit out of you for sod all.

If she is broke then I guess it makes sense, but if I was her I would've been more subtle, like "I'll get the tickets, just send the cash" then produce the vouchers on the sly, or at least casually at the desk. Not telling you about them as it makes it obvious she's got a profit out of the exchange which isn't what you want from a friendly meeting.

Bloody cheeky. I would be wary. It's mean of spirit - any kind of friend new or otherwise would have said 'I have these tickets that expire soon would be good if we could use them'

I won a weekend spa voucher once but didn't want to go on my own, so I asked if I could swap it for a two person day voucher. I took a friend, we had a great time and we both thoroughly enjoyed the freebie.

She's transactional - not friendship material.

Yes, this.

@Isthischeek It doesn't really suggest that she's a nice person, at best maybe thoughtless, selfish, or even silly. I wouldn't invest much time/energy in this friendship. See how it goes, if you like, but don't get caught out again.

@RogueFemale she's not been caught out, she agreed to go out with an aqutence not a friend and pay for an activity. That's what happened. A friend is a different matter because you go out with someone you like and care how money is split between friends. Friends use vouchers to take friend out. Can't get upset over an 'aquantence' when she agreed to go out

I don't understand why you paid her for a voucher? Especially something you didn't even want to do. Why did you even offer to do this? If I had a voucher I'd happily want my friend to use it!

Ah OK. Sorry missed this. I'd actually say something like I didn't realise you used you vouchers, that's why I gave you money. Next time we have drinks, they're on you! 😉

It is a bit cheeky but I guess if you wanted to go and were happy to pay entrance cost then you haven’t lost anything. Maybe money is tight for her and because you offered she thought she would take you up on it.

When you say brought, do you mean bought?

I would have offered to buy her coffee and cake! Cheeky cow!!

Get a life

Wow, seriously? She basically made money off OP, CF at its finest. I'd totally ditch this 'friend'

It grates on me too when people confuse these two very different words

I’ve been talking to some people IRL about this and they cannot believe she did this. One was so shocked and asked me why I would pay for something that she got free for. I was trying to explain the awkwardness of it if not paying. This wasn’t just a work colleague but someone I thought was becoming a good friend. She is by no means struggling for money, on a very high wage in fact. I think it was more of a “why should she get to do this for free” which shows a horrible attitude she has actually

It is really awful of her. I can’t think of anyone who would behave this way.

I’m quite a frugal person but I’m frugal with myself, I wouldn’t screw over a friend like this.

I think your offer to pay may have been unnecessary and may have triggered her letting you pay but obviously she shouldn't have shaken you down for a freebie.

Cringe and grabby! I’d never do this!

Surely a normal person would get home and on reflection say no of course I'm not going to send my bank details. And leave it at that.

So she got 2 free tickets and made £31.50 profit out of you?
What a cheeky bastard!!
She's got more front than Blackpool!! Bin her off pronto!!

Send her a message back saying "Hi Friend, I have thought some more about the event that we went to earlier and realised that you got the tickets for free so I actually didn't need to pay you for them or contribute to them at all. My bank account details are <include your bank details> so if you could transfer the money back to me, that would be great"

Then you'll know where you stand with her.

I think you’re spot on here. I wouldn’t have expected to pay for free tickets but I would have covered lunch/drinks as a thank you.

I would transfer over the £30 but not be overly keen to go out with that person again

For?

Profiting from the good will of your employer? Maybe they won't be so happy to employ her then...grabby bitch.

It is a horrible attitude to have. What she should have said was, “don’t be daft. These are the free tickets we get from work.”

Even people who like to pay their own way and not be beholden don’t pay for freebie’s on the skewed principle if it hadn’t been free ther would have had to pay.

It would be like asking for tap water in a restaurant and then asking to pay the price of bottled water.

I hope you’re won’t continue socialising with her because things like this will happen over and over again. It’s who she is