Having seconds before finishing rest

[theprettywreckless]

Which opinion would you think would be unreasonable?

A: child wants more chicken but hasn’t finished their veg. They have seconds of chicken and don’t end up finishing their veg.

B: Child shouldn’t get more chicken until they have finished their veg. Doesn’t finish all of their veg so doesn’t get more chicken.

It really depends on the child, tbh.

Is the chicken the only safe food for the child? If so, I would look to include others in future alongside the chicken for more variety, but give it to them now

Is there more chicken available? If so, they should be able to have some, as long as everyone else has also been served

I cannot deny another person their chicken

B

B is unreasonable. Chicken is a healthy protein. Bizarre to restrict it just to show that you're the boss.

A

Sorry, I meant I would do A. B is unreasonable!

B
Balanced diet not just the nice ( and expensive ) bits

B is unreasonable. I'd encourage them to eat some veg, but there's nothing wrong with chicken. I'd have zero interest in creating a battle over healthy food.

If it’s stuff they normally like and eat, rather than something you’re trying them with, then B. Chicken alone does not a balanced diet make.

I'd ask if they could eat a bit more veg but never make them finish the lot if they didn't want to.
Chicken is healthy enough, I'd rather they ate that than be hungry later.

B
Altho I understand some children have eating disorders or aren't NT.

Altho my daughter is autistic and I still make her eat her veg before she can ask for seconds. But she doesn't have major issues around food. Just takes a bit of prompting sometimes.

Eating veg is a hard boundary of mine. I don't have a lot of rules as a parent.. but finishing veg before eating desert or seconds, is one of them. And I do explain to my children that I want them to get max nutrients from food before they fill up on less nutritionally valuable foods.

Seconds don’t start until firsts are finished. Simples 😃

You need your chicken while you still have vegetables to eat with it.

I never make a fuss around food

B is unreasonable . As long have they have some veg I would never insist anyone eats everything on their plates. Making an issue of food is never a good idea

And just to clarify, I don't force my children to eat all of their vegetables if they are genuinely full.. I'm just not going to give them extra food or sweets if they haven't eaten the vegetables that were on their plate to begin with.

I also don't ever serve them vegetables that they genuinely dislike. I might ask that they at least try any new food.. but if they dislike it then I avoid cooking it again. But I am lucky to have kids that don't have any real issues with food, they only dislike a few thing.

If they had eaten a reasonable amount of veg already, more chicken is fine. I'd prob bargain, eg. Eat 4 more carrot slices and then you can have more.

If they'd only eaten chicken but eaten bugger all veg, then I'd say eat more veg first and then see about more chicken.

Both unreasonable imo. I’d say that they can have some more chicken but I want them to eat x more mouthfuls of veg while I’m getting it. But I wouldn’t police that very rigorously. Food isn’t worth fighting over imo.

I know everyone's obsessed with veg, but I'd see getting the protein I to them as just as important. Unless there's was some reason the chicken couldn't be spared I'd let them have it.

They need to eat some vegetables, preferably something green.

As long as they’d had some veg I’d be happy to give them more chicken

i don’t believe in creating battles over food when it’s not necessary. We do serve yourself and everyone has to have a little bit of everything, but can have more/less depending on what they’re in the mood for. My younger children are better eaters than my older ones and I think it’s very much because of that (plus personality)

Just give them the chicken! It’s not like they wanted ice cream instead of eating their veg.

I wouldn’t force a dc to eat anything and I certainly wouldn’t let them go hungry if more of what they did like was available. B reminds me of my dgm who was generally quite nice but got very upset about food waste. I wasn’t a fussy child and I ate most things but I remember trying to force down some braised cabbage that I hated and nearly being sick. I refused to even have it on my plate after that. Funnily enough as an adult I quite like it. I might have discovered that sooner if I hadn’t been pushed to eat it when I didn’t want to.