Fed up of my DH's travelling for work - AIBU

[FedUpSittingHereAloneEveryNight]

My DH has always travelled for work. There have been times when it has really got to me, and other times I've just sucked it up. I have 3 DC to keep me company, so was distracted by that. I have no family near me to help out, nor do my DH's family help me out. There are upsides to it, that we have a bit of spare cash.

So, in the past month, I have seen my DH for 3 days. He went away for a week, came back for a day, repeat and rinse. He's been away for a week, back in a few days. I'm not sure when the next trip is, could be in a few weeks, could be next month.

My DC are older now and want to hang out with their friends so there is no more going away with them for weekends, going to watch a Disney movie etc. at the pictures. It's mostly me, in front of the TV, go to bed early and the occasion night out with friends.

I'm just bored of it. I do have a job, but it is the nights that annoy me.

I couldn't tell you where he is, or even if he is on business, or if he is finished and he is just having a jolly for a few days sightseeing at the end. For all I know he could have 3 families dotted round the world and this is the annual trip to see them.

On one hand I tell myself, suck it up if you want your mortgage paid and your 2 weeks in a nice hotel in July. On the other I think, is this any life? If I was single, at least I'd have the opportunity to go out and meet someone else.

I guess this is just a rant. I have the flu, and something happened today that I needed his help on. I called him, but he didn't answer and now I feel upset.

AIBU - would you just suck it up for a nicer life
YANBU - life is too short to be waiting around for your partner to come back

My wife can accompany me on any business travel if she wants to, often doesn't because the places are boring. Why don't you go?

I don't travel as much now as we grew the department and I can now delegate travel to the other staff. Is this a option?

My DH works away Sunday to Friday (lorry driver). Only been doing it for 3 months so we're still getting used to it, but he said if we find it's effecting our marriage or family too much then he will stop. Before this he was on nights for a while and we didn't see him much more than we do now. Though he does 70+ hours most weeks and sleeps most of Saturday to recover, then spends Sunday getting ready for the next week. Not a lot of quality time together!

He isn't much into socialising though, or 'fun' things, so we wouldn't be doing much if he were home anyway. I've realised if I want to do more (which I do now DCs are older), I'll have to do it alone and make some new friends.
We live rurally and not much for me to do here, we're relocating in a few months and although DH would rather rural again I've said I want a town. Mostly for the teen DCs, but also because I'd like to be near things I can do so I can have a hobby or go swimming or something.

OP, you need to talk to your DH if this isn't working for your marriage.

Can you not discuss it with him to see if he can at least be home at weekends? Put it to him you'd like to see him more and spend more time with him. If that's his job I wouldn't be asking him to stop trips in the week, but he should be able to come home at weekends. Or, can you join him for a weekend or two wherever he is?

If the above is a non-starter then can you join any local groups so you're out the house 1-2 evenings a week or do a group course online in something that interests you? I also travel for work, I always try to be home for weekends though and try to make it up to DH by doing something nice together.

What's the point of the marriage? If you divorced, you'd be free, could live where you want, and the man could still occasionally visit you as that's all he does now.

Get in the car and find new hobbies. Don't sit and wait for 'your man'. He's carrying on with life, you do the same