Aibu to not get up early?

[LateRiserLazyCow]

In my late 40s, kids left the nest, and have realised that I'm just not a morning person!
During covid lockdown my body clock seemed to find its own rhythm and I found myself going to bed around 1-2am and waking around 9 or 10am. I'm lucky that after struggling with working early mornings for years I've been able to find a job starting later in the day.
This is all good but I get alot of stick from people for supposedly being 'lazy' because I'm not up at bloody 6am like them. Constantly exclaiming horror at me still being in bed when they've been up for hours!
Why are they so judgemental! You live your life and stop judging me for living mine...

@Lizzieregina we are leaving on holiday tomorrow with my partner. We both like to not get up too early and no need to rush. Hotel brekafats till 11. Amazing. Can happily have a slow morning. We went to NYC last year and due to time difference we woke up super early (like 8) and we didn't know what to do with ourselves when we were out thw door 9am looking for a cafe. That's earlier than we head to work 😅

I have kids so can't allowy body clock to do it's natural thing but if I was in your shoes, I'd absolutely sleep until 9, start work at 10 till 6.30 and stay up until 2

A smug early retired no kids woman here. In Winter I'll go to bed before midnight and will stay there next morning until I feel like getting out of the bed. Usually because I need the loo for the fourth or fifth time, or get a cramp in my leg! There is nothing nicer than getting up on a cold morning to dash to the loo, then to climb back into bed that is toasty with a fab electric blanket. zzzzzzz.

I will do what I want now, having done the stupid o'clock starts for nearly 40 years. Never again will I be a slave to a clock. My family knows (they have been told) that anything before 11am is not an option for a visit. They know now.

I do make exceptions of course for trips away, early flights, that kind of thing. Have to.

And tomorrow, heavens above..... just got a text to say my new bedroom furniture will be delivered between 8am and 2pm. My system will be shattered with that early start. And knowing my luck the delivery will come at 2pm.

The sanctimonious 5 am gym bunnies, who follow that with a five mile run, then pilates on the kitchen floor, then breakfast from an organic smoothie maker, and a twelve hour day in corporate something or other, can go do one. I. Don't. Care.

I'm a night owl too, can't operate before 10am even if I slept at 10pm the night before. My productivity level starts as soon as I wake up until bedtime again after 1am and I'm non stop during those hours.

We went on holiday one time with another family with early risers who were at breakfast at 7:30am and were nearly asleep at 7:30pm for dinner. They were at the pool at 9am but couldn't go in as it wasn't warm enough and also the pool being in the shade meant they just sat there with their towels wrapped waiting for life to happen whereas me and my family were down at breakfast by 10am and by the pool by 11:30am and non stop swimming until 6pm. The other family had to trot off by 4pm to "rest" in their rooms before dinner time and still knackered at dinner going back to their rooms by 10pm missing out on entertainment. Im not saying the other family got the shit end of the stick or anything for their natural/preferred circadian rhythms, just observation that my rhythm is much more fullfilling 😂

I hate to be that poster but how do people know what time you get up?

I cannot remember the last time I've had the "what time do you get up?" conversation with anyone?

I mean I know my work colleagues must get up at some stage before 9am as that's when we are all online.

I know fellow school run mums must be up at some point before 8am as I see them everyday at 8.30am but I never have an actual conversation about it?

Oh I love that I've just found this post. After struggling sleeping all of my adult life, I discovered during lockdown that I was able to sleep much better going to bed early, waking perhaps for a bit during the night, listening to podcasts and knowing I didn't have to get up on zero sleep and function, I eventually started to relax. (Also gave up drinking way too much wine which had become a bad nightly habit and is shit for sleeping). I now live mainly alone with my dog and cat, go to bed about 8pm to read, scroll, watch tv for a bit, and get up when I want. It's utter bliss. I sometimes take myself off to bed in the afternoon, too, and occasionally have a 'party for one' in bed too. A nice bath, a glass of fizz, nibbles - it's just heaven being on my own after years of abusive partners. Never living with anyone again and don't care whether people think it's lazy. Do what you want OP. Worrying what other people think is a waste of your brain cells. 😄

@Crunchymum only last week a family member had something to drop off at my house, she turned up at 9am and I answered the door in my dressing gown. The look of horror on her face,
She asked me if I was ill or something!
Also years ago went away with the ex-PIL and staggered down again somewhere around 9ish to make a coffee to be greeted with sarcastic "well, GOOD AFTERNOON!"
Greetings to my fellow night owls!
Don't get my wrong, I can and will get up earlier when I need to but I'd rather not😁

Just lie to them or tell em to f off, u done the hard yards time for u now, u wanna lay in then do it fuck it

I used to be in my dressing gown nearly every day at 11am when the postman would knock with Amazon deliveries. I used to pretend I worked shifts 😆.
My parents sit upright on their sofas (no feet up) until 11pm, and rise at 7am, and my mother will have baked a cake and be at the shops by 9. I think it's a generational thing. And cruelly, we were never allowed a lie in, in peace, as kids!

@Crunchymum i was asked at work last week why I looked so rough. Simple answer was because I had to get up early. They were shocked to realise that 6am starts are not my norm. I usually start work at 2pm and therefore only experience one six o’clock per day and that is most definitely 6PM.
Its the last time I volunteer for over time.

We went to NYC last year and due to time difference we woke up super early (like 8) and we didn't know what to do with ourselves when we were out thw door 9am looking for a cafe.
I used to work in New York and worked roughly noon til 8/9 pm (in an office). It was the early days of the internet and lots of people worked similar hours.
Was perfect because we’d be in a great restaurant by 9 for dinner, then bar/ gig hopping until 1/2 am 😁It’s a late night city so being up and out at 9.00 would be a bit of a shame. Even the Met etc used to be open late into the night, as well as loads of shops.

This early reply is spot on.

Like a pp I'd sleep 1am til 9am and read newspapers before getting up. Not being good in the morning was yet another reason I was best not having children.
Night owls are more creative intelligent and interesting than sanctimonious early birds imho

I would love to be a night owl. As it goes, I’m neither 😩 go to bed at 10:30, fall asleep usually some time before 11 and get up at 8. I wish I could be one or the other but I don’t like early mornings or late nights

I’m the same as you OP. My natural rhythm is definitely later hours. I actually feel well when I do that, as opposed to a little bit like I’m dragging myself about, which I do when I live lark hours (as I have to most of the time!).

It really annoys me how morning people feel they are so superior. But don’t think it’s lazy to be in bed by 9 of course!

Luckily, my owl tendencies mean I'm awake and as with-it as I'll ever be during online meetings and webinars based in the West Coast of the US or in Australia.

It's working well for my career, but the larks find that very difficult, and the smug among them get a taste of their own medicine. 😂

I’ve been both over the course of my life so don’t really judge either way. I mostly WFH now and I like getting up and working early so that I can finish earlier and have time for exercise in the afternoon. Even though I get up early now I still don’t like early morning exercise, I like to ease into the day without an exhausting commute and/or am exercise session.

Agree.
Some posters on a different thread were appalled that I found a dawn chorus at about 4am really annoying. I find anything that wakes me before about 7am annoying, it's not that I hate birds singing I just don't want to hear them or anything else that early! Lots of people seem to feel virtuous for exercising really early in the morning. I still exercise...just at a time I find more civilised!

My ideal day would be waking around 8.30am and going to bed at midnight.

I order a lot on Amazon and online shopping and the delivery drivers see me in my nightie or dressing gown all the time. I don't care any more. I draw the line at going to the shops in my PJs but only just. I love 11.30-12.30pm to sleep in til after 8. Anything with a 7 in it is a tad too early and anything before 7am is ungodly. I never ever adjusted to those early mornings.

I’m similar, I’ve found following the ‘2 sleeps’ pattern really helpful.

YANBU. I’m also not a morning person. You can criticism them your saying up late.

My delivery drivers always see me in a dressing gown with bed hair. I felt so awkward I told my regular one that I worked nights which is why he always gets me out of bed. I feel dreadful now as every time I open the door to him he apologises for waking me when I’ve been working. 😂. Mind you, I did nights on and off for my entire career so I’ve just shifted the truth a bit. 🤭

I only get up early because I'm forced to (school drop off and work)

It's absolute shite and I hate it. I could honestly cry when my alarm goes off.

Yes, these 'up with the larks' twats are insufferable.

I’m a night owl but infuriatingly my body also likes to be up with the birds.
i usually get about 4-5 hours of sleep.
I hate mornings but tend to have my eyes ping open at 6:30 and I get to sleep around 2am. I’ve been like this as long as I can remember and I don’t often feel tired.
HOWEVER I can easily lie in bed for hours in the morning, either with a book or telly or phone. I don’t start work (from home 4 days a week) until 8:45 but have to get up anyway to get ds up at 6:45. When he was on half term it was bliss as I didn’t have to get out of bed until about 15 minutes before I logged on, quick shower and brush teeth and sat at my desk.
He was poorly for 2 weeks before half term and was off school, the upside of this was that I ultimately had 3 weeks of having some extra lounging about in bed time before having to start work!
I can’t wait for the days where I no longer have to get him up for school and do him breakfast - what age does this usually happen?!
I don’t remember this from when dds were his age because he was the youngest and I already had to be up for him.

I definitely benefited going to NYC …I was up and breakfasted by 8 am 😂