I had a friend over last night for a catch up. She’s a single mum to a 14 year old. She was really upset and venting about how her child gets treated compared to the kids her ex went on to have with his now wife.
She couldn’t understand how he can be what appears a great dad to his youngest two children but pretty mediocre to their child.
A few examples are he’s never shown any interest in their DC school life, never took their DC to school, picked up, been to assembly, parents evening, he leaves it all to her saying he’s working so can’t. Yet he does the school run for his kids, he goes to their celebration assembly’s, parents evening.
Has took his DC on abroad holidays and some of these are long haul. Her child only gets invited to UK breaks when they go.
Never spends any 1:1 time with their DC as he says it unfair to leave his other DC out but takes his other kids out 1:1 When their DC isn’t around! Posting about his daddy/daughter days on his social media or her DC gets told all about it when she’s over.
Never been to a docs, dentist app.
How it appears from the outside is that he really is a hands on capable dad to the children with his wife but can hardly lift a finger to send a text to their child.
What makes someone act like this?
Incase it’s relevant my friend and her ex were only together a very short amount of time when she got pregnant and they split up before their DC was even born.