Is he too full-on or is this just normal interest?

[Pizzzzza]

Yesterday met a guy for coffee for a couple of hours, a friend of a friend who I've already spoken to a bit.
He seemed nice enough, wouldn't say there was a massive spark but we had a great conversation.
After leaving we texted a bit and then he told me he's going to see a film tomorrow evening (I'm working) and joked i would've been welcome to join if I hadn't been working/it was a bit out of my way. I just sent a polite reply.
Anyway he's just texted me 30 minutes ago saying he'd really like to see me again next week if I'm free , we could go see a film or just hang out.
Not sure if he's being too full on or am I just not into him?

Shall I just say I'm busy and hope he gets the hint?

If you don't want to see him again just tell him. No point making excuses

I don't want to hurt his feelings.. does he sound OTT or just normal interest? I can't tell. He hasn't said anything else.

That's not full on at all.

Tell him you aren't feeling it.

Just tell him you're not interested, in a nicer way. No point in making him think this might become something in the future.

I don't know why but if I had said that to him people would've been saying it's full on.

If you aren't interested it doesn't really matter if his level of interest is normal or not. It doesn't raise red flags to me but it may not sit quite right with you. You might want to get to know him over time with a meeting once a week for example.

Not full on at all. But you aren't interested, so just let him know

Yeah, like he didn't ask me to meet tomorrow or something, he just said Monday onwards as he was busy over the weekend. Maybe I'm judging too harshly.

I thought about just telling him I'm working a lot next week so I'll have to let him know, seems kinder than just saying no?

Do you want to see him again?

He sounds perfectly normal to me - he’s asked for a low key meeting a week later, he’s not booked an all inclusive weekend in Paris for tomorrow! If you’d rather not then just tell him that, stalling and hinting is much more likely to hurt his feelings than a straightforward “Thanks for coffee, enjoyed our conversation but I don’t see this going anywhere, sorry.”

i don’t understand how it’s full on? He’s asked you out on a second date next week. How do you think dating progresses? If you’re not into him just say no thanks

Why does it matter if he's too full on or normal if you don't want to see him again anyway?

You either do or you don't.

I don't know, the cinema just seems intense. He just threw it out there as a suggestion though, but it just feels a lot.

What's wrong with saying no?

Do you think you'll break his heart, or he'll just think 'Ahh ok, that's a shame'?

Is this a wind up?

The cinema seems intense? Seriously?

Eh? Intense?

How old are you OP? Have you done much dating? This all sounds completely normal to me.

The cinema is probably the least intense place as you don’t have to talk!

No, that's perfectly normal, not full on at all. Just tell him if you're not feeling it.

Just tell him thanks for a lovely time but you aren’t feeling a spark so will not be taking it further. I don’t get why you’re making this all so complicated?

Im just convinced that if I'd asked him that it'd have been considered full-on, I don't know why. Yeh I've been too harsh.

Would feeding the ducks have been a little less tense?

Blimey. How on earth do people date if this is how it goes these days?

This is a prime example of why we shouldn’t blindly trust posters intuitions, as per the other thread!