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Is he too full-on or is this just normal interest?

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Pizzzzza · 23/02/2024 18:01

Yesterday met a guy for coffee for a couple of hours, a friend of a friend who I've already spoken to a bit.
He seemed nice enough, wouldn't say there was a massive spark but we had a great conversation.
After leaving we texted a bit and then he told me he's going to see a film tomorrow evening (I'm working) and joked i would've been welcome to join if I hadn't been working/it was a bit out of my way. I just sent a polite reply.
Anyway he's just texted me 30 minutes ago saying he'd really like to see me again next week if I'm free , we could go see a film or just hang out.
Not sure if he's being too full on or am I just not into him?

OP posts:
Pizzzzza · 23/02/2024 19:44

You're right, I'd probably take it at face value too so I just need to be upfront.

OP posts:
Parentofeanda · 23/02/2024 20:25

Your being weird here .... He sounds completely normal ....

Lorrainedrops · 06/05/2024 22:40

Pizzzzza · 23/02/2024 18:08

I don't know, the cinema just seems intense. He just threw it out there as a suggestion though, but it just feels a lot.

How is the cinema intense lol, you're in the dark not talking lol. Just be honest, if you don't want to see him again.

Lorrainedrops · 29/05/2024 19:01

Userengage · 23/02/2024 18:23

If you mean it (i.e you could use more friends) say that but I think it’s might give him false hope if he’s hoping for more.

I agree

Londonscallingme · 29/05/2024 19:04

Do this guy a favour and cut him loose.

Justcallmebebes · 29/05/2024 19:15

This was Feb time. What happened OP? Did you see him again?

Onesipmore · 29/05/2024 19:18

To be honest Ive never viewed the cinema as intense!

YoureALizardHarry11 · 29/05/2024 19:23

Pizzzzza · 23/02/2024 18:07

I thought about just telling him I'm working a lot next week so I'll have to let him know, seems kinder than just saying no?

Be honest with him. Your way is not kinder, because either he will take it at face value and hope you’re telling the truth and it leaves him hanging, or he will know you don’t want to see him again and don’t have the guts to be honest. People are grown ups, most can take rejection with dignity. Just say ‘’it’s been lovely to meet you, we had a great conversation, I just didn’t think we were right for each other but I wish you all the best x’ he will respect you more.

It wasn’t full on at all, by the way, it was a normal level of interest.

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