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To be irritated by this £100k a year whiner

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Viviennemary · 22/02/2024 23:52

On Question Time tonight they were talking about subsidised childcare and the new benefits for younger children. Then a woman came on with a boo hoo sad face and said she wouldn't be getting it. So I think Fiona Bruce said because your income is £100k a year plus Then she said that it wasnt fair as there was only one wage. And their household only had one earner.

Well tough. Folk on just over £12k a year are paying tax and this cheeky woman thinks her child care should be subsidised. It made me mad.

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StaunchMomma · 23/02/2024 15:15

The problems arise when, as in the case of Child Benefit, one family has one earner who earns above the cut off point (I think it's around £60k) but other families get the benefit when they have 2 earners on just below the cut off, so for example both on around 55k, so earning 110k between 2 parents, and they still get it.

The system isn't awfully fair, IMO. It does need to be looked at.

Wellhellooooodear · 23/02/2024 15:17

Trulyme · 23/02/2024 14:05

It’s ridiculous how out of touch some people are.

She could easily drop a couple of days and have more free time, still get a very good wage and get help with childcare but she’s not doing that because she knows how good she’s got it.

Clueless comment. Most jobs paying £100k would not allow for 'dropping a couple of days'

newmummycwharf1 · 23/02/2024 15:17

MoltenLasagne · 23/02/2024 13:46

I am happy to be a higher rate tax payer and would be equally happy to move to the Swedish model of higher taxes but better quality, universal services.

The thing is, that only works with a wide tax base i.e. everyone paying in their taxes, not just those on higher incomes.
In Sweden, someone on £60k equivalent would pay 37% in taxes, in the UK its just 27%. Someone on £100k would pay 42% overall in taxes, rather than 33% currently. These people are still eligible for all universal benefits such as parental support and subsidised child care.

But someone on £12k (who is working 3 days a week on minimum wage) would pay 25% taxes, whereas they currently don't pay NI or income tax in the UK. Thats a difference of £1k take home a month, and £750 take home a month. Someone on full time minimum wage of £18.8k would pay 27% taxes on their income in Sweden, rather than 11% in the UK.

Now personally I think the Swedish way is better, particularly because their benefits for disabled people, carers and the elderly are much more generous, but it's far different to what so many seem to imagine when they want to "tax the rich more".

Precisely this - in bucket loads! Everybody pays in, every one works unless they are unable to. Less than 10% of mums with kids above 1 are stay at home mums in Sweden versus closer to 30% in the UK. But mat leave is paid for 1 year and childcare is accessible and affordable for all. Tax levels are higher for all too. Now that is fair

MintsPi · 23/02/2024 15:20

Wellhellooooodear · 23/02/2024 15:14

People on just over 12k a year are paying fuck all tax and obviously working part time. I'm not surprised this woman is 'whining' seeing as she's getting up for work everyday, paying tax to subsidise others and getting fuck all back.

Lots of lower paid people are getting up for work everyday and not getting anything back too.

Wellhellooooodear · 23/02/2024 15:25

MintsPi · 23/02/2024 15:20

Lots of lower paid people are getting up for work everyday and not getting anything back too.

Yes I agree. I'm on nowhere near 100k by the way but people who work full time should get help too. Someone on 12k is not working full time.

Minymile · 23/02/2024 15:25

Goldenbear · 23/02/2024 15:13

I mean it has been explained but I'll try again - the OP (of they are genuine) is just aiming their resentment at the wrong people, it is a distraction from the real source of the problem which is the very wealthy. The wealth inequality is not caused by people earning £100,00, we should be addressing our concerns to what is as the OP's complaints are born out of resentment. I was agreeing with others that had posted this.

No doubt you will reply predictably with faux disbelief on any of this being the cause of the rising disgruntlement (anger) in this country over wealth inequality.

The ind rev was mentioned and you responded with non relevant info on the ind rev which was completely missing the point re why the poster mentioned it in the first place. It’s just comprehension
Just as your points to others here have spectacularly missed the point at every turn.
Its seems like they can’t be bothered to engage with the derailing anymore as it’s just so exhausting dealing with such comments that ( I’ll say it again) just constantly miss the point.

babyproblems · 23/02/2024 15:25

BlowDryRat · 23/02/2024 00:19

The point she was making (badly, TBF), is that if she and her DH each earned £99k, they'd get the free childcare but because one of them earns £100k, they get nothing. This means that a family income of £199999.99 can pay £0 for childcare, while a family with a household income of half that on £100000.00 pays £4k a month for the same childcare. This is inherently unfair but it also pushes the lower earner (usually the mother) to either go part-time or become a SAHP. As the woman on NN, was saying this is both bad for the mother who wants to work more and for the economy, which needs women paying income tax to fund pensions, the NHS, support for Ukraine etc

Yes- from this perspective I can totally see how she feels it is discrimination against her for essentially being a single parent. I can see why she’s whining.

The problem with the uk is not other citizens whining- it’s the government policies that put all mothers at a disadvantage with a shit CMS service and total lack of decent childcare funding.

newmummycwharf1 · 23/02/2024 15:25

FatPrincess · 23/02/2024 15:00

In 2024 we bite the hand that feeds and hurt through tax those who are net payers into the system and then are not even thankful to them.

Indeed. And then people moan when they put their money in offshore accounts etc.

Precisely - they absolutely have to. And pay for private education and healthcare and whatever their funds will allow them access to since they dont even have access to support that everyone else does, despite predominantly funding those things!

Jingleballs2 · 23/02/2024 15:33

edwinbear · 23/02/2024 00:28

And doing the maths, if you earn say £13k a year, you’re not exactly ‘paying tax’ are you. It’s £86 a year you contribute. That’s pretty cheap for free childcare.

Exactly

PumpkinsAndCoconuts · 23/02/2024 15:48

BlowDryRat · 23/02/2024 00:19

The point she was making (badly, TBF), is that if she and her DH each earned £99k, they'd get the free childcare but because one of them earns £100k, they get nothing. This means that a family income of £199999.99 can pay £0 for childcare, while a family with a household income of half that on £100000.00 pays £4k a month for the same childcare. This is inherently unfair but it also pushes the lower earner (usually the mother) to either go part-time or become a SAHP. As the woman on NN, was saying this is both bad for the mother who wants to work more and for the economy, which needs women paying income tax to fund pensions, the NHS, support for Ukraine etc

This. It is incredibly unfair for single parent families.

I agree with your argument about the lower earning being pushed to either go part-time or becoming a SAHP. I’m just not sure how it could be prevented.

If both incomes were to be considered, there would be couples with precisely the same issue: if person A works FT as well well we’ll be above the threshold. But if person a works PT we’ll be below the threshold. It might make the issue even worse for them, seeing as not working / PT could potentially have a direct financial benefit regarding childcare.

LevelledPeach · 23/02/2024 15:49

Child benefit and childcare costs should be universal - and paid through taxation.

Earning £100,000 means you pay for the benefits of others and get none yourself.
It's not a good system.

Needtofixmyageingskin · 23/02/2024 15:51

edwinbear · 23/02/2024 00:16

I saw it too, but the reality is that we’re reaching a tipping point in the UK, where people earning those sort of salaries (and it’s not many of them) are propping up the entire country. Somebody earning £12k a year is paying nowhere near enough tax to fund their own DC’s childcare and that woman’s tax bill is funding maybe 3 kids childcare bills plus having to pay for her own on top. And the general consensus from the general public is that she should pay even more. I’m not surprised she’s ’whining’.

Exactly this! It's not right that two ppl in household can each earn £70k but if one earns £100k then no benefit.
On her salary she'll be paying so much tax.
Just because she has a high salary it doesn't mean she's rich once you factor in tax, mortgage, childcare etc.

eise · 23/02/2024 15:55

BIossomtoes · 23/02/2024 07:07

When I lived in scandanavia, everyone got child benefit, everyone got free nursery and everyone got free school including private school and we all got free university.

What was the tax rate? If we paid Scandinavian levels of tax we could have those things too. But, as you can see from this thread, some high earners already feel hard done by - they’d spontaneously combust if their tax bill doubled.

Everyone says this but in reality it's not hugely different from UK tax rate. The Tax calculators are there on their tax office websites. I was sharing this information on Finland and Sweden the other day on this forum and a poster was still arguing despite being presented with the calculators from the tax office.

You also get a huge amount of tax relief for people you employ to do work for you in your home like nannies/ babysitters, plumbers, electrician, house extensions/ renovations etc - once you add that you are actually even better off than the UK and potentially paying less tax.

EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 23/02/2024 15:59

jm9138 · 23/02/2024 00:29

@Viviennemary to put this into perspective, that persons partner earning £100k will be paying £33k a year in income tax to pay for the person on £12k a years benefits, healthcare, education their children have and child care their children have. If she had access to affordable - or god forbid free - childcare the woman with the £100k a year partner may actually be able to work herself and in future pay even more in tax to support the person on £12k.

Some people earn £12k because they are sick or single parents. Some earn £12k because they are low skilled and a bit trapped in often undervalued occupations. Some earn £12k because they couldn’t be bothered at school and have no interest in bettering themselves because they are happy with their lot. But they all rely on the people who did make the effort to better themselves and/or do work hard or stressful jobs that might not always be especially fulfilling to pay the taxes required for the people earning £12k to enjoy the benefits of the welfare state they enjoy.

To be fair the people earning 100k plus are also relying on the services provided by people on a low wage.

It also doesn't really matter if some have 'no interest in bettering themselves', if everyone had the same drive and skills to achieve it would be impossible for everyone to be on 100k or more a year because most of the low paid jobs would still need to be done.

nearlylovemyusername · 23/02/2024 16:14

Jk987 · 23/02/2024 15:07

Be careful. The people who supposedly 'bite the hand that feeds' are the very same people who look after your kids in nursery, clean your bathroom, serve you coffee.

Exactly. This paying hand not only pays taxes but also directly for cleaner, nursery worker and coffee servant jobs. If they decide enough is enough, there won't be both tax and jobs
Yes, be careful

jm9138 · 23/02/2024 16:29

EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 23/02/2024 15:59

To be fair the people earning 100k plus are also relying on the services provided by people on a low wage.

It also doesn't really matter if some have 'no interest in bettering themselves', if everyone had the same drive and skills to achieve it would be impossible for everyone to be on 100k or more a year because most of the low paid jobs would still need to be done.

I don't quite get this.

First off I wasn't bashing the person who has no interest in bettering themselves. But it's true that some of these people exist and fair play to them - they still have the lifestyle they have because other people contribute to that lifestyle. If lower paid people are paid by better paid people to do things then that is a perfectly valid economic transaction. I get paid, they get a service. I am not sure what exactly they get in return from me if there is just a transfer of income from them to me through the tax system. Unless you think that they don't deserve to get paid more than me, which may or may not be the case. But if I choose not to improve my human capital or work more hours or change job, it is probably likely that there will be someone who earns over £100k who did make those choices and now has to subsidise me.

If you think about your second point it does not really make a lot of sense (I don't want to be mean but I can't think of a better way to phrase this). If everyone was enabled and chose to make decisions that maximised their economic opportunities, there would be more engineers and businesses creating tools and machines to remove the need for low paid jobs, more doctors, more money to pay the doctors, more money to pay the low skilled jobs that that still needed to be done. That is the history of economic growth.

We probably agree that how the proceeds of growth have been distributed could have been done a lot better, or that economic growth is not the only (or even the) thing that a society should be aiming for. But it would be strange to argue that the enablement through education and investment in technology that we as a society have undertaken for quite a few generations now has not resulted in higher living standards for everyone, whilst also removing the requirement for a lot of low skilled jobs, did not happen.

If everyone (who can) tries to better themselves or work harder, we are, on the whole, all better off.

AllTheChaos · 23/02/2024 16:39

Trulyme · 23/02/2024 14:05

It’s ridiculous how out of touch some people are.

She could easily drop a couple of days and have more free time, still get a very good wage and get help with childcare but she’s not doing that because she knows how good she’s got it.

Most senior level jobs (which I assume hers is) don’t allow any kind of part time working. Back when I was on that kind of salary, I desperately wanted to drop to 4.5 days a week whilst my Dd was at nursery, just so I’d get to see her sometimes, and was told absolutely no way. And again, in these kinds of jobs your FT hours are less than you actually work. Contracted for 35 hours a week = working 60+ usually.

Ninahaen · 23/02/2024 16:42

OdinsHorse · 23/02/2024 13:02

2000 a month after mortgage?

That's very comfortable.

It’s really not .

bluelavender · 23/02/2024 16:47

We are at risk of developing a very odd tax system where we have personal allowances for some areas and household allowances for others. We don't file tax returns as a household. It should be a personal allowance for child benefit and for childcare

albaalba351 · 23/02/2024 16:52

It's a bit of a straw man argument for people to state that those who have a problem with the current tax situation have a problem with working class workers e.g. cleaners/ hair dressers etc. The reality is that those with a higher salary respect anyone who is working and providing good services for the country. People have no issue with any hard-working family from accessing these services, if they are entitled to them. The problem is actually that everyone that is working needs universal access to things like free childcare and tax credits... it's not fair for those on higher salaries to pay a lot into a system and receive punitive measures back. This is the root cause of the issue. The problem is not with workers on lower salaries! Either everyone who is working should be entitled to this help, or no one should get it.

Goldenbear · 23/02/2024 16:57

Minymile · 23/02/2024 15:25

The ind rev was mentioned and you responded with non relevant info on the ind rev which was completely missing the point re why the poster mentioned it in the first place. It’s just comprehension
Just as your points to others here have spectacularly missed the point at every turn.
Its seems like they can’t be bothered to engage with the derailing anymore as it’s just so exhausting dealing with such comments that ( I’ll say it again) just constantly miss the point.

Again, wealth inequality is relevant to the OP and their disgruntled rant as they are wrongly defining 'wealth' as £100000 of income from a job. They're causing people to pit against one another which is terribly convenient for those that really are 'wealthy' as they are then overlooked. People on the £100000 of the spectrum feeling hard done by, rightly so, others at the other end in disbelief that they are complaining about their high end living on £100000 salary. Meanwhile those sitting pretty on multi million assets are not scrutinised one bit, their wealth doesn't trickle down and they just keep accumulating more and more. If you can get most of the population pitting against each other you can then play on this for political wins - tax cuts anyone, let's leave wealth alone though. You are being completely disingenuous to suggest otherwise.

Trulyme · 23/02/2024 17:00

Wellhellooooodear · 23/02/2024 15:17

Clueless comment. Most jobs paying £100k would not allow for 'dropping a couple of days'

Name me one job that doesn’t allow part time workers.

Needtofixmyageingskin · 23/02/2024 17:11

Trulyme · 23/02/2024 17:00

Name me one job that doesn’t allow part time workers.

A good example is a corporate lawyer in a city firm (my job). Really doesn't lend itself to part time. And can be very long hours.

CutthroatDruTheViolent · 23/02/2024 17:15

Goldenbear · 23/02/2024 12:07

Sorry is this Tory HQ, hilarious, the Lexus, you really haven't a clue!

Sorry you're going to have to be more specific about wtf you're actually trying to say here.

What is Tory about acknowledging that it is easier for people earning more to work round their spends than it is for those earning much less? Or did I hit some Bingo point by picking the only expensive car I could think of?

fleurneige · 23/02/2024 17:15

newmummycwharf1 · 23/02/2024 15:25

Precisely - they absolutely have to. And pay for private education and healthcare and whatever their funds will allow them access to since they dont even have access to support that everyone else does, despite predominantly funding those things!

pardon me?the NHS and State Education are available to all, no?

OP, yes that woman really annoyed me last night! So entitled and out of touch!

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