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To be irritated by this £100k a year whiner

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Viviennemary · 22/02/2024 23:52

On Question Time tonight they were talking about subsidised childcare and the new benefits for younger children. Then a woman came on with a boo hoo sad face and said she wouldn't be getting it. So I think Fiona Bruce said because your income is £100k a year plus Then she said that it wasnt fair as there was only one wage. And their household only had one earner.

Well tough. Folk on just over £12k a year are paying tax and this cheeky woman thinks her child care should be subsidised. It made me mad.

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Teateaandmoretea · 23/02/2024 10:36

MalvernValentine · 23/02/2024 10:28

Convenient to ignore all the examples that model how a low earning family with childcare costs is likely net better off than all the "whingers". There's also a severe lack of economic understanding in dismissing the contributions made by those living in the South East with all their high costs (not me btw, I'm a 20% tax rate payer living in a cheap part of the SW).

Given the sheer resentment from the ignorant and under educated on this post, I don't blame the whingers.

Imagine being thick enough to berate the hand that feeds when you are net better off than the very people that subsidise you.

Most of you are just plain bitter and incredibly ignorant.

But in the long term they own an expensive house outright and get a nice comfortable pension. Their money shortage is generally short term. Those on low incomes are likely to be poor for life.

User8646382 · 23/02/2024 10:40

Folklore9074 · 23/02/2024 10:22

Keep seeing people on this thread referring to ‘free’ childcare. No one is getting completely free childcare.
This isn’t a thing.

If you are eligible for help with your childcare costs it’s £500 towards your bill every three months, and soon 15 hours or 30 hours funded through your childcare provider for 2/3 year olds.

Worth keeping in mind that what the government thinks of as the cost of an hour of childcare and what that childcare actually costs to deliver varies from one provider to another. And the government estimate of costs skews low.

So if you are with a nice provider that pay their staff slightly above living wage, have good child to adult ratios, provide home cooked meals each day, the odd nice extra, like Santa at Christmas or an external person coming in to do a session with the kids the government money might only fund 9 hours rather than 15 in that setting. So you would still pay out as a parent if that makes sense.

I don’t know anyone getting anything for free.

People on low salaries do get free childcare, or more or less free in any case. They receive the funding and top it up with Universal Credit. Families on Universal Credit end up paying about £100 a month.

None of them look to be struggling to me. They all go on nice holidays two or three times a year, which is more than I can afford to do.

newmummycwharf1 · 23/02/2024 10:40

Ελλe · 23/02/2024 09:59

I know - I meant that few hours doesn’t mean you aren’t working hard.

A starting salary for a nurse is now £29k ish? an HCA is more or less on minimum wage though, and IME work bloody hard so if you think of it that way my example still stands.

I just do t think you can say someone working part time doesn’t work hard

do you mean someone earning 12k alone? Because someone earning 12k with a partner earning more doesn’t get any help with nursery fees until the 30 hours kicks in if they are under the £100k threshold surely

Someone working part time may be working hard but obviously someone else doing the exact same job full time is working harder no?

And actually if your household income is below approx £30k, you get free hours from age 2 (rightly so). The very new changes to childcare may have opened this to more people though.

Look, clearly, those who earn less deserve more help and as a society we should facilitate that. But everyone agrees early years childcare costs are astronomical and even people on £100k feel the bite. They also lose childcare benefit from £50k yet lay the most into the pot everyone else benefits from. And you can say they dont have to and should just take low earning jobs instead - if they did, we would all be scuppered and that is a fact.

No dog in the race as my kids are past this stage but from a societal perspective, we should be funding cheap, high quality childcare for all. People constantly quote the scandinavian countries on here - they pay higher taxes but guess what, there are almost no stay at home mums beyond age 1 and everyone has access to paid maternity leave for 1 year and cheap childcare from age 1.

The alternative is divisive and helps no one

ruby1957 · 23/02/2024 10:41

Teateaandmoretea · 23/02/2024 10:36

But in the long term they own an expensive house outright and get a nice comfortable pension. Their money shortage is generally short term. Those on low incomes are likely to be poor for life.

Absolutely this ^^

While many of the 6 figure salary workers deserve their money and work hard - we all know many on the public payroll who add very little of value.

Joleyne · 23/02/2024 10:42

User8646382 · 23/02/2024 10:11

I own a nursery (well, two actually). Both are full to bursting with excellent reputations. But running them is like purgatory and it’s almost impossible to make a profit.

Who are these shareholders and how do they profit from businesses that have turnovers roughly equivalent to your average corner shop but have to employ 10 x the number of staff? How does it work and where do I sign up to become one?

Goodness! You work in childcare and you don't know about these companies?

https://www.theguardian.com/money/2023/aug/04/childcare-sector-england-not-playground-private-equity-experts-say

Childcare sector in England must not become ‘playground for private equity’, experts say

Exclusive: Increasing involvement of investment funds could leave nursery places at risk

https://www.theguardian.com/money/2023/aug/04/childcare-sector-england-not-playground-private-equity-experts-say

lateatwork · 23/02/2024 10:42

edwinbear · 23/02/2024 00:28

And doing the maths, if you earn say £13k a year, you’re not exactly ‘paying tax’ are you. It’s £86 a year you contribute. That’s pretty cheap for free childcare.

☝️ this.
I'm sure you have many legitimate reasons for not earning more.

Teateaandmoretea · 23/02/2024 10:44

TheTwirlyPoos · 23/02/2024 10:34

I didn't mean only one of them working? I didn't say that?!

Okay agreed, but it is the scenario in the OP.

It is the issue though judging everything on household income, there is always people popping up with ‘what’s the impact on one-income families’. There is choice involved in that.

That said I imagine anyone with children if possible would surely do their best to stay under 100k - maxing out pensions, dropping hours etc. there’s also loss of personal allowance at that level.

newmummycwharf1 · 23/02/2024 10:45

stcrispinsday · 23/02/2024 10:26

You're right, she should quit her job and sponge off the state with a clear conscience 🙄

Honestly, I find threads like this absolutely baffling. Who do you think funds welfare in this country? That woman will be paying thousands a month in tax. You seriously begrudge her being entitled to the same benefits as everyone else?

I know a doctor who has just dropped a day a week to get under the £100k income threshold as otherwise she'd lose the childcare allowance. How does that benefit anyone? The NHS would obviously much rather have her working full time and then she'd be paying tax on the extra income.

You're essentially saying other people should pay for your tax breaks and not get them themselves, all without a word of complaint. You are being ridiculously unreasonable.

Precisely this. In healthcare and know alot of doctors who are doing this. So less appointments at a time with huge waitlists nationally but they have families to look after. It makes no sense to have such a cliff edge system

OdinsHorse · 23/02/2024 10:45

Garlicnaan · 23/02/2024 07:52

Childcare costs are insane, yes. And you'd think with a 100k earner you should be well off.

But your calculations are a bit misleading. With two kids in full time childcare she could also work, so their income would be a lot more than that. Otherwise why put two children in full time childcare?

Also it's for a max two years usually that you'll be paying full fees for two, and that's if you had twins (assuming you took full mat leave) - between age 1 and 3 - 3.5.

Assuming that most people have 18 months between DC - or, like me, left a 3 year gap in order not to have this financial pressure - you're paying both for max 1 year.

"With two kids in full time childcare she could also work, so their income would be a lot more than that. "

Isn't she a working single parent?

Having an under-two at nursery full-time costs close to £300 a week, according to data from the Department for Education. Childminders are a cheaper option, costing on average 16% less than nurseries.
https://www.theguardian.com/society/ng-interactive/2023/nov/06/how-much-does-it-cost-for-you-to-raise-a-child (November 2023)

@ZebraPensAreLife
I looked up how much childcare for 2 children would be in my local area, and how much the mortgage would be for a fairly basic 3-bed house. The total comes to £5,680. So before council tax, other bills or food the person’s already at minus £30 for the month.

say £3k (£2.5ish) for 2 dc - how big is the mortgage you're looking at here?? you're budgeting around £2700 on a mortgage for a 3 bed house ?

'Mean and median hourly fee by child age and provider type (2022)' from 'Childcare and early years provider survey', Permanent data table

Find, download and explore official Department for Education (DfE) statistics and data in England.

https://explore-education-statistics.service.gov.uk/data-tables/permalink/8bfcad53-fc2b-444b-7449-08db2469d98f

Fishbones1 · 23/02/2024 10:46

@MalvernValentine

Imagine being thick enough to berate the hand that feeds when you are net better off than the very people that subsidise you.

This, with bells on. So you do realise @Viviennemary that a higher rate taxpayer will be subsidising the nursery fees of the person on the 12k per annum income? Place your anger where it counts - it's the wider economic and political system that's wrong, facilitating a means by which only 5% of the country's population (the richest people) retain more land and wealth than anyone else.

MalvernValentine · 23/02/2024 10:46

Teateaandmoretea · 23/02/2024 10:36

But in the long term they own an expensive house outright and get a nice comfortable pension. Their money shortage is generally short term. Those on low incomes are likely to be poor for life.

But in this example, where the OP has mocked a woman who is genuinely struggling and it erupted into an us Vs them, during the childcare years it is unfair. As this woman is mocked for highlighting.

Low paid workers are the backbone of this country, I wholly support a system that helps all people to live a better quality of life.

I disagree with mocking someone who is in all factuality struggling, because others "have it worse". Especially when their contribution to society is as integral as the low paid workers employment.

God knows what sacrifices that family made to be high earning. In my experience, they've done things that others can't or won't do.

Missamyp · 23/02/2024 10:48

41K is the level of earnings needed to be considered a net contributor.
That means everyone earning more than that is subsidising the service cost of those earning less.
Childcare and such should be a universal benefit.

Anameisaname · 23/02/2024 10:48

Pleasebeafleabite · 23/02/2024 07:56

Your child has another parent. Just in another household. If they could put the child in nursery, then they could get the benefits of tax relief, if their earnings were at the right level.

I know in practice that parents don’t always pay for their offspring or the other parent may be deceased but purely from a tax perspective, this is not a sensible argument.

But the rest of the system doesn't back this up. CMS payments for example do not work to the same thresholds. So if this were to be true then you'd need to make sure everything was aligned.
And as you said, doesn't account for truly single parent households where there is no other parent for whatever reason

Porridgeislife · 23/02/2024 10:49

Missingmyusername · 23/02/2024 10:27

^^^^^^ well said.

It’s also all relative, the more you have the more you spend, the higher your outgoings.

As a pp points out, if you make the decision to have a child and work then you must come to the conclusion at some point that it’s going to cost you.

Having a child is a choice, it’s not a mandatory requirement.

This statement is bonkers and so short sighted, and also shows a fundamental lack of understanding of how economies work.

Children are not mandatory, but if you want to keep the NHS, police, schools and other public services going, we need people to continue to have children. We are already well below replacement rate.

ruby1957 · 23/02/2024 10:49

MalvernValentine · 23/02/2024 10:28

Convenient to ignore all the examples that model how a low earning family with childcare costs is likely net better off than all the "whingers". There's also a severe lack of economic understanding in dismissing the contributions made by those living in the South East with all their high costs (not me btw, I'm a 20% tax rate payer living in a cheap part of the SW).

Given the sheer resentment from the ignorant and under educated on this post, I don't blame the whingers.

Imagine being thick enough to berate the hand that feeds when you are net better off than the very people that subsidise you.

Most of you are just plain bitter and incredibly ignorant.

A very nasty tone to your post - calling those who disagree - ignorant, under-educated and thick.

Someone on an average wage is not net better off if you ignore child care costs which are not the be all and end all of living costs (only for a few years at best. )

People on average wages have ALL the other same costs - council tax, food etc as these rich couples with their 6 figure salaries. Not everybody who earns less is automatically on UC

newmummycwharf1 · 23/02/2024 10:49

Workworkandmoreworknow · 23/02/2024 10:26

Doing well isn't only about what you earn though, is it?

I'm a single parent of 3, I have taught a shortage subject for the last 15 or so years (and did so at the beginning with 3 in primary school). I received a considerable sum in benefits to help me out. I should point out here that one of my children is classed as disabled, receives middle rate care and as such, I could claim Carer's Allowance or reduce my hours to be able to claim Carer's Allowance but I have worked (mainly) full time (just part time when my mum had dementia).

My role as a teacher is an important one to society as a whole, something most of us agree on, but yet still people are critical - critical that I receive benefits, that it's my fault my ex had an affair and walked out, that my children were the first into childcare and the last to leave, that I put my career before my children, that I should try harder to get off benefits, that it's not good enough they've had to subsidise me.......blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

Civilised societies are not those that only respect and encourage high aspiration. Civilised societies recognise that everyone working is making a contribution - that we are all contributing to the greater good - and that is what needs respecting. Chase money - that's your choice - but respect that doesn't work for everyone and that when it comes down to it, many of us playing essential roles in our society aren't doing it for the money. That doesn't mean we shouldn't be afforded a roof over our heads, food on our plates or warmth in our radiators when we are out there working 60 hour weeks.

Yes but those things need to be paid for somehow. And those who 'chase money' as you term it pay more taxes to allow the state to be in a position to pay you those benefits. Trust me, there are many countries where that is not the case.

So anyone making a honest living is contributing to society and that includes those making over £100k and deserve support too. It doesnt work one way!

BestBadger · 23/02/2024 10:49

edwinbear · 23/02/2024 00:16

I saw it too, but the reality is that we’re reaching a tipping point in the UK, where people earning those sort of salaries (and it’s not many of them) are propping up the entire country. Somebody earning £12k a year is paying nowhere near enough tax to fund their own DC’s childcare and that woman’s tax bill is funding maybe 3 kids childcare bills plus having to pay for her own on top. And the general consensus from the general public is that she should pay even more. I’m not surprised she’s ’whining’.

Income tax makes up a quarter of all government revenue and less than a third of tax revenue. So I'm not sure of your maths there.

It costs the UK £106.2 billion a year more than the average OECD economy to subsidise the cost of structural inequality in favour of the rich. This translates to a £128 billion a year in damage to the economy, communities & individuals.

That's unsustainable.

Jk987 · 23/02/2024 10:53

The father of her children should be paying.

MalvernValentine · 23/02/2024 10:54

ruby1957 · 23/02/2024 10:49

A very nasty tone to your post - calling those who disagree - ignorant, under-educated and thick.

Someone on an average wage is not net better off if you ignore child care costs which are not the be all and end all of living costs (only for a few years at best. )

People on average wages have ALL the other same costs - council tax, food etc as these rich couples with their 6 figure salaries. Not everybody who earns less is automatically on UC

Opposed to the delightful tone of the poster I replied to. The post was about a woman who was struggling with childcare. So factoring out childcare isn't what the post is about? It is ignorance to ignore facts. Nasty, unlikely. Just true.

Beautiful3 · 23/02/2024 10:54

It really should be free childcare for everyone for 3 years. We have enough money to subsidise parliment MPs food and drinks, immigration and warfare. Why not take some out of their budgets?!

Kpo58 · 23/02/2024 10:57

Teateaandmoretea · 23/02/2024 10:36

But in the long term they own an expensive house outright and get a nice comfortable pension. Their money shortage is generally short term. Those on low incomes are likely to be poor for life.

In they end they own a home that they have to pay to maintain, have higher energy bills and council tax and can be sold to pay for nursing home care.

On the other hand, why would anyone bother earning 100k if they are still stuck in a tiny house with much of their pay taken away in tax with no benefits making their lifestyle much worse off than someone who earns much less, but gets lots of useful benefits from the government?

CountAlmaviva · 23/02/2024 10:58

BestBadger · 23/02/2024 10:49

Income tax makes up a quarter of all government revenue and less than a third of tax revenue. So I'm not sure of your maths there.

It costs the UK £106.2 billion a year more than the average OECD economy to subsidise the cost of structural inequality in favour of the rich. This translates to a £128 billion a year in damage to the economy, communities & individuals.

That's unsustainable.

  1. How are the rich subsidised.?
  2. Assume you have some data on this ? Where from? I’d be interested to have a further read.
newmummycwharf1 · 23/02/2024 11:02

Income tax and NI are almost 50% of the tax revenue. The bulk of that coming from higher earners. Break down attached

We clearly need to raise more from large companies in terms of corporation taxes. There is no denying the significant contribution income tax + NI make to government revenue.

To be irritated by this £100k a year whiner
Thehobbit2013 · 23/02/2024 11:03

But her situation is a bit of a moot point anyway as if she is living eith her husband then both parties need to be working regardless of income

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