First date AIBU?

[Thalia31]

So I haven't been dated since 2009, as I'm recently separated I'm in my 30’s.

I met a guy online and for our first date he gave me a choice of three activities.

1. Axe throwing
2. Archery
3. Batting cage

I said I didn't find them first-date material, I said I would like to do something where we can talk and get to know each other a bit better he then suggested badminton. I do enjoy the outdoors but I found the choices strange, I ultimately declined AIBU is this a normal first date suggestion.

Yes but you'll hardly be talking when doing the activity so you'll have to do something right after to figure out if you have anything in common. Not to mention it's more expensive than one drink or coffee to figure out if you have any chemistry or it's an instant ick. Also people can confuse the fun/adrenaline of doing the activity itself with connection.

This.
I would love this. But would hate a meal and all that awkward shite. Others love that.
He is probably less conventional than you neither of which is bad

They sound fun but too much of a time / cost commitment for a first date. Fine for subsequent dates though.

Fair enough
Did I miss the bit where OP suggested to him what she'd like to do?

I wondered if I had missed something too..

I would hate this 😂but agree with most that there's nothing wrong with it per se, just indicates that you probably aren't very well matched.

I've never really 'dated' as such (all 3 of my relationships happened kind of organically) but if I were I'd love those options! Maybe not the badminton so much as there's less chance to chat. Axe throwing sounds really fun!

As I say I don't really have dating experience but the idea of sitting and having dinner and just talking seems really awkward for me, especially if you're online dating - surely it gets horribly boring just regurgitating the same stuff about your life, job, likes and dislikes, hobbies etc over and over? An activity based date could be fun and break the ice and then you could go on for dinner or drinks if you wanted to feeling like you'd already made a bit of a connection.

If it's not for you though then at least you've found out now!

The OP says that the guy have her a bullet pointed list of 3 options to choose from.

It’s that part which me and a few others have said we’d not be v keen on. But horses for courses 🤷🏼‍♀️