Apparently untrustworthy for posting tiktok video

[Glitz1004]

I'm an ex dancer. Don't often get to go to classes. So when I see tiktok videos I often think they look fun to learn. I never normally post them though because I don't have alot of confidence. Anyway I decided a few days again to learn the new beyonce dance. Was alot of fun, and I decided to post it.
Anyway partner just went on toktok and saw my video. They got really angry at me and asked why I didn't tell them I posted it. I said I didn't see it as a big deal as its just a fun dance. Dp proceeded to call me secretive and untrustworthy and I was doing sly behaviour. Now I feel really awful, I just thought it would be a bit of fun. The dance is to Country music and nothing sexy.
Dp said we message most nights and why didn't I say anything and then starting scrolling through our messages to see what we were talking about that evening
Aibu for posting this video and not thinking much of it. Was just suppose to be fun

Bin him off. He sounds suffocating

As above. Get rid

How ridiculous and controlling! Red flag right there.

Fuck. Him. Off.

This is the first time they have shown controlling behaviour, just shocked at this reaction

Wow; get rid. Massive red flag

Not telling your partner every Tony little thing you do isn't sly and secretive.

It's not like you hid it either, you must have known they would see.

Are they usually jealous?

You can post what you want. You don’t need permission.

They got really angry at me

Why? You can dance if you want to. You can post on social media if you want to. You don't have to tell anyone every little thing you do, or say, or think. Not even your mother had that right (and mothers tend to have more (safeguarding) rights).

How long have you been together?

Complete over reaction from your partner and a big red flag.

Dump them.

Red flag there.

He thinks he owns you and you have to run your decisions past him.
He thinks your dancing means you're trying to attract other men.

You have it in your power to prevent a second occurrence of this abuse - dump him.

Been together 3 years. I have no clue why DP got annoyed about it

PP assuming your partner is male?
I am thinking female.
Get rid whichever it is.

I don't recall any previous jealous behaviour that I'm aware of. DP does need alot of reassurance though eg. If I love then and no one else etc

It doesn't matter WHY

Your 'D'P is a walking red flag

He sounds needy and controlling OP. You don't have to tell him every little thing you do.

Controlling behaviour continues to get worse the longer it’s allowed to go unchecked. Please reconsider this relationship - his behaviour is in no way healthy 😢

You are being secretive by posting something on TikTok?! Your “D”P does know how the Internet works doesn’t he?

So many red flags

Tell him/her to piss right off. You can post what you like. Who do they think they are attacking you for dancing in a video .You have no requirement to inform them about it before/during or afterwards.

Agree, bin them, they sound exhausting.

OP is using DP and ‘they’ so we don’t know this is a man, though.

He must be terribly insecure if he feels threatened by a TikTok. Did he force you to take it down?

That's 2 red flags you've posted op.

Get rid of him.

Why are you hiding their sex?

Determined to make this work - perhaps OP doesn't mention partner's sex because it's entirely irrelevant? Either the reaction and behaviour is reasonable or not, no matter if it's a man or woman?