Woke up and I could hear something going on downstairs and my husband was shouting 'pack it in' at our toddler but sort like, through his teeth if that makes sense? It sounded very aggressive. I went downstairs and asked what was going on, and he just went off on this list of all the things our toddler had done to wind him up. Toddler was in tears. I gave him a cuddle and husband walked out the room obviously pissed off. I put toddler down and followed him and said please don't ever talk to him that aggressively and my husband was continuing to be aggressive saying "I fucking didn't, all I said was pack it in" and I said "you said pack it in" but imitated the way he did it, through gritted teeth in a very angry aggressive tone. My husband threw himself back and with his eyes wide shouted "you fucking spat on me, you dirty cow! You spat on me!"
I've tried to talk to him since but he's absolutely furious that I spat on him and that he's disgusted with me and keeps repeating how dirty I am. I in no way shape or form intended to spit on him, I didn't think or realise I had, I just did the gritted teeth thing he did to our toddler back to him. My toddler keeps saying to me "mummy we don't spit on people!" Which is making me feel really shit because I don't want them to think I'd do that, but when I defend myself and say I didn't my husband piles up "you bloody did"
AIBU to think that I didn't spit at him? If spit came out when I was sort of showing him the way in which he said it that clearly wasn't planned and it's not fair for him to make out I literally spat at him?