To find people with "funded" lifestyles annoying?

[NoFunNoFrills]

It's probably jealousy and social media and comparison is the thief of joy. However, AIBU to find people who have extravagant lifestyles, paid for by other people, annoying?

I follow a few "influencers" with relatively low follower counts, I wonder how are they affording the house, cars, holidays, designer gear etc. It turns out either a rich older boyfriend is paying for it, or mummy and daddy are. The influencers I find particularly annoying are the ones who seem to flaunt it, and hide the true source of their income.

Example 1: One young lady, it's clear she is dating a much older man, but always hides his face in pictures, and today posted a video of herself buying a rolex. When she's asked what she does for money by followers, she says she has a business but refuses to say what it is. I've followed her for a while (feels like car crash viewing) and 2-3 years ago she was dating some other rich guy and wrote a blog post about dating high earners, and how not to feel bad that you can't buy them presents because you don't earn much, just prepare a picnic. Anyway, I doubt she has built a business that is allowing her to buy porshe, rolex and hermes in 2 years.

Example 2: a few grown adult women on Tattle discussing one influencer, whose dad buys all her stuff (again talking London apartment, channel and hermes bags etc). The Tattlers saying "my dad funds my lifestyle and I'm not ashamed of it"

Sigh.

YABU: who cares how other people are getting money. You live your life and let them live theirs

YANBU: adults who see no need to educate themselves, work on their career and/or pay their own way - but proudly flaunt their lifestyle like they've achieved something/ are the cat who got the cream - are annoying AF

Why do you follow such people. I find demonstrations of wealth/affluent lifestyle to be a sign of very bad taste. These people often portray a life that is not as glamorous in reality.

I think it sounds very boring if it’s just all about how they spend money. I’d rather follow something more interesting. I don’t think you’re being unreasonable, just following the wrong people/subjects.

@teoma I know! The easiest solution is not to follow them. I don't know why I do this to myself, but I can't look away 🤣

More fool you for watching this crap. Who cares?

There are SOOOOOO maybe things to watch. I'm into reptiles, cruises, travel, space vlogs etc. Never going to cruise but it's fascinating. No need to watch vacuous spenders at all.

YABU! Why choose to be so annoyed when SM offers so many alternatives?

Don’t hate-follow people. Such a waste of energy. Search out the people who intrigue you and make you feel good about yourself and things you find interesting.

Honestly I'm 62 yrs old so know nothing of "influencers" or what they do.
Why are you following people who irritate you? What do you get from it?

Concentrate on yourself, family and friends and I'm confident you will feel less annoyed by strangers on the Internet.

@matrixxx can I get away with blaming the algorithm?? 😅

I think i began following them for fashion, and then there were a few specific individuals who morphed into showing off many luxury purchases. I know the easiest thing is to unfollow, but I'm also interested in my own psychology and why I find it annoying. Am I the only one? Is it just jealousy?

Why follow people you clearly don't like?

Well you've identified the solution. Stop following them.

The thing is OP, there is just no point in all this. It's totally vacuous and nobody cares about meaningless randoms on SM. Just keep searching 'cats' or whatever and then your algorithm will soon change.

No idea who the accounts are that you’re talking about!

if you don’t like them then unfollow! Problem solved!

@Pigeonqueen I think "hate follow" is a really good term. I've not heard of it before, maybe this is what I'm doing.

@Harvestfestivalknickers I really don't know why I do it. It feels like that Mean Girls quote/scenario "why are you so obsessed with me". They're Regina George and I'm Cady/Janis/Damien. It makes no sense 😅

It sounds like jealousy, yes: it’s a lifestyle that you can never have and you don’t view they aren’t doing anything to “deserve” or “earn” it, so it feels unfair. But life is unfair, and I’m sure if you had rich parents yourself or were in any position to attract a very wealthy man, you’d not turn a funded life down.

I do follow a few trophy wives on Insta! But it doesn’t make me resentful. Just don’t take their life is as seen on Insta!

Because fairness is a pretty boringly normal thing to value.

You come across as very jealous and unhappy with your lot, but I bet you have plenty to be grateful for.

I am independently wealthy and will never have to work, although I am very well educated. Do you hate me too? I’m not on any social media, and I don’t think it’s helping you right now.

At least unfollow anyone who makes you feel bad about yourself, but ideally come off completely for a few months.

A lot of people are funded buy other people

Movie stars..
Music stars..
Retail workers..
Authors..
Dog walkers..
MPs..

In fact, most people somewhere along the lines are funded by other people.

Do a job - sell a thing - make a thing
Someone else has to pay somewhere.

Even an office worker for British Gas taking Calls about how much British Gas suck elephant cock, they're funded by the customers cash.

By following these people are you not helping them generate revenue? Stop following them and be less annoyed.

@1990thatsme no I definitely don't hate you. I'm fascinated by the idea of "independently wealthy", it wasn't a concept I was familiar with until later in my life. I didn't realise there were a bunch of people walking among us who don't work for a living (e.g. getting significant sums of money from land, shares, trusts etc.).

I was always taught "do well at school, blah blah blah". And in my group of close women friends, we pride ourselves on our education and careers. But, it's also been hard to "climb the ladder", despite hard work. And I sometimes wonder, should I just have married a rich man? Or at least, life would have been much easier if I married a rich man (I'm not getting wealth from my parents)?

Gosh it annoys me but I’m also very jealous! Their lives seem so much easier than mine! But the grass is always greener right…

Yes, I agree with this and didn't see it this way. Perhaps the key difference is the nature of the work, and the amount a person is paid for the work

Shagging an ugly old crusty for a Chanel bag?
She earned it!

Stop hate following them. Thee are so many better Insta accounts: artists, writers, historians, museums, galleries, people who actually do something with their lives. Even cats!