Friend forged her mother's will

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I have recently learnt that my friend who I have known since forever forged her late mother's will.

I don't want to go into too much detail about how I learnt this as it will be too outing.

It was nearly 4 years ago when her mother was most vulnerable on her death bed little over a week before she passed. There was another will put in place for around 20 years before this new will and that previous will was destroyed by my friend. Both wills were made at home.

It has nothing to do with me, but my friend took advantage of her dying mother, and now I feel different towards her because of this. I am supposed to be her bridesmaid at her wedding in a few months and I cannot get past how someone could do that for her own advantage. I have known this friend since nursery. We are both late 20's now.

Is it wrong of me to feel different about my friend? I understand this has nothing to do with me but it's the fact she has done it. How cruel towards her other family members.

I couldn't look her in the eye ever again. Whoever you have thought she was during your 20-odd years of friendship she has shown that she isn't that person underneath.

Has anyone been able to move past knowing a friend has done this or have been in a similar situation?

I could not get past that, stealing from your own family is pretty low.

I too would struggle to remain friends. It says a lot about her character...

I couldn't be friends with someone who would defraud their own family like this, the pain of being dis-inherited/treated unfairly in a will is so painful and will colour their memories of their mum. It's really cruel.

Is it wrong of me to feel different about my friend?

Fuck no!

Your so-called friend is not who you thought she was. Horrendous.

So sorry OP. What a shock.

I would be contacting a solicitor or police personally. No way would I stay schtum on someone close to me commiting fraud. Because then I would be an accessory.

I am supposed to be her bridesmaid at her wedding in a few months

Fuck that.

Could you even keep up that charade, and the money it would cost you?

Cancel your invite, spend the money on a trip away, savings account, have some counselling, whatever. You don't owe her anything.

I am shocked just reading about this....

Pity her poor husband actually, unless he is in on it..... (which opens an even bigger can of worms, truth always comes out).

I'd dump her. You'll never trust her ever again. No point remaining friends.

This is awful if it's true but I want to know how this came up in conversation.

You'd be a total sociopath not to change your opinion of someone whom you'd thought was decent, once you found out they'd done this.

very interested in how people were disadvantaged! And your friend advantaged.

how could you ever trust her? I would need to take a step back and knock the friendship on the head.

You're asking because you're well aware it's abhorrent behaviour. IDK why you think any right minded person would come on here and tell you otherwise tbh.

Did she tell you herself? If so, it’s easy to end the friendship. If someone else told you, that’s more complicated.

How? ID would be checked

Depends what the change was.

If her mum had taken it on herself to have changed the will from say, an even split of everything, to leaving her entire estate to a cats home, then I can sort of see the point. I know it’s her mum’s right to do as she wanted, but I could empathise a BIT…

But if she rewrote the will all for her own advantage then that’s awful - and criminal. In fact I think it was one of the ways Shipman was picked up.

What ID? A will is valid if scribbled on a piece of paper and signed and witnessed. No ID needed. I’m assuming this friend has forged signatures.

Who witnessed it?

I dont think it's fake, i've seen it done twice! People are amazingly cold heartedly selfish in these situations, and I couldn't stay friends with someone I knew had done it.

If this is true she's a fraudster and I'd hope I'd report them to the police and sod the consequences, wouldn't be a friend of mine .

To those who are saying this never happened, don't be so sure. Something similar happened in my family and we have never got over the underhandedness and the misery it caused. My family split apart and never recovered.

OK surmising the situation is real, why would you have anything to with a thief and one that steals from her own family. She is morally bankrupt.

Assuming you are certain, the friendship should end, if you have any morals.