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Terrified i'm dying!!!!

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Lostmymind11 · 16/02/2024 16:37

Sorry if this is on the wrong thread but i'm not sure where to put it

Nearly 2yrs ago i had surgery to remove a sarcoma (no treatment afterwards as not needed). My 6 month scan was clear and i had another scan 4wks ago to check if it had come back. The hospital have rang today and told me they had booked me in next Friday to see a member of the surgery team. I am abaolutely terrified and beside myself with worry. I am a single parent to a very young child who has no contact with dad due to domestic abuse. I barely have any family/friend support. If the cancer is back i really don't know what i will do. I feel physically ill

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LadyGabriella · 31/08/2024 21:36

Given that it’s been 4 weeks since your scan maybe try not to assume the worst just yet? Usually should be flagged faster than that if bad news. X

nocoolnamesleft · 31/08/2024 22:00

LadyGabriella · 31/08/2024 21:36

Given that it’s been 4 weeks since your scan maybe try not to assume the worst just yet? Usually should be flagged faster than that if bad news. X

At least read the OP's updates.

For the OP, I guess at least you have a plan. Keeping fingers crossed.

Lostmymind11 · 31/08/2024 22:09

@LadyGabriella thats not true. It took them 5wks to tell me my cancer was back

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Bringitonnowibeg · 31/08/2024 22:24

I'm so sorry. I hope you have real life support around you x

Silvers11 · 31/08/2024 23:29

Thinking of you @Lostmymind11 Hopefully the chemo will help and they can remove the lymph mode before too long. So sorry you are still having such a very hard time with this horrible disease.

Marcipex · 01/09/2024 01:35

I’m so sorry, that’s not the best news, but I’m glad they have a plan in place for you.
Is your mum still available to support you?

poetryandwine · 01/09/2024 08:44

I am so sorry to hear that you have chemo and surgery coming up, OP.

It’s not good news but beyond that I can’t assess. DH had cancer in one lymph node. He had chemo. He is now beyond the five yr window when the cancer is most likely to return. And his tumour was aggressive. So it isn’t necessarily the grimmest news

Hugs and we will keep thinking of you ❤️

Namechangechangeobv · 01/09/2024 15:55

It sucks OP. Having another operation and chemo is not what anyone wants to hear. But this is still curable with the treatment you’re being given. Sending you love and strength for the next few months x

user56438924334516 · 01/09/2024 16:35

Chin up OP. They can and do work wonders.
My friend has terminal cancer, it had a 6 month prognosis, but they are still going, still living a nearly normal life 3 years on. Don’t give up hope.

Lostmymind11 · 01/09/2024 18:13

Thanks everyone. My mum will be moving back in tomorrow and we will see how i get on. I'm hoping i'm not going to be too ill, i'm getting myself in the positive mindset of 'i feel fine'. My oncologist said he doesn't want me taking to my bed after my treatment until the next round, he wants me out living as normal as possible and going to work etc on the days i feel up to it. My lovely bf will also be coming to stay for the weekend on Friday so if i'm still not well at least my mum gets a break. Just packed my chemo bag ready for the big day tomorrow 😞

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Topjoe19 · 01/09/2024 18:18

Sending loads of positive thoughts your way ❤️ you can do this xx

noctilucentcloud · 01/09/2024 18:30

So glad you have some irl support. Hope tomorrow goes well and any side effects are minor for you.

Sallysoup · 01/09/2024 18:35

I've read your journey but haven't posted before, I've supported my sister through chemo this year and it's such a lottery with the side effects, I'm sure you are well aware, so I really really hope you get an easier ride. And ignore the bloody doctor that wants you to work through it, if you need rest then rest 💗

poetryandwine · 01/09/2024 19:04

Best wishes for tomorrow, OP. Really glad yo hear about your mum and your bf Xx

PaintInColour · 01/09/2024 19:07

I am glad you have support around you.

Thinking of you X

seabreezee · 01/09/2024 19:19

Best wishes for tomorrow, will be thinking of you x

Lostmymind11 · 01/09/2024 19:50

Thank you everyone. I will update you all tomorrow once i'm home from the hospital

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DyslexicPoster · 01/09/2024 20:16

Sending you strength. You dealt with worse, you can do this. It's just utterly shit and unfair. Start counting down the weeks until its over then plan a treat to look forward to. We are rooting for you

Needapadlockonmyfridge · 01/09/2024 22:40

Best wishes for tomorrow, I am sorry you have had this setback. Life is bloody unfair. X

Lostmymind11 · 02/09/2024 18:04

Hi everyone, today wasn't so great. It took the nurses an hour to put a cannula in because my veins aren't great. I felt fine on the chemo so thats good i suppose but i'm home now and feel exhausted

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poetryandwine · 02/09/2024 18:47

I hope you can rest a lot tonight, OP, and I am sorry about the trouble with your veins.

I hope your mum is with you

Lostmymind11 · 03/09/2024 08:45

Morning everyone, i had a good nights sleep. I woke up this morning feeling perfectly fine, had some breakfast and my meds now chilling with a coffee. My mum is still here looking after my son and will be for the next couple of days just incase

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Zonder · 03/09/2024 08:51

That's so good. Well done.

poetryandwine · 03/09/2024 08:52

This is great news, OP. I hope you have a good day with your family

MsRosley · 03/09/2024 09:32

Everything crossed for you, OP x