To be so annoyed with a friend and pull her up on her contradictions?

[pussinboots61]

How do you deal with awkward friends? I have a friend who makes issues every time we make arrangements.

The latest thing is that a group of us are arranging to go for a meal in March. My friend and her friend who comes along are insisting on the meal being early because they don’t want to be out after dark.

Initially, my other friend who is booking the meal thought the meal we are going for, which is an afternoon tea, would only be served from 3.00 pm and the awkward one was saying that’s no good as she and her friend have to be home before dark. My other friend enquired and the meal is now served all day so its booked for 1.30 pm which suits everyone.

However, what annoys me is that the awkward friend was prepared to spoil it for everyone and make it all about her again. But to cap it all, she sent me a text this morning to tell me that she and her friend are going to the theatre tonight, hence they will be out after dark.

Is it better to ignore this contradiction or pick her up on it? It’s really getting on my nerves now.

I used to happily drive in the dark. I don’t do it often now I WFH so it makes me nervous. Have a friend who lives rurally I often refuse to drive there depending on where she wants to go because the country lanes are horrific in the dark and foggy in the winter with no street lights or road lights.
if a different well lit location is suggested I’d do it, so maybe the location is the problem when it’s dark?

Hopefully no spiders rub their willies on her 🤣

Yes I've got one of these. I had a serious medical emergency and she was haranguing me 3 times a day about whether I was going to make it to her lunch because "the chefs need to know to make arrangements". It was a high street venue, not fecking Claridges! I even said I would pay for anything extra charged if I couldn't make it but she wouldn't take that and HAD TO KNOW!
It's just rudeness and entitlement.

My supposed bestie spoilt my hen night because apparently she couldn't drive to my house 2 miles away. Quiet road literally a straight line. Daylight. Managed to drive 30 miles in the opposite direction to her family.. Return journey in the dark motorway Several times a week. Would have been a one off to my house..

I hear you. This friend of mine is the same. Even though our other friend is organising this meal she was testing me asking me when I am available and giving me two dates in March to choose from, obviously which suited her.

On time, a few years ago, we were going to the theatre and she asked me if I'd book the tickets. She was ringing me from daft o'clock the next morning constantly to see if I'd booked them. Very annoying.

Oh and then there was last year when another friend in the group asked me about going for a meal, and I just mentioned it to the awkward friend in conversation as you do, she wasn't invited. Next thing she'd texted the friend to give availabllity of when her and her friend could make it, again giving two available dates in the month which suited them.

As someone else has said, the ‘friend’ has plans for the evening and doesn’t want to say.

I mean this politely but are they elderly?

They are both a year younger than me, 61. The friend who is organising the meal is 84 and she is quite happy to stay out late. Late for this meal, if we met at 3.00 pm, would be till 5.00 or 6.00 pm, hardly late. These two have always acted older than their years.

I’d not expect it from someone early sixties, most folks are still working, commuting at that age, so I’d say yes much older before their time.

Look, Im really sorry but you simply CANNOT win with these types of people- so dont even try as they turn it on you again for self glorification. She obviously has such a insecure self - image that she has to get everyone jumping through hoops.
Acknowledge to yourself this information - dont tell her that you know. Theres one of these in every town..its a irritating fact. Your REVENGE will come ( one day) Stonecold. Dont put your life on hold. And dont have to bend over backwards yourself to accommodate this person' s Melodrama ( like she would like you to)