Who is BU about the chip?

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Person A has been making lunch, including air fryer chips. They dish up, then realise they’ve given themself too many, so redistribute a bit and put the plates on the table.

Person B comes down for lunch. They turn their back for a second and when they turn round again they spot Person A removing a chip from their plate.

Person B is furious that A has been “sneaky” and stolen one of their rightful chips.

Person A argues that they’d overcorrected when dishing up and gave B a lot more, hence the chip removal.

Person B carries on seething for nearly 24 hours. They argue that they always give A the bigger portion, so why wouldn’t A do the same for them?

Person A says they do give B the bigger portion, that this was a minor rebalancing and until everyone’s actually sitting at the table, the food is still under the cook’s control.

Who is BU in this incredibly petty dispute?

Jesus.

I think that once you’ve reached the stage where you are having this sort of argument over this sort of incident with a partner or friend, it’s time to step back and evaluate the relationship as a whole. It signifies a level of underlying resentment that’s entirely not normal or healthy. Person A was able to correctly justify why they took food from Person B’s plate on this occasion but it seems clear that A also regularly does other things which B finds disrespectful or rude and feelings are now bubbling over into the trivial.

Both sound like a chip is the last of their worries.

Both because I cannot imagine fighting with DH over a chip.

I'm assuming you're young teen siblings on school hols?

They are both BU

Person B for seething (at all, never mind for 24 hours) and person A for tolerating such bullshit.

Person B is the one who is unreasonable, staying in a sulk many hours later.

People saying both are childish aren’t reading it, person A isn’t making it a big deal, they were just distributing the chips.

Some people really hate others taking food off their plate, especially before they have started eating. I had a friend, without fail...I would cook a meal for all 3 of us, dish up the two portions for my friends and hand them over. My portion was still in the pan. I turned back round to get it and my friend was shovelling my portion into his gob straight out of the pan! He said he though that was 'spare'. He had a full fucking plate of food.
So I understand a bit, but not over one poxy chip!

I think everyone is being unreasonable - it's just a solitary fried piece of potato - hardly worth any thought whatsoever, let alone an argument, or even posting about it for feedback. Sorry for the negativity.

I do think this is a sign of bigger issues.

But that said - once the food is on the table - don't take food of someone else's plate. The chips had already been redistributed- what was to be gained about then helping themselves to one more from the other plate?

But sulking about it for 24 hours or more? Yeah I think a long hard look at the relationship as a whole is needed as this level of upset over a small situation isn't normal.

Wow! Are we talking preteen siblings? Please say this isn’t about your DH because, yikes. Regardless though the sulker is always in the wrong.

Both...

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Both A and B sound very petty.

I think seething about it for 24 hours is unreasonable and suggests there is more going on there than it being about one measly chip.
It reminds me of an argument I overheard many years ago between my neighbours. They had a full blown shouting match for well over an hour because person A had brought home a takeaway for himself and person B, but had added an extra item to his own takeaway that had not been discussed. It transpired that person B didn't even want the extra item (I can't remember exactly what it was) but they were angry that person A hadn't considered that they might have wanted the extra item. Even though they didn't and refused it when offered. It became really clear that this was about far more than an extra portion of chips or whatever it was!

FFS.

Person C

Person C very wisely stayed out of the whole sordid business.

Both people being pathetic

How old are A and B?

Everybody.

B is unreasonable for seething for 24 hours over something so minor. A is just organising food. One chip! Can’t actually see what A has done wrong - the whole argument is being perpetuated by B here. If B was really narked they could have just swiped a chip from A’s plate and grinned at them.

Are these teenagers? Because the only excuse here is teenage siblings.

I can marine having a not serious squabble about this under eyes of our exasperated children. But lasting more than 2 minutes? Never!

Wept.