Anyone else really dislike being bought Flowers?

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I sound like an absolute brat but I just know DH will gift Me a huge Bunch of something for Valentine's Day, but they just stress me out so much! Getting them out of the ton of Paper / plastic, trimming them, finding a suitable vase, arranging them, finding somewhere to put them.. argh!

I do however love having flowers in the house so Ive started a cut flower bed in the garden.

I don’t like them either, DH knows not to buy me them. I have four cats they’ll eat them, anything with lilies in them can’t even come in the house as they’ll kill the cats. Anything else the cats will still eat so have to locked in the downstairs toilet so what’s the point?

They are a lot of money to to buy now too, I recently paid £40 for some for a friend to be delivered.

Isn't that flowers though?

Flowers are a gift for the house not for a person! And this time of year we buy daffodils and tulips with the weekly shop. So no I wouldn’t want them for Valentine's. We’re not big gifters though, instead my nephew is babysitting and we’re off for an overpriced probably a tad cringy dinner at a local restaurant.

I hate the fact that so many bouquets have lilies in them.
I have to remove the lilies and make sure there's no pollen on the others to protect my cats. Their smell is overpowering to me as well. The lilies,not my cats, unless they left a deposit in the litter tray.

Me too, hate it. I spend the whole week waiting for when they're going to die and I'll have to deal with chucking them out and cleaning the awkward shaped vase. Except I won't, because it's me. I'll leave it at least 3 weeks, until they've gone mouldy. And then I'll leave it another two weeks, because I don't want to deal with mouldy flowers.

I'd much rather have something edible.

There are companies in our area who do nice local seasonal flowers, discreetly wrapped and lovely.

Leave it for now, do a bit of research and then when Valentine's Day looms, suggest what you would really like, if he plans to give you flowers.

Hating flowers is one of those things that I only ever encounter on Mumsnet and never actually in real life. Along with people who get headaches and asthma if they catch the tiniest whiff of another person's perfume in passing.

If you hate flowers, then you hate flowers -fair enough! But I don't understand why you wouldn't just ask your DH not to buy them? Possibly a bit late this year but next year, just mention well in advance that you'd much rather have chocolates/champagne/a meal/some other small luxury treat.

I'd love a bunch of flowers! Valentines roses, something like that - that would be gorgeous. Don't think I have ever been given them by a partner as a romantic gift. I had some when I was in hospital, and when I miscarried - it's mostly been for sad reasons, never nice ones.

I doubt I will get any this year as my husband believes they are a waste of money - he's not unromantic and he does buy me stuff but more likely to be a book or a brooch or something like that....

So unless I have a secret admirer I am banging out of luck this year!

My DH never buys me flowers but I buy myself a small bunch of roses from the supermarket most weeks when there's nothing growing in the garden. It's not that much of a pain. I cut the stems with some crap scissors, pull off the leaves then stick them in a vase with the food from the supermarket. Wilted roses go in the garden waste bin, vase goes in the dishwasher, then it starts again.

I don’t like getting flowers either. I love gardening though and seeing the flowers every day through the window .. just not cut and in a vase.
DH rarely buys flowers but not for me as a gift, he knows I don’t want them.

I hate them, except for daffodils and tulips. I hate having something else to get responsible for and I feeling like I'm just wishing they'll hurry up and die so I can chuck them out.

I love them, they are so ephemeral but red roses are a bit naff. I see my son aged 12 has my love of flowers he always has a small arrangement from the garden in his room that he does himself. Sadly my husband never gets me flowers because he thinks they are a waste of money but my Dad sometimes buys them for me. He also loves flowers more than my mum did and always encouraged the interest. When I was a child I used to collect bunches from our garden for my teachers, friends, parents and granny.

I threw out some flowers this morning and thought the same. The kitchen smelt rank because they'd started to die. I always feel guilty throwing them out because I know they're not cheap.
One time my wonderful husband had gone shopping and said "I was going to buy you some flowers but I got you some sausages instead". He knew me so well.

I love flowers but not lillies or birds of paradise, just think they’re naff and polleny and massive and annoying. A nice bouquet of roses please 🙏

Yes, me.

Everyone who knows me knows not to buy me flowers. I dislike the sickly sweet smell, I regard them as a complete waste of money and they set off my hay fever & make me sneeze.

Wine or chocolates instead, please. 😋

I honestly thought it was just me! I put them straight in the compost.

Love the lego flowers, a bunch of daffs or sunflowers. Everything else is just things slowly dying in a vase. They make me sad.

I was also in a relationship with an appalling human being and after I left he sent me bunch, after bunch after bunch. To my workplace. To my home. I associate them with fear and panic.

Tell him not to then.

I told mine 20 years ago and he hadn't bought me any since. I hate watching them slowly die.

I love them if they are good quality. I've just had bouquets from two local independents that have lasted without any change in colour or whilting.

I can't say the same about two bouquets from Prestige Flowers - an online national company. The roses were already brown on delivery and in two days have drooped and discoloured further.

A bunch of daffs for £1 & I'm happy.

I don’t even own a vase

id accept this lot graciously and then in a few months, tell dh that you’re done with flowers and not to get them again

I feel exactly the same. When my dear mum died we had so many bouquets, and I came to associate them (and the smell of cut flowers indoors) with that awful time and all the horrible memories they hold.

Unfortunately my DB has taken to sending me flowers because he thinks it’s a nice gesture on birthdays or especially - I’m afraid - on the anniversary of mum’s death. I’ve tried to say tactfully that I’d rather he didn’t and there’s honestly no need, but he keeps doing it. I’m sorry to say that I’ve just put the bouquet in the green recycling bin more than once (stripped of their cellophane/paper etc of course) because I feel genuinely quite panicked by having bouquets in the house.

It’s extreme, I know. I quite liked flowers before that. But it’s just too sad.

You are married so must know each other by now! How does he not know you don’t like flowers ?

I can’t BEAR those tight bud roses that seem to be everywhere with the dark red version now for valentines. I only love blousy roses in June! Also like daffodils in February, tulips in March and peonies in May. Some of these supermarket bouquets are ghastly

I like a bunch of daffs or maybe tulips at this time of year, heralding spring, but agree re anything more extravagant/fancy. It's a lazy gift and is effectively just giving you jobs to do.