To Drink wine most nights?

[Monique10]

I always try to have 2 days off per week but the volume is creeping up. I used to only have one or two glasses whilst cooking dinner but now its gone upto 3, maybe a bottle. I am never drunk and I do consume it over a few hours. I have loads of alcohol in the house that I dont feel the need to touch but white wine is so good! I also put loads of ice in it. My mum and dad drank so much and I seen things I shouldnt have seen growing up, I am never drunk though and fully in control but maybe I am on downward path? what do you think?

I started out like that and slowly it became an every night occurrence.
My tolerance grew and I was drinking 2 bottles a night event night.
I'm sober 7 years now, don't touch a drop at all.

You need to nip this in the bud now becfore it becomes an issue. It's not healthy.

It's far too much, and you know it

Way to much and, as per PP, you know this already. Alcoholism has a strong genetic component. Don’t be your parents. Act now.

Oh Dear! I genuinely thought most people did this!

Yes it is too much. It impairs your sleep, leaves you not at your best the next day. I had been drinking 3/4 a bottles on Fridays and Saturdays and I feel amazing now I’ve stopped. Your drinking well over what is healthy.

It's too much.

too much OP.

Much too much too often. Reduce now or you’ll do yourself some damage in the long run.

Alcohol is a poison. You must know you are drinking too much. Most people do not do this.

Part of you knows it's too much and that part of you wrote this post knowing the answers you'd get. Listen to her and not the increasing addiction. You've been brave and you can stop this now before it gets out of hand.

Pre Christmas this was me, for the year beforehand. And it went from a glass, to a couple to 2/3 of a bottle.

I did dry Jan and have carried on as I realise i was craving a drink at the end of every day like a crutch. And to be honest, I don't want to be dependent on it- and realised I was. So stopping cold turkey seemed like the best plan for me.

I would say that drinking most every night is an issue.

its too much and you seem reliant on it - it’s creeping up and a bottle a day is far too much. Get some help.

It's way too much. I'd feel like shit if I drank that every day. Even if you feel fine it's very damaging to your health long term.

I don’t know anyone who does, tbh! I have one friend who prob drinks too much but not nightly as far as I know cos she has been out and driven and not drunk etc.

For me it’s that you are developing tolerance ie steadily drinking more but not getting drunk. That is a sign of alcohol physically changing your body/brain. You are saying “I don’t get drunk” as if that’s a good thing - but it’s the opposite.

I’d cut right back before you really have a problem.

I think lots of people probably do drink about that much, and it's quite normalised in our culture. But at that amount it could be having an impact on your long term health, and also your emotional and mental well-being, possibly without you realising it.....

I drank about that much, with occasional binges on nights out with friends when I would drink more. I am now totally sober and have been for a few years, and I consider myself to have had issues with alcohol. But I have friends who drink at least this much and consider their drinking totally fine ....

For me, my mental health is better, my sleep is better my physical health is improved, I have (loads!) more money, and I am more present for my daughter and others in my life. I occasionally miss the fun of getting pissed with friends, but the benefits massively outweigh the losses....

It's about the life you choose really - there isn't a big judge on high who can say, this amount is fine, this amount is wrong. Something has led you to post on here, so something about your drinking must be troubling you......

There is loads of support out there for choosing a sober life, and it is no longer stigmatised in the way it once was (you will still get a few posters calling you an "alcoholic" no doubt, but lots ot people these days fine terms like that and the judgemental labels that accompany them unhelpful to recovery).

Well done for reaching out - it shows self awareness, and could be your first step on the road to a happier, healthier life.

It’s too much

A standard bottle of wine contains 9 or 10 units of alcohol. As a woman you should only drink 14 units a week.
Yes you have a problem and are drinking too much. You will probably deny it as as people with a drink problem usually do.
I am a child of a dad who was dependant on alcohol like you.

I could easily do this OP and I have in the past so don’t be too hard on yourself. I did start to feel like it is too much and so now I don’t drink at home in the week. I will have a glass if I go out for dinner but no wine is opened at home until Friday now. I feel better for it and I absolutely sleep better , but the cooking dinner glass of wine is the one I miss the most! Decompression from work etc.

It’s good you’ve started a thread, it’ll likely prompt change

This was me until Jan this year. My drinking had gone up and was a daily bottle of wine. Decided that instead of doing dry Jan we would not drink Mon-Thurs. I feel so much better and have cut down weekend drinking too. 7lbs lost as well - I’d put on 2.5 stone most of which I guess was wine related!! I started to stress that I was going to get sick and die early - I’m in my late 40’s and really want a lot more years with my kids. I grew up in a drinking house but that doesn’t need to define my drinking.

Three large glasses is the best part of a bottle. Say you are drinking 3/4 of a bottle a day, that’s the best part of 5 bottles of week which is a HUGE amount.

I love a drink. I’m really into my wine and craft beers and could easily drink every day. I don’t, because like you I have alcoholism in my family. And it’s SO easy to get suckered into the “oh just one more….” mind set. Then that one glass becomes a bottle, which is what has happened to you. I drink probably twice a week, and then it’s only a couple of glasses or a couple of pints. I don’t get drunk, drink water with it, and I’m fine the next day.

Replace the booze with something else at the time you reach for the bottle. I like an ice cold Coke, a smoothie, or even just a coffee. Most of booze is just habit.

It’s too easy to slip from one glass with dinner to half a bottle every night. I was heading in that direction and now stick strictly to Friday and Saturday nights only- no room for rationalising it away or making excuses. It’s so ingrained now that I don’t drink during the week I find it weird when other people do, and I don’t ever wish I could.

This was me too…
20’s was a decade of binge drinking on a night out, so once or twice a week.
30’s small kids so got in the habit of having a glass of wine in the evenings as tricky to get babysitters.
By my 40’s and Lockdown boredom it’d become a 2 or 3 or 4 (or more) glasses a night. Every night.
OP you don't feel drunk because you’ve built up such a tolerance.
I’ve gone tee-total at home, and just have a drink if we go out. There are fab zero beers and fairly palatable wines available now. And i feel much better for it!

Oh Bugga, Ive had a huge wake up call, thanks everyone. Did you find it hard to break the habit?