Why are some MN so vile?

[IsMNReallySoAgressive]

Some lovely people on MN.

However… I have been following a few threads tonight and I’ve noticed how unkind some people can be.

”My trauma was worse than yours so stop complaining.”

”Sarcastic or passive aggressive replies.”

Surely people are not this unkind in daily life.

Why do people feel they can speak to people so differently when they are not face to face? There is literally a whole load of people who lack empathy and common decency.

An OP is obviously upset/bothered enough to vent or ask for advice but the way some people reply is awful.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion and to offer advice. People need to hear opinions vastly different to theres, it’s how we learn and grown as humans. Do people need to be so vile in their replies telling people to get over themselves, their failing, etc. There is given advice and there’s just belittling people, being rude and making an OP feel worse about themselves.

AIBU to expect MNs to be able give advice, even if it’s not what the OP wants to hear, without insulting the OP?

@Recuperation7 very true and ive learned that theres plenty of wonderful MNs with great experience and good intentions. I just always remember I first found MN googling some information about breastfeeding and a thread from here popped up. It was full of women calling each other cunts and twats and I thought, well this is an interesting bunch. That first impression has always stuck with me😂

Agree it can be vicious and seems worse. I always wonder who these people are. I catch myself assuming some common ground as women, then I think posters may not be women, and even if they are, maybe women don’t have as much in common as we used to? Some comments are strange, or breathtakingly mean; might be a person suffering serious mental health issues or unhappy life circumstances. I had a lot of support over a racist incident I experienced, really appreciated that. But I’m taking a bit of a kicking over another post, regret posting it.