"Bimbo" - apparently I sound like one at work?

[Stressedgiraffe]

I've been thinking about this all week.
Dh overheard me talking to my manager (whole other thread) and when I finished announced that I sound like a 'Bimbo' .
Apparently I'm too friendly and laugh too much? So now I'm really doubting all my interactions at work.
I have a senior position and spend most of my days on teams. Is everyone else thinking that? What can I do about it?
How do I be less 'bimboish' or is dh just being a nob?

In OPs other posts she wrote that the vile man could easily WFH, but chooses to be a nasty slob, funded by OP.

Your DH is a misogynistic prick. He’s bringing you down by insulting your intelligence and work relationships. Also known as psychological/emotional abuse.

Fucking hell! I would not remain married to ANYONE that insulted me with such a sexist slur, he is very clearly aiming to ruin your confidence and take you down. He is jealous and contemptuous.

you know the phrase, who needs enemies with friends like that? Except in this case it's your husband!
Why are you with someone so horrible?
So you have a job with fairly important responsibilities and he doesn't work. He's jealous and trying to ruin your confidence.

Your husband sounds like a dick OP.

If your style was so bad how would you be so senior?

Abusive men do this to keep women subservient and unaware of their own worth. I know because exDh did it.

And giggly doesn’t auto = bimbo, we have a giggly MD who has a mind like a steel trap.

Waiting til the kids leave home is a very ill advised thing to do. I get why people think it's better but they may blame themselves thinking you stayed unhappy for their sake.

He’s a knob.

A knob from the 80s apparently. I didn’t know anyone still used that word.

Shall we do a compromise, we take my idea of film, yours of centipede and we just turn him into the human centipede with the other cack husbands?

And then we can watch legally blonde?

So he's an unemployable parasite who lacks even the common sense to be polite to the person who is paying the bills?

So he doesn't work and is trying to belittle you - what a prince.

Does he have any redeeming qualities?

I mean this politely but what on earth are you doing taking career advice from this man, actually considering if he has a point.

you must very either very low in self esteem. Or very in love. To think him putting you down out of jealousy, and in the context of his very unsuccessful working life, is anything other than abuse designed to make you feel shit and damage your confidence.

'He doesn't work ...'

And when he did he was criticised for swearing and the way he spoke to people.

He can work ... But doesn't.

He entirely leeches off you - a professional who is well thought of enough to lead two big projects.

The problem is, for those criticising op for continuing to inflict him on her children, that he could argue that with you in full time work and him at home, he is the primary carer so could get custody. He will continue to be a leech as everything she earns is co-owned by him.

Jealousy 🙄

@JFDIYOLO the kids are old enough to be leaving home in 3yrs, so ‘custody’ (not a thing in the uk) is irrelevant.

As is so often the case on MN, the updates make all the difference.

On first reading of the OP, it’s impossible to know if DH has a point or not. If OP is struggling at work, not being taken seriously, not given challenging tasks, and giggling and saying “silly me” in a little girl way all the time, flicking her hair, and saying “oh aren’t you clever” to all the men - well her DH would have a point. Changing her behaviour probably would get her taken more seriously.

However, the updates suggest that her DH is a bit of a waster, not working, not helping at home, was useless at interacting when he used to work, and OP is planning to leave him. Which of course puts a whole different complexion on the issue!