To have a pink sparkly unicorn bedroom.

[Downandout21]

I was so excited to have a DD, pink dresses, doing her hair, unicorns and rainbows.

Nope DD is now 3 and a total tomboy. Hates dresses as they are 'disgusting' hates pink as her favourite colour ìs blue and won't even bat an eyelid at a unicorn.

Going to decorate DDs bedroom and she has chosen a space theme, I have shown her lovely pink and purple rocket bedding and curtains, but no mummy it isn't blue. Bang, there goes my lovely pink bedroom, with white furniture, princess bed and rainbows.

AIBU to decorate my own bedroom in pink with unicorns and rainbows to make up for it 🤣

Read to the end of the OP. Her actual question is
"AIBU to decorate my own bedroom pink and sparkly to make up for my disappointment over my DD's preference for blue spaceships?"

I don't know how serious she is, but the answer is obviously "sure, go ahead but leave your DD to her own choices"

Im confused by you saying she "wouldn't bat an eyelid at a unicorn". So she wouldn't show any sign of surprise or worry over something unexpected happening? So wouldn't be bothered if a unicorn suddenly showed up? Is this not what you want?

My mum is like you, pushing girlydom onto innocent females who want no truck with that nonsense.

You do you and let your DD do her. That way you can both be happy. As others have said, a colour is just a colour and not a gender marker.

FYI pink has only been a girl colour for about a century. Before then, blue was the accepted feminine colour for centuries: it was the colour of purity and Our Lady.

Edited for spelling and addendum

And a glittery unicorn loving daughter is also a dream I'm sure.

Reminds me of when I was growing up I was 'strongly encouraged' to be a tomboy and my mum looked down on 'girly' girls. Suppose it's because males are seen as superior?

I have no problem with you wanting a pink/sparkly bedroom, do whatever makes you happy.

I have a big problem with this:

I was so excited to have a DD, pink dresses, doing her hair, unicorns and rainbows.

So you assumed that your DD would automatically want "pink dresses" and to be shoved into a series of depressingly retrograde sex stereotypes... and you wonder why your DD wanted to get away from being forced into a "girly" box. Did you automatically assume that any son you might have would be obsessed with football?

Do what you like. Don't force your children to be like you and don't make them feel they've disappointed you because they don't conform to these incredibly rigid and backwards ides.

OP not returned?

Well this didn’t go as planned did it OP?!

Good for DD.

Stop shovelling stereotypes down her throat and let her embrace her own choices.

I have a big problem with this

I was so excited to have a DD, pink dresses, doing her hair, unicorns and rainbows

Yeah, not a fan of that comment either - girls are their own person, I'm definitely more of a space one, and dinosaur one!
We're not all the same.

Absolutely. If you wanted a doll to play with you should have bought one. Liking blue things and space doesn't require a penis or a vagina so is fine for either sex.

Why? What's wrong with girly girls?

Not sure why OP is being blasted for calling her a tomboy. It's just a description that everyone (mostly) understands. No need to be offended. (though i always thought it sounds be tomgirl to be more accurate)

Get a grip she’s clearly meaning this light hearted

Yeah I thought that comment was a bit 'off' too.

I can understand where you're coming from, OP. My little girl LOVES pink and all things stereotypically girly, and it is so healing to my inner child to indulge it. I'm obsessed with buying her all the princess stuff that I always wanted as a kid. I've spent ages dreaming how I'm gonna decorate her bedroom soon. She will have to share the bedroom with DD2 in a couple of years (she's currently 7 months old), hopefully DD2 will like how pink everything is going to be.
I've found it so interesting how neither me or my partner have consciously pushed any of this onto her. She's 3 years old and she's only recently got into the pink girly girl phase. Up until recently we mostly dressed her in hand-me-down boys clothes but now she won't leave the house if she doesn't have a dress on.
Anyways, absolutely decorate your own bedroom! Tbh I like the idea of a space themed bedroom for my own bedroom! A certain Swedish furniture store has so much space themed kids stuff at the moment and it's all so cool!

You haven't said if you have a partner.,
What does he/she think about this?

As to your daughter... let her be.

I was like you, less about stereotypes but more that I assumed my daughter would love the glittery, Disney princess, pretty dress and t-bar shoe filled childhood that I did.

She hasn't worn a dress or skirt since she was 2, she plays football and wears "boys" clothes a lot of the time and her bedroom has been Harry Potter themed and is now football themed.

The floral outfits, tutus and headbands I forced on her as a baby are a distant memory.

I'm now immensely proud of her independence and her refusal to give in to the pressures expected of her.

Haven't been back on as too busy yesterday taking DD to football and swim classes.

I don't push her into anything, she will chose her own clothes, hobbies and when we where looking at pink curtains we where generally just going through Google looking at different designs for space theme bedrooms.

As far as DH is concerned, I could paint the bedroom rainbow coloured, change all the furniture around and add an extra window and he probably wouldn't even notice.

Then what's the problem?
Daughter gets what she wants, you get what you want. That's what people have been saying.

Because she's not any kind of boy. She just doesn't like pink and glitter.
Why does she need to be labelled?

@Singleandproud where did you get the bedding from? I love dinosaur things. I have Dinosaur pyjamas!

DD gets space theme. If your OH genuinely isn’t bothered, then - Yay! - crack on with a pink sparkly bedroom for you (and him).

One thing I have noticed though, having a girl that loves blue, space and Dinasaurs is how much everything is labelled boy / girl. So looking for a blue wardrobe will often be described as 'boys wardrobe' and again blue trainers will be under the 'Boys shoes'

Just out of curiosity is there a difference in shape in male / female shoes or is it just the designs??

Your daughter is not any kind of boy. There is no right or wrong way to be a girl. Girls are allowed a wide variety of interests, hairstyles and colour preferences

Not for kids,no. In adults yes then men’s shoes tend to be wider in the same size especially at the ankle and clothes are obviously cut differently