To have a pink sparkly unicorn bedroom.

[Downandout21]

I was so excited to have a DD, pink dresses, doing her hair, unicorns and rainbows.

Nope DD is now 3 and a total tomboy. Hates dresses as they are 'disgusting' hates pink as her favourite colour ìs blue and won't even bat an eyelid at a unicorn.

Going to decorate DDs bedroom and she has chosen a space theme, I have shown her lovely pink and purple rocket bedding and curtains, but no mummy it isn't blue. Bang, there goes my lovely pink bedroom, with white furniture, princess bed and rainbows.

AIBU to decorate my own bedroom in pink with unicorns and rainbows to make up for it 🤣

My dd age 6 has unicorn wallpaper, pink glitter paint, fluffy rug, sparkles and fluffy stuff as far as the eye can see in her room.

My dd age 8 has marvel wallpaper, dinosaurs everywhere, nirvana/slipknot/Metallica posters, a drum kit....

Neither are 'girly' or 'tomboy', they are both just my little girls who like what they like.

It's great that you're encouraging your dds space interests by decorating her room, go right ahead and indulge in your own interests and give yourself a unicorn room op ☺️.

Everyone should have the bedroom that they choose.

I say do it. Why the hell shouldn't you have a pink sparkly unicorn bedroom!

If you have a husband you should probably check he's on board though.

Space is a fun theme. One of my grandchildren has the star constellations on the ceiling and the Sun and planets on a large poster. The blue is deep and very relaxing to be in.
They also have an Earth globe light.

Underwater creatures and blue is what my friend's grand daughter loves in her room.

If you love sparkly unicorns then immerse yourself in them.

YANBU wanting a pink sparkly bedroom, decorate yours as you wish, sounds great!
YABU showing your dd those though when you know she's just not interested.
She's her own person, not you.
(I would absolutely love a space themed bedroom, always loved all that since little!)
Much rather a space bedroom than a pink sparkly one, I'm team DD 😁
Everyone's different

My dd had a space bedroom, a beautiful blue with stars and glittering pictures of planets. A keliedescope light which scattered stars all round the room. It was awesome.

And you have your pink sparkling unicorn palace. Then the two of you can both enjoy your new rooms and celebrate your differences!

I get that this is light hearted but yes, first response nails it. YABU.

This. I voted YABU, not for how you decorate your own room, but for how you talk about your expectations of your daughters interests.

I’ve got 3 DC (2 girls and a boy) and have a dinosaur and space loving DD and even a pink glittery princess wearing DD, but even she still loves dinosaurs and space because those things are cool and fascinating to a toddler. And my DS loves carrying round a dinosaur and a barbie. They’re just toys, stop trying to force stereotypes on her and let her be her own person.

Plus, there really aren’t enough women in STEM areas, encourage her interests.

Well done for belatedly realising that your tastes are yours and that the best place to exercise them are in your personal spaces, not your child's.
And actually well done for not enforcing dresses and sparkles on your DD. It sounds as if you've offered them repeatedly but accepted her "no" every time - so that's a lot better than some parents would have done.

Have your hideous bedroom, and I hope it gives you joy, while DD enjoys her spacey bedroom just as much. John Lewis have got a nice Outer Space theme.

She sounds like one of my ds's bf in elementary school. She liked science, they used to draw and pages of maps of the constellations in the sky. They camped in our yards and had all kinds of fun. praying mantis every summer.

Do you really believe that girls should like pink and sparkles and unicorns? And your first thought when you found out you were having a DD was ‘yay, pink pretty dresses!’ Not going to lie, I thought these kind of people were a dying breed but obviously not…

Stop trying to enforce gender stereotypes and push the idea onto your child that she ‘should’ want pink or purple bedding.

Since when does liking blue and space = tomboy?

Our 3.5 year old grandson wore his cheetah print fluffy jacket to ours the other day.

Thats one of the great things about young kids, they don’t care about all of this stereotypical crap, they just like what they like.

Paint your room however you like.

My youngest DD had the full blown pink bedroom at three, including bright pink carpet with sparkles in it, princess motif's on the walls, and glow on the dark unicorns on the ceiling. Personally it is not my thing at all, but it was her choice. She loved it for a year or so, and then hated it for a couple of years after that before we changed it. She now has everything blue, apparently it's a seaside theme, but also snoopy.

My eldest was never into pink in the first place. She's had a blue pirate theme bedroom from about 3 or 4, and now has a green jungle theme bedroom.

Do whatever you want with your own room, but you are being very unreasonable trying to steer your DD to choose your taste rather than her own.

I am sorry I didn't realise we were still in the 1950s? do i need to give my job back to a man? @Downandout21 if you want pink unicorns go ahead and knock yourself out but expecting your DD to like 'girly' things is massively unreasonable. each to one's own.

At that age my friend's dd was all into pink and ballet only would wear skirts etc. Forward a few years and it was like a switch went in her head. Hated pink and wouldn't wear skirts or dresses. Now in her twenties might wear maybe a bit of pink. Wears mostly neutral colours with the odd bit of colour.

Yes. Gender (as opposed to biological sex) is essentially sexist bollocks & the more children who understand that the better.

I suspect my sister would love your pink fluffy room though OP.

My husband wanted a son to play football with (not the only reason), currently my son doesn't like football. Dad's moving on and loving the kid he has. I had a blue room as a girl, blue is a good colour. You can have your room pink and fluffy if you want.

Come on @Downandout21 You know YABU! Let her have her amazing space-themed stuff. My younger DD did, and she went on to do a science related degree, and now at almost 28, she is in a brilliant 'science related' career and on £60K a year - outside London too!

Oh and have your 'girly' room by all means!

Absolutely, go all out with the pink and sparkles and make your room a place you really love being in.

But please be careful not to give your daughter the impression that you're disappointed by her tastes or that she's deviating from your norms by being herself. Sorry to sound like I've got a stick up my arse, but the constant subliminal messaging from wider society and the media is already so damaging to girls' developing sense of self, she shouldn't have to deal with it at home as well.

You can decorate your own bedroom however you want. I’m very “girly” myself. I love pink and dresses so I wear dresses most of the time and a lot of my own things are pink. But if I ever have a daughter I’m letting her choose the things she likes. Children are individuals and you can’t force them to conform to stereotypes.

It's her bedroom, let her have what she likes! I hated pink too and it would've been my worst nightmare having my mum force it down my throat.

Feels like half the posters have read only the title here and think it's the mums bedroom, not the daughters...

Thank you, @TheVintageMum and @quisensoucie . That kind of attitude is genuinely puzzling., 🤨

Read the op again.