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AIBU?

DH's hygiene

16 replies

CatHackney · 07/02/2024 18:57

I told my husband that not covering his nose when he sneezes (including in the kitchen!) and not brushing his teeth at the start or end of the day (possibly sometimes in the middle of the day) is unhygienic, off-putting, and just gross. He is angry and says I'm "needling him." AIBU?

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Am I being unreasonable?

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ButWhatAboutTheBees · 07/02/2024 18:58

Covering his mouth is basic germ prevention

Does he not clean his teeth at all?

CatHackney · 07/02/2024 18:59

He very rarely brushes his teeth - occasionally during the day.

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Pigeonqueen · 07/02/2024 19:00

Well that would be the end of any sort of physical relationship. 🤢🤢

Catsbreakfast · 07/02/2024 19:04

Assuming this isn’t new behaviour from him, you married him knowing he’s like that? The time to say something would have been at the start and if it’s a deal breaker, you should have walked away then. I mean it’s grim af but I can see why he feels bullied if the comments are 1) new and 2) constant. How come this hasn’t come
up earlier?

13Bastards · 07/02/2024 19:07

Is this a change in behaviour? Or has he always been like this?

KreedKafer · 07/02/2024 19:09

CatHackney · 07/02/2024 18:59

He very rarely brushes his teeth - occasionally during the day.

Wait, so he doesn’t brush his teeth at night either? He must have breath like bin-juice.

I’m not especially fussy about germs etc but jeez, covering your mouth when you sneeze feels like the bare minimum, doesn’t it? It’s basic stuff; you’re not asking much of him!

Depresseddentist · 07/02/2024 19:10

That’s just basic hygiene! Why are you putting up with him?

Quitelikeit · 07/02/2024 19:11

Why did you marry him if he doesn’t brush his teeth?

You'd have to be an arsehole to sneeze all over the worktops too

Est1990 · 07/02/2024 19:15

Disgusting!!!

How can you kiss him knowing that?🤮

Does he goes to the dentist even?

As for sneezing...same disgusting!

Please show him the responses on this thread

CatHackney · 07/02/2024 19:15

I raised exactly these points sbout "less than bare minimum expectations," and he just got angrier.

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OtterlyMad · 07/02/2024 19:16

Eww yeah I’m sorry but your DH is gross. And I say that as someone who will admit to not always brushing their teeth after a night out 🙈 so I’m not a priss by any means, but to go a whole 24 hours without brushing them… yikes!

xyz111 · 07/02/2024 20:29

I couldn't even sleep in the same bed as someone who didn't brush their teeth. Morning breath is bad enough anyway!!!!! Do you have any form of intimate relationship??

CatHackney · 07/02/2024 20:54

Thanks very much, all. I have indeed shown him the responses.

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xyz111 · 07/02/2024 21:00

CatHackney · 07/02/2024 20:54

Thanks very much, all. I have indeed shown him the responses.

And what did he say? Shamed into doing it hopefully!!!!

Nortono · 07/02/2024 21:01

He. Is. Gross

Nortono · 07/02/2024 21:01

Quitelikeit · 07/02/2024 19:11

Why did you marry him if he doesn’t brush his teeth?

You'd have to be an arsehole to sneeze all over the worktops too

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