To be upset at partner's mother's comments?

[saphirre]

My partner's mother is quite hard to get along with, she has quite a nasty streak but I try and make the effort with her for my partner's sake.

She is a keen sewer and goes weekly to a sewing group.
Quite often I have a lot of clothes and tend to donate her clothes (she asks) that I do not want to contribute for her sewing and sewing class.
Some clothes have never even been worn and have price tags on them.

Last night after my partner dropped a load of clothes of to her she apparently complained to him that the clothes smelt mouldy and were really smelly.
She was slagging me of questioning my hygiene.

I am really upset and offended by this.
If the clothes smelt mouldy then she should of told me instead of embarrassing me like that (as other people were there).

She never even thanks me for the clothes.
And its not like she appreciates anything either, she just expects things.

I have told my partner that I wont be making the effort anymore and to tell her not to ask for clothes anymore as I will just be washing them and donating them to charity.

Am I being unreasonable to feel like this?

To be honest if they were mouldy and smelly I don't think it's unreasonable that she said so to the person who brought them to her.

Surely these are clothes that haven't been worn for a while and probably been in a cupboard for a while so ye they probably don't smell very fresh but so what

I wiujdn’t bother donating in future.

Were they really smelly? I mean donating minging clothes isn’t good.

My partner said they had a slight smell but they had been in the cupboard for months/years.

Why does she keep asking for them if they don't smell good? If that was the first batch that didn't smell nice then wouldn't she just put them in the washing machine first before using them?

I think, though, that it's much more likely there was nothing wrong with them at all and she just wanted to be nasty.

You shouldn't be sending clothes that smell. If you are donating clothes with tags on and many that have been stored for ages, perhaps rethink your buying? Your cupboards must smell as well as the clothes.

Just stop sending them to her, give them to charity

and leave him to deal with his mother just go LC

Wow some weird comments.

Yes if they smelled mouldy etc I would have washed them first - but the mil sounds like an ungrateful cow!!!

Mil should have smiled and said thank you and washed them herself. Zero manners.

I suppose it depends on xactoy qhat she said and how.
"Phew, these smell disgusting- sapphire is such a dirty cow!" obviously not OK

"These smell musty- has sapphire's cupboard got damp somehow?" Probably OK

Personally, I'd ignore it unless t happens again. And it does sound as if your dp is a bit of a stirrer....

Its not very nice to send mouldy old clothes over op

Stop making an effort with her.

She ungrateful, rude and quite bitchy! Stand up for yourself.

Stop donating clothes to her.

Probably also worth checking the cupboard just to make sure there isn't damp in it

You should have washed them. You knowing they had a slight smell will smell worse to others as you're used to your house 'smell'. I would be mortified.

I wasnt aware there was a smell as I would of washed them.

Regardless if they did smell or not she could of addressed it privately to me instead of other people.

I have donated her clothes that have cost me money and never once has she thanked me, quite ill mannered.

Why make the effort? Donate them to charity (but not if they smell -wash them first).

Well I mean sending smelly clothes isn’t great either. Doesn’t matter who you give them to charity or her, they should be laundered.

Firstly, no she doesn’t. Her clothing habit is just fine and none of your business.

Same. What did partner do? Bring them back for you to wash?

No it's not. Why buy something, not wear it then wait for it to go mouldy and smelly before passing on?

Nothing wrong with buying things and not wearing them for years, or ever, to be quite frank. Her clothing habit is fine.

Why they are mouldy/smelly is an entirely different matter though…

She told your partner, the person bringing the clothes to her and who lives with you, there was a problem.
That's OK.

In front of other people - did she hold them up in a crowded room and go "phew these reek. Sapphire is such a slob everyone m"?

This sorry.

My SIL sent baby clothes over to me that were mouldy and had babysick on them. I told her straight though, didn't pussy foot around talking to others about it.

Don't give her any more clothes.