To be upset at partner's mother's comments?

[saphirre]

My partner's mother is quite hard to get along with, she has quite a nasty streak but I try and make the effort with her for my partner's sake.

She is a keen sewer and goes weekly to a sewing group.
Quite often I have a lot of clothes and tend to donate her clothes (she asks) that I do not want to contribute for her sewing and sewing class.
Some clothes have never even been worn and have price tags on them.

Last night after my partner dropped a load of clothes of to her she apparently complained to him that the clothes smelt mouldy and were really smelly.
She was slagging me of questioning my hygiene.

I am really upset and offended by this.
If the clothes smelt mouldy then she should of told me instead of embarrassing me like that (as other people were there).

She never even thanks me for the clothes.
And its not like she appreciates anything either, she just expects things.

I have told my partner that I wont be making the effort anymore and to tell her not to ask for clothes anymore as I will just be washing them and donating them to charity.

Am I being unreasonable to feel like this?

"She said 'the clothes smell awful, I wonder what her own personal hygiene is like'."

That's a nasty, uncalled for statement. If your dp, upon hearing that, did not defend you to her and everyone else there in very emphatic terms, you have a dp problem.

I dunno, I mean they did smell apparently her partner confirmed it, although he was nicer. Yes she could have been nicer about it, but she should habe declined to give clothes rather than give dirty clothes.