Trigger warning as this mentions a pedophile

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Trigger warning as this mentions a pedophile
This is a true ongoing case. Posted on behalf of a person involved who wishes to remain anonymous.
I will not say as to which side of this case they belong.

Please note that this has been extremely simplified, but the person involved would like unbiased opinions on who is making the right and/or wrong choice.

Real names have not been used, below you will see code names.

Mother (M)
Daughter (DD)
Mothers Best Friend (MBF)
Best Friends Husband (BFH)

Things to take into consideration.

Mum and best friend are very close and have been friends for many years (before best friend met husband).

Mum is a single mum to a young girl and older boy.

Best friend's husband would baby sit while mum had a break from the children and spent some time with best friend.

Last year, (DD) of 4 years old told her (M) something that was not right.
(M) acted upon what she was told and got to the truth.

The truth was that her (BFH) has done unspeakable things to her 4yo (DD).

When confronted the (BFH) admitted he had done wrong, so whilst the (M) made the call to the police, the (BFH) went and handed himself in.

Initially (MBF) was just as upset and angry as everyone else.

However after a few months things change and the (MBF) decides to stand by her husband believing he is just sick and will get better.

(M) had to cut contact with (MBF) in the best interests and safety of her (DD).

The questions here in all of this, although broken down and very simplified, is the (MBF) making the right choice risking her whole future, friends and family for her husband knowing everything he did?

Has the (M) done the right thing cutting off the (MBF)?

Please also note the police have and still are dealing with all of this. The victims' family are getting all the care and support they need and are doing well.

I can't comprehend how you as M must have felt when all this came out. Its so abhorent that I really struggle how bad it must be.

For your BF I would imagine the shock was off the chart as well. I can sort of understand if it was purely an allegation then she would think that can't be true, he'd never do that. I'll stand by him BUT once he admitted it I'm afraid that's where she most definitely should have drawn the line.

no doubt he is manipulating Her,
'I'm glad I was caught, I admit everything. I want to change and need support ' type crap. But still, how can anyone stand by that? knowing what he's done? Where does her mind go?

I know of a similar circumstance where a close family friend abused some of his daughters and nieces. He appeared a lovely bloke, pillar in the community type.

His wife stood by him, they initially fled abroad until he was arrested and is now in prison. She STILL stands by him.

One day she commented on a friends post on a local fb page. Then messaged her saying long time no see, meet for a coffee?This friend wrote back with 'under the circumstances I really don't think so'.
The wife replied ' Did people realise she didn't do anything? It's not her crime!'
Friend was gobsmacked . In no uncertain terms she told her that was true but her crime was standing by a paedophile who had raped and sexually abused children, including her own children.

She shouldn't have to live with the consequences of HIS actions, but she does have to live with the consequences of HER actions.

Thinking of you and your family x x