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to think that £500 a month is enough for a child at uni

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FunnysInLaJardin · 04/02/2024 20:39

we will pay his accommodation and his tuition fees will be paid, so this will just be for food and travel etc

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cloudtree · 04/02/2024 22:36

owlsinthedaylight · 04/02/2024 22:34

But that £10.5k max loan includes paying for a accommodation

Are you seriously saying that if someone’s accommodation and associated bills are already taken care of you think £500 per month isn’t going to cover food, phone and travel? That’s nearly £17 per day. It’s quite a bit better than pot noodles for dinner.

No, I’m saying it does cover everything. It’s what my dc has and is similar to all of his housemates. It’s about £16 a day. He doesn’t get it during the holidays, it’s term time only.

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TriceratopsRocks · 04/02/2024 22:36

We just top up DCs maintenance loan to the maximum (costs us £100/month), and grandparents give them about £100/month extra. They are both in Midlands so that does cover accommodation. One lives frugally, the other works during holidays to top up their income. It would be nice to be able to contribute more, but not possible.

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CousinGreg55 · 04/02/2024 22:36

Just because the accommodation is expensive (and £17k is crazy expensive) doesn't mean he will be any happier or have a better experience. The university owned halls normally have freshers week events and regular events. They would also be largely first years. Private halls seem to more mixed ages.

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Edinvillian · 04/02/2024 22:38

The loan covers our DD's rent but barely. We give her £230 per month, she had no travel expenses as we are in Scotland and she got a free bus pass until a couple of weeks ago when she turned 22.
She has a part time job if she needs anything else.

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TheTimeIsNowMaybeNow · 04/02/2024 22:39

It's fine as long as he knows how to budget and cook! The majority of them can work as well, mine still manages it and he works for the civil service so has restrictions on how often he can change his working days etc 17k seems really expensive for accommodation though

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cloudtree · 04/02/2024 22:40

multivac · 04/02/2024 22:35

I really am not. I have twins at university now. And I don't have a spare grand a month to give them. So they manage, well, on much less. In pricey cities.

Presumably they don’t only get minimum loan though.

£500 a month for us means we are roughly topping ds up to the equivalent of the full loan. That’s all.

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SecondUsername4me · 04/02/2024 22:45

cakeorwine · 04/02/2024 22:15

It doesn't seem to be

Our halls (brighton.ac.uk)

None of the Brighton Halls of Residence are over £9k pa. Which ones are you considering for your ds, OP?

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SaveUsernameHistory · 04/02/2024 22:45

TheChosenTwo · 04/02/2024 21:04

That’s what we send for dd. She’s in Bristol which is revoltingly expensive and she only gets the minimum maintenance loan which isn’t anywhere near enough to cover her accommodation so we pay towards that and send her £500 a month to live on. We pay for her phone and travel home when she comes back. Her car stays here as she doesn’t have any parking at her house but she doesn’t need transport to her uni and she’s only a 10 minute walk away. She’s in her second year and has a job when she comes home in the holidays which pays so well she could afford to go to Australia for 6 weeks last year and has already had a holiday this year - we could give her less but would rather she had enough to join in with stuff, she’s not got a massive group of friends and has had a bit of difficulty settling both years so don’t want her to miss out on potential outings because she doesn’t have enough money. She does go out a bit but not anywhere near as much as she does when she’s home!

Same, except my child has really struggled to find a job. They have applied everywhere and can’t seem to find anything due to not having previous hospitality experience. There were hundreds going for the same job including stuff like glasswasher.

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CousinGreg55 · 04/02/2024 22:50

SecondUsername4me · 04/02/2024 22:45

None of the Brighton Halls of Residence are over £9k pa. Which ones are you considering for your ds, OP?

They look really nice halls. Why would you want to pay 17k for private halls OP?

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FunnysInLaJardin · 04/02/2024 22:55

SecondUsername4me · 04/02/2024 22:45

None of the Brighton Halls of Residence are over £9k pa. Which ones are you considering for your ds, OP?

Abacus House

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weegiemum · 04/02/2024 22:55

My ds gets fees paid (Scotland) and a £10000 bursary (he's a student nurse, this covers rent bills etc). We take him shopping sometimes (he's local but living away from home) and he has a 2-evenings a week bar job to pay for socialising, rugby kit, transport). He has a car at home but can't park without a permit where he lives so comes home to get it for rugby trips and shopping. We pay insurance, he pays his own petrol.

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oefawefhoiEHF · 04/02/2024 22:57

Find it interesting people are doing allowances...my parents paid for my 30 week accommodation in termly instalments. I paid for everything else with my maintenance loan. From what i can remember my friends had the same.

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FunnysInLaJardin · 04/02/2024 22:59

CousinGreg55 · 04/02/2024 22:36

Just because the accommodation is expensive (and £17k is crazy expensive) doesn't mean he will be any happier or have a better experience. The university owned halls normally have freshers week events and regular events. They would also be largely first years. Private halls seem to more mixed ages.

BIMM, which is where he is going, dont have their own halls

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AliMonkey · 04/02/2024 22:59

DD gets £500 per month from us. We pay her tuition fees and accommodation (part-catered), she hasn't taken out loans (our choice). It is more than enough, ie I think we've been a bit too generous (it was a compromise between me and DH, I'd have given her less to encourage her to get a job, he'd have given her more), though she doesn't drink or go clubbing so that keeps the costs down, and she can walk most places she wants to go so transport costs low.

Many students have a lot less and survive, they just have to be more careful with their money and get a job, none of which are bad lessons for a young adult.

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WhyIOughtTo · 04/02/2024 23:00

oefawefhoiEHF · 04/02/2024 22:57

Find it interesting people are doing allowances...my parents paid for my 30 week accommodation in termly instalments. I paid for everything else with my maintenance loan. From what i can remember my friends had the same.

But he's not getting a maintenance loan, that's why she's asking.

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FunnysInLaJardin · 04/02/2024 23:01

cakeorwine · 04/02/2024 22:14

£17,000 not catered?

Are you sure?

Our halls (brighton.ac.uk)

Most seem to be £10,000 LESS than that

that is Brighton Uni?

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cakeorwine · 04/02/2024 23:02

WhyIOughtTo · 04/02/2024 23:00

But he's not getting a maintenance loan, that's why she's asking.

And maintenance loans vary - depending on parental income - so a lower loan is expected to be topped up by the parents.

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MCOut · 04/02/2024 23:02

CousinGreg55 · 04/02/2024 22:36

Just because the accommodation is expensive (and £17k is crazy expensive) doesn't mean he will be any happier or have a better experience. The university owned halls normally have freshers week events and regular events. They would also be largely first years. Private halls seem to more mixed ages.

I don’t think it’s necessary to spend this as long as there is clean, fairly new ensuite accommodation, but I agree with the above.

No matter where your son lives, he should make friends on his course, and they will invite him to pre drinks and events etc so he will still have a social life. Also some comments mentioned overseas students. Everybody will have different experiences, but I found that they were more than willing to make friends with locals and even the most wealthy tempered their spending on nights out so everybody could participate. I wouldn’t worry about that.

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FunnysInLaJardin · 04/02/2024 23:02

SecondUsername4me · 04/02/2024 22:45

None of the Brighton Halls of Residence are over £9k pa. Which ones are you considering for your ds, OP?

that isn't BIMM?

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FunnysInLaJardin · 04/02/2024 23:03

WhyIOughtTo · 04/02/2024 23:00

But he's not getting a maintenance loan, that's why she's asking.

yes, no maintenance loan

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DaffodilsAlready · 04/02/2024 23:04

FunnysInLaJardin · 04/02/2024 22:55

Abacus House

So the cheapest room there is 281 a week, which for 33 weeks (what my DD’s halls were if I recall) is 9273 which is not out of line with other halls. If you go for one of the private studio ones, which would raise the cost a lot, then your DS does risk being isolated, I think.

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cakeorwine · 04/02/2024 23:05
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oefawefhoiEHF · 04/02/2024 23:07

@cakeorwine @WhyIOughtTo

Yes was reading other posters. I got minimum maintenance loan so about 3k. I guess that was equivalent to about 500pm now.

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FunnysInLaJardin · 04/02/2024 23:09

cakeorwine · 04/02/2024 23:05

How do people who just get maintenance loans manage as the accommodation costs seem to massively outweigh the maximum loan cost?

Brighton Accommodation - BIMM Music Institute

I have no idea! even for 41 weeks the costs are huge. Since we are not in the UK it makes sense to do 51 weeks and not have to move him over the summer.

Massive faff!

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Spirallingdownwards · 04/02/2024 23:09

cloudtree · 04/02/2024 21:08

If accommodation is £17k then he’s clearly not studying in England so these responses probably aren’t the most relevant.

I very much suspect he is studying in London. Even in places like Bristol accommodation is £9-10k a year

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