I really don't know how to address lodger/loo issue

[Creeperofhabit]

New lodger of a few days. I went away for Saturday night, just got back and the loo looks as if the last person to use it had an aerosol mechanism on their arse. Pebbledash is an understatement.

She's a young (late twenties) woman who has had a pretty crap (ah, ha ha!) ) life and I was glad to give her a room to help her get back on her feet but there's no way I want this to be setting a president!
But I'm also a wimp.

What would you say to her?

YABU: ' Sarah,get up the stairs and clean that blasted too'
YANBU 'I don't know who's been here and you're welcome to have guests but one of them has made a right mess of the loo. Could you get them to come back and clean it please?'

( I don't know if it was lodger or if she's had someone over, she's in her room and I've not seen/heard from her since my return).

Precedence ffs. Autocorrect.

Gross.
Just tell. I couldn’t be dealing with other peoples 💩

I think you have to say that if the loo is in that state, it has to be cleaned.

I would text her just saying ‘Hiya, hope you had a good weekend. Would you mind cleaning the loo please when you have a chance? Thanks’ or something along those lines! Just so she knows it’s unacceptable to leave it in such a condition for future reference!

Ask her if she's OK, she is living in your house, she may be unwell, it could be vomit but she needs to clean up.

I’m kind of surprised you’re allowing visitors in your home after just a few days. Clearly it’s already an issue. You have to be totally clear. ‘Sarah, the loo has been left dirty, please can you clean it straight away and make sure this doesn’t happen again?’

I feel quite doubtful whether the arrangement will be successful, she doesn’t sound very house trained.

Just knock and ask her to clean the bathroom.

I'd just knock on her door and say 'hey the loo is a bit of a mess, could you clean it please - the cleaner is x and toilet brush (if u have one) is y, cheers' and breeze out.

Also, good point from PP she could be unwell. Check on her.

You news ro know I'd she has nobody or sickness so you can take precautions yourself. I'd go round the house with cleaner.

Just say... "Bit of an embarrassing one, but could you be more mindful of cleaning the toilet when you have used it please." Job done.

Thanks everyone.

I think I'll say something like what @Ace56 said. Maybe add in that I don't think it is her necessarily so as not to embarrass. I can't believe anyone can walk away and leave a lavvy like that! Didn't want to sit on it but was dying for a wee after a long drive.

And yes I'll ask if she's not well. Good point.

Don't say "when you have a chance", say "now".

“Sarah, just want to check that you’re ok as the bog looks like an arse has exploded in it”

Yes I’m fine - “oh good, can you clean the shitter then please?”

Yeah I’m poorly - “oh dear, hope you feel better soon but can you clean the shitter please”

🤣🤣 sorry but that first quote!

She coincidentally msgd me about something else, so I responded and told her about the loo and she said it must have been her brother. I was mistaken, she's not in her room she's at work, as she said she would sort it when she got home. Job done I guess. But still sort of wish I'd said this! 🤣

Susan you’ve - how shall I put this - sharted on, around and in the general vicinity of the toilet. I’m not one to complain but it looks like a misfire in the Nutella factory. Wonka would have Oompa Loompas on that in seconds darling, so would you be so kind as to scrape it up and get it shipshape again ?

This is amazing 🤣

I don't know, I juat find it so weird that someone could walk away from the loo after leaving it that way?! And surely you know if you've had a poonami?! I'm by far the most house proud of people, I'm quite messy in fact but I couldn't walk away from that thinking "Ah well. Left my shit all over someone else's loo. Ne'er mind".

Do you have bleach and a toilet brush In the bathroom on show? If not put them in there and she’ll get the hint.

I lived with a couple who often had their sister stay. I don’t know what she ate when she was visiting but they’d be out at work and she would be in there all day and I’d come home and the toilet absolutely stank and the smell travelled up to my attic room.

As I was the lodger I couldn’t really say much but it did encourage me to put my notice in and find somewhere else 😂

its important to be clear that their guests must respect the house and clean up after themselves.

Also If you’re a live in landlord I’d suggest you ask to be notified in future when they have any guests staying over . I’d always let my landlord or even flatmates know if I was having a guest overnight. Especially a male guest.

No toilet brush (I just hate them) but plenty of cleaning products just by the loo on obvious display. And if it were me I'd have juat wiped it with loo roll and soapy water if I couldn't find anything. Although touch wood I've never had 'Aerosol Arse' on someone else's loo😅

I get really cross when people refuse to have a toilet brush and then complain someone hasn't cleaned the loo after themselves. My toilet is always clean as everyone has a brush to use. The brush is clean as every week it is soaked in bleach (as is the holder as it's one of those slim plastic ones and it fits in the loo).

I don’t understand people who don’t have toilet brushes on the basis they think they are disgusting. It’s not as if you use it as a spoon for your cereal. It does it’s job to clean the toilet and then goes straight back into it’s little container.

😂😂

My daughter had a housemate who used to leave crap all over the loo and then try and blame it on anyone but herself. Very proud of my DD that at the age of 18 she called out the disgusting behaviour on the group WhatsApp. Shitter girl was raging but she clean the loo (but they're no longer housemates).